My gf said that I need more sex than she wants and says I should find other women to satisfy my needs. I told her I'd rather just have her, but she says she does not want it that frequently. I have a feeling she does not really mean it though and it would break her heart if I slept around. Anyone have a solution where I can be satisfied and not break my girl's heart?
The sex we have is straight up amazing and she is by no means frigid giving it up a couple of times a week. I prefer to have sex everyday or multiple times a day. The other parts of the relationship I'm happy with so I don't want to dump her just because I'm hornier than she is.
2007-05-24 08:39:21 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you're feeling is right - even though she said that, she may not have meant it. It may be best to "take matters into ur own hands" rather than sleep around.
2007-05-24 08:43:00 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Sarah K ♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that your girlfriend's suggestion is a terrible one. Your relationship is going to become much more complicated if you do have other partners, not only emotionally (women do equate physical relationships with emotional ones, and there's a good chance your girlfriend will become jealous), but physically as well (the risks of getting an STI are significantly increased with each partner you add). You should either have a monogamous relationship or nothing at all. (Though advice is hard to give when I don't know you, your girlfriend, or the dynamics of your relationship.)
You also have to ask yourself how important sex is to you. If you don't want to dump your girlfriend over this, then compromise and just live with the occasional sex. If you don't think you can be in a relationship with someone who doesn't want sex every day, then you shouldn't be in a relationship- but I suggest taking a look at your maturity before getting into another relationship if that's the case. However, it sounds like you've got it pretty good right now!
Good luck!
2007-05-24 08:52:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not every body's sex drive is the same. I doubt very much she mean it when she said you should find other women to satisfy you-- we all say things we don't mean. She would be devastated if that happened. You sound like a decent guy who will respect her. There should be more guys like you out there.
2007-05-24 08:44:45 · answer #3 · answered by DEBBIE G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She could desire to have picked that up from some action picture,or she is insecure. i've got been married for 22 years and nevertheless head over heels in love yet i dont think of i ever suggested that, sounds somewhat theatric..
2016-10-13 08:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand that once you cross that line, you can't go back.
She may say that it's okay for you to sleep around, but prepare yourself for it to blow up in your face.
Work on your communication. There needs to be a compromise that doesn't involve cheating. Maybe she could be willing to have sex more often and you can start masturbating more. Maybe she is willing to do things to you that don't involve intercourse. Whatever it is, you need to talk and be open and honest about your feelings.
2007-05-24 08:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by GirlinSac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take care of yourself! If you sleep with other girls she will be very upset and you will lose her. she may say it but she doesn't really mean it. She just wants you off her back begging for it all the time. You should actually feel very lucky that you get it twice a week. If you really care for this girl you will please yourself to ease the pain of not getting it whenever you want.
2007-05-24 08:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by LadyD1019 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry dude, most females don't want it as often as guys. One thing is you should be married to be having sex. Sex needs to be developed between two married committed people. It takes time and devotion to be right and good. Casual unmarried sex is not right and not near as good as married sex.
2007-05-24 08:46:11 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not a good reason to break up with a girl. No matter what she says it would hurt her to see you, or to know that you are with someone else. Don't fall into the trap.
2007-05-24 08:43:01 · answer #8 · answered by nice_guyminnesota 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds bad but you could get a sex toy named Gigi....It's not a doll but you should look it up and get one. I've heard it feels like the real thing so why not.
2007-05-24 08:44:20 · answer #9 · answered by the_wicked_itch_of_the_west 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she really doesn't want you to. no girl in their right mind would. she's just seeing if u would actually do it. enjoy the other areas of your relationship as well, it's not all about sex.
2007-05-24 08:43:51 · answer #10 · answered by special k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋