I got a wedding invitation and on teh RSVP card it says "___ people attending." The bride and groom know I'm single and it doesnt say anywhere +1, so does this mean I can take a date or not? If they only want me to come why have it say # of people???
2007-05-24 07:39:51 · 35 answers · asked by luvmyarod 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am sure your invitation looks like everyone else's and has nothing to do with your personal life. This is neccessary on wedding invitations so the bride and groom can to tell the caterer how many people they will be serving and/or how many seats they will need. Hope you have fun.
2007-05-24 07:49:01 · answer #1 · answered by pwnd! 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The card says that because they send the same card to everyone they are inviting. They didn't make up a special RSVP card just for your invitation. Many people on the guest list will have more than one person in the household and therefore, more than one person per invitation. The way you know if you are expected to bring a date or not is by how the invitation was addressed. If it was addressed to "Jane Doe and guest" then you can bring a date. If not, then they probably have limited space and it would be rude to invite someone to come with you. Most couples try to seat single friends together or with people they know so that no one feels uncomfortable. The and guest part would probably be on the inner envelope that held the actual invitation itself. If you really aren't sure, call someone close to the bride or groom and ask what the general consensus on guest bringing is. Don't ask the bride or groom directly, though, because it puts them on the spot and then they feel like they have to say you can bring a date even if they don't have room for extra people. Maybe ask the bride's mother or someone who would be working closely with the guest list. However, its pretty safe to assume that if they didn't put "And Guest" on the invitation, you shouldn't bring someone.
2007-05-24 08:06:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This depends on how the invitation was addressed. If it was to your name only, then you don't bring a date. If it said your name "and guest", then you may bring a guest.
Remember that the couple may not be the ones doing the rsvps, so they need to know the numbers, whether a single 1 or a family of 5. You would just put 1 person attending.
2007-05-24 08:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone over the age of 16 years old should have received their own invitation, someone should have bought this Bride a wedding etiquette book before she sent out the invitations. In answer to your question . . No, you cannot take your boyfriend to this wedding UNLESS his name is on the invitation. When you take an uninvited person to a dinner you are asking your host and hostess to pay for the meal of a total stranger (and maybe they can't afford to pay for any more dinners or drinks at the bar). It is inappropriate to ask the host and hostess of an event if it is "OK" to bring someone with you. Do not adjust the RSVP, you are stepping over the boundary of a gracious guest when you adjust the RSVP card. Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2016-05-17 05:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the wedding invitation is addressed to Mr John Smith and GUEST then the Bride and Groom are inviting you "and your date." If the wedding invitation is addressed to Mr John Smith (only) than you are NOT permitted to ask someone (and it is not appropriate to call and ask them if it is OK to bring a date).
ALL RSVP cards are printed ______ people attending.
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant ? A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-05-25 00:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by Avis B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will depend how the envelope was addressed. If it had your name 'and guest' then you are free to bring a date. If it was your name only, then you should probably not bring a date without calling and confirming that it's ok. The response cards are generic for everyone invited to the wedding, so you would just put '1' in the blank for number of people attending. If you are bringing a guest, I would suggest you write the name of your guest on the card somewhere to make placecards, etc. easier for the bride and groom.
2007-05-24 07:43:59 · answer #6 · answered by leslie s 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I am planning my wedding right now, and I originally invited only 100, but it's gotten WAY out of hand with people wanting to bring their kids and dates and friends and such that were not on my original invite list. Please, for heaven's sake, ASK the bride/groom first, unless the envelope says "YOU + GUEST". It has a number line because they printed the RSVP cards the same for everyone, including those people who are bringing someone and those who aren't.
2007-05-24 08:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by sara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All RSVP cards has a spot for number of people if the invitation says your name and guest then you can bring someone if it says just your name then only you for a formal wedding informal then I would contact someone in the bridal party and ask before inviting anyone and tell the person with the jacked up name to answer stupid question if you give a stupid answer.
2007-05-24 08:08:27 · answer #8 · answered by Ms Drea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How was the envelope addressed? If they are allowing you to bring a guest the envelope will be addressed to you and Guest. If you are completely unsure and are friends with either the bride and groom I would contact them and ask for sure. Because if you write 2 on the response card and it didn't say you and guest they might be offended and think you are inviting someone at your own will. And if you aren't dating anyone I really don't think that it is proper to bring just anyone like a friend or something.
2007-05-24 08:08:06 · answer #9 · answered by LadyD1019 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All the RSVP cards say # attending.
Was the invitation addressed to Mr. So & So and Guest?
If so, you can bring a date. If not, you were invited as a single.
2007-05-24 08:11:52 · answer #10 · answered by whymewhynow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋