me and my bf have decided to get married, but i don't know what service to have, as his family are dubious about me as my mother has a bit of a reputation and they think i'm like that, could you advise me on the different sorts of ceremonies please !! serious answers only
2007-05-24 07:07:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This is really 2 issues.
One is that you need to get his parents out of your mind. No one cares about your mom. He is marrying you.
Your ceremony should be whatever you dream of.
I recommend elopement and saving the money for buying your first home. That's just me :)
Good luck.
2007-05-24 07:12:20 · answer #1 · answered by ignoramus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you will have family issues if you have a traditional ceremony, who sits where, what your mother wears versus his, etc., etc. My advise would be to elope and save the money. This way you can get married and have a big party after you get back with your friends. Besides, there won't be any drama with your mother at the ceremony.
2007-05-24 07:18:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, what about having a civil ceremony with a justice of the peace somewhere nice outdoors. And since you have family issues just have a select few present. Or just another couple to witness your ceremony, it is YOUR life and nobody else should make you worry about your day. The choice is yours. Good Luck and Congrats to you both ♥
2007-05-24 07:17:12 · answer #3 · answered by RdWazoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it YOUR wedding...and don't worry about what anyone thinks...your wedding days is all about you and your husband not about you your husband his family and their opinions of your mom....Do what makes you happy. I chose to have a shortened service (about 30 minutes) and it was beautiful...I don't know what religion you are but I suggest talking with your priest/pastor or the head of your church and they can tell you about the different ceremonies...the most important thing is to try and include your fiance...it's his day too so just ask him what he thinks and if there is anything special he wants said or done in the ceremony..for my husband and I saying the part about "with this ring I thee wed..." was important as was writing part of the vows and having a unity candle that the moms lit and a unity candle that we lit...just remember you only get one first wedding so make sure at the end of the day you are happy with your decisions and that your fiance is happy with the plans as well...
2007-05-24 07:18:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have whatever ceremony you want. Why doesn't your man tell them exactly how things are and why doesn't he stand up to his family and tell them they WILL treat you with respect, or he's out of their lives and they aren't coming to the wedding?
2007-05-28 07:04:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Church ceremonies, in a court by justice of peace, outside weddings, vegas.
2007-05-24 07:12:13 · answer #6 · answered by LadyD1019 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We just went to the courthouse by ourselves. You're getting married to be together and sometimes if the families don't get along it's better just to elope. (it's also more romantic)
Good Luck!
2007-05-24 07:12:42 · answer #7 · answered by summerB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you choose depends upon if you are religious or not, or if you or your bf belong to a certain church or denomination; of if you are going the jp route --- you have to decide between the two of you.
2007-05-24 08:43:11 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We flew to Maui by ourselves and got married right on the beach. We had it videotaped. It took a lot of stress off of us and our parents, I believe.
2007-05-24 07:18:45 · answer #9 · answered by live75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋