My Girlfriend and I have decided to become closer to God and refrain from sex while in our relationship. With the goal in mind of getting engaged then married.
So far it has been tough as there has been random arguements and stress.
Is this normal after making such a decision?
Has anyone that successfully stopped having sex with their partner here got married?
Did you run into more conflicts (not pertaining to sex) as a result?
How long did it take to start getting closer after the decision?
Thanks in advance for any guidance on this
2007-05-24 08:32:56 · 14 answers · asked by Jae431 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have to say Bravo for your decision! And let me just say that me and my boyfriend made this decision almost 2 years ago after we decided to have a closer relationship with God. It was not easy let me tell you! He was as grouchy as can be and always wanting to forget about it but I wouldn't give in and after awhile it got easier. Sometimes we fight a lot because of frustrations but a lot of people base their relationships on sex and when you take that away you base your relationship on each others needs in other ways. For example I feel me and my boyfriend have gotten closer without the sex because it's more of bonding that friendship first which builds the relationship. Sometimes I think he gets angry because it's been so long but he cools down after he watches TV alone for awhile or something. Also don't put yourself into a situation that could lead from one thing to another because it's very easy to fall short and make a mistake. We are actually getting married next weekend and I'm a little nervous and VERY excited and we give each other those little glances like "yes i can't wait!" and I mean two years is a long time and we did it (hard to believe we did) How long have you been waiting so far? Do you have a date of engagement or marriage in mind? just think that God will bless your efforts as well because you're doing this to please him! and always pray about it because since you are trying to do this to please God, he will help you with what you go through.
Trust me after awhile things will get easier and you will think about it but it won't bother you as much-as long as you both trust each other-if not you'll always be worrying!
2007-05-24 08:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by Kimmy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 21:49:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a great decision you have made!
Although its tough now, your relationship will DEFINITELY improve! In the end you will have made an even stronger bond with your girlfriend!
Best of luck, & dont give up, keep striving to be closer to God!
2007-05-24 08:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by Caribbean_girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You people get it wrong with the GOD thing. God created sex to have fun. If you are in a loving relationship and want to get married, then what are you waiting for? The right time. Look, relationships are hard with or without sex, and marriage doesnt make a relationship last. Love and patience and tolerence and understanding do. Sometimes you have to go thru the bad to get to the good, it's about boundries and cummunication, and compromise. Have sex and get married. Dont have sex and get married. Just figure what works for you. You can be close to GOD having sex.
2007-05-24 08:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by thirdeye67 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
My FH and I made that same decesion and yes it's hard because we were used to doing what WE wanted and not what God wants. Yes we have had our share of fights, but it's just Satan trying to get us so that we will think that it's not worth it. I know that of course we can't go back to the Garden of Eden, but we can stop our wrongs. Think of it this way: by stopping you don't have to worry about pregnancy. Fight the good fight. It will be worth it in the end.
2007-05-24 09:14:05 · answer #5 · answered by newsgal03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let go of your guilt.
I have searched and researched and cannot find evidence of a priest who married Adam and Eve.
If you want to abstain until you marry, that's fine. It does enhance the experience, provided the distance between decision and final countdown is reasonable. Too much and someone will stray and you have even more issues to handle.
Sorry not to answer the questions you specifically ask.
2007-05-24 09:00:43 · answer #6 · answered by rhapword 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
its not easy... but not impossible.
you will run into stress and problems regardless if you had the sex or not. just think of the blessings you will recieve from god for makeing this decision for the BOTH of you! =)
2007-05-24 08:38:24 · answer #7 · answered by heaven1904 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude whats the point ....you had sex before marriage why would you want to stop that, and you have plans of getting married .....this will only cause more stress on the relationship. Geeezzzz go f*uck her and get rid of the tension
If you want to get closer to god yuall need to join the mission.
what i mean is that if your going go all the way.
2007-05-24 08:40:22 · answer #8 · answered by videmoon 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I personally havent dealt with this, but my best friend and her husband did. It was hard at first, but after a few months they were happier and she said it was worth the trouble and the wait on their wedding night.
Good luck!
2007-05-24 08:37:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you-in the long run, it will be beneficial to all, and you will look back on this, laugh, and be glad you made this decision!
2007-05-24 08:41:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋