What do Men really look for in a woman when it comes down to asking them to be their wife?

Question

I just broke off an engagement last Sunday and the relationship last Tuesday. But the questions still lies in my head...

Answer 1

I am married, and these are some of the main qualities of why I married my wife:

--She's smart and intelligent, and we're able to have good, quality conversations

--She realizes that marriage is a two way commitment and we both do our part to contribute financially, around the house and with the kids

--She has/does get along with my friends and I get along with hers

--Both of our families get along pretty well


I could go on, but these are some of the bigger factors...

Answer 2

This is not a very PC thing to say, but you want the truth, I assume, so here goes: I believe that most guys look for someone who is domestically inclined and family oriented. No one wants to marry someone who is married to her career (might as well stay single).

I was once at a friend's party, and I was impressed by how her (female) cousin constantly helped her look out for the guests, and otherwise tried to be a good hostess in spite of the fact that it wasn't her party. I thought that this made her look kind, thoughtful, and considerate to her immediate family (as well as being a good hostess). It impressed me enough that I made it a point to introduce myself and tried to get to know her. It didn't work out because she didn't like me, but it was an effective tactic to get my attention, at least.

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And good conflict resolution skills. Someone who avoids conflict at all costs cannot solve relationship problems. Poor conflict resolution skills are the number one predictor of divorce.

Someone who is too timid to communicate directly -- that is, someone who just gives you the silent treatment when angry, for example -- is someone who cannot resolve conflict. I prefer outgoing, self-confident people who are not afraid to say what they really feel. Not only is this a good conflict prevention measure (being able to speak your mind when necessary), but is usually makes for a more fun and interesting person overall, because she has fewer social inhibitions.