Ladies, what's the best way to approach you without leaving a bad impression?

Question

Guys are always attracted by some small (or big) detail in you women and we want to get to know you girls but often we make a bad impression. to you girls, what is the best way to approach you? at times it seems that we are only scaring you away, or that we're only looking at getting laid. us males might want to get ur # at times, but how can we avoid women to turn around and walk away?

Answer 1

Honestly my biggest turn off in the world is guys being so looks driven. Yes I'm attractive but a guy who walks up to me and thinks a compliment is saying something regarding how gorgeous I am, how those skin-tight jeans were making him aroused (yuck--why would i care to know that), some corny line intending to be deep that he thinks is original (your eyes are like windows to your soul and I could drown in them) or worse references sex! You are trying to make a GOOD impression. Telling me you want to go home with me is not a first impression. In fact, you've already informed that that nothing I say matters, not my character, my personality, my ambition--in fact you'd prefer a woman who didn't even talk but merely nodded. Why on earth would a guy think that is a compliment?

And those "original" lines about our eyes or being lost in our eyes--can guys not tell its obvious that you don't even know what COLOR my eyes are yet--how can you be drowning in them or seeing into my soul? You haven't looked up from my chest yet.

You don't know me. Remember that. You don't KNOW that i want to get out of here with you. I hate when guys assume the "know" what I want or think. Or comments on how hot I am. Sweet, beautiful, for some women even sexy are great--but if you use hot more than once, not only do you sound like Paris Hilton but you have proven that you are only interested in how hot I am and not in anything that actually is ME.

And my number 1 pet peeve is when guys interrupt--especially to say something dumb. First off by interrupting you've already proven you aren't interested but I've had guys tell me Not to worry my pretty lil head over that and that they are amazed when a women is both gorgeous and smart.

It's pathetic. You have insulted me--by explaining that you thought I was dumb when you came over to talk to me--and you think I should warp that into a compliment somehow?

If you are looking for a relationship and not a one night stand, dont approach a girl like you think the first time she meets you you should get physical. If you think that, why shouldn't she think you are a one night stand type of guy?

Thats the worst impression a guy can make on me.

You can get my number by asking questions that actually show an interest in me--my major, career, family--not if I work out or that my hair looks silky. Actually talking about you (your family, your career, why you wanted to be in that line of work)--not bragging about what kind of car you have and how your scored that touchdown.

I accept that guys have a wandering eye but if you are trying to get the number, don't scope other women. It's just a few minutes of devotion. If we can't keep your exclusive interest for 5 initial minutes, how do you expect us to relate that to a relationship with you? And please--no eye movements at your guy buds. When we reached into our purse for the cigarettes, I can promise you with 100% certainty we saw that wink, that hand gesture, whatever that you sent your buddy.

I had a date with a guy and he wanted to play 20 questions. You have to answer honestly any 20 questions, alternating people. So I'm asking him questions to really get to know something about him. Tell me about Christmas in your house. Did you always know you wanted to be a police officer? Are you and your brothers close? Every question he was asking me was Whats your favorite position? Do you brazilian? Whats the craziest location you've ever done it?

It was quite obvious before we even got dinner that it would be our last date. And the funny thing is--he called me 5 times. He thought the date went perfectly. He couldn't have possibly made it more clear that he wasn't interested in me.

Don't fake it--actually be interested. Thats how you can avoid women turning around and walking away.

Answer 2

Show that you're comfortable in a group setting; for example, if you're at a party, and you're talking to a girl you just met, don't try to lure her away from the group to be alone with her. It might seem a little creepy. If she's a friend of a friend, maybe someone will speak highly of you to her, and you could have the oppurtunity to hang out again. Make sure you're well read on current events so that you have an arsenal of thngs to talk about. And most importantly, be real!

Good Luck!
p.s. Asking women from different backgrounds and age groups is the perfect way to start! You're already on the right track!

Answer 3

We're living in an age where women can make the first
move and usually do with a smile, shy or otherwise. Catch
her eye, smile and in a split second you'll be able to see
if an approach is warranted. Learn to read the face. If
you see a spark of interest on her part, walk over, introduce
yourself with a full first and last name, a handshake and
a good long look in the eye. Then give her a business card
or one with your name and phone # on it. Then the ball's
in her court. If she never calls, you have'nt invested anything
emotionally and won't have to embarrass yourself in front
of anyone.

Answer 4

I can't speak for ALL women, but I can tell you what makes a definite impression on me. If I'm at a bar or nightclub, or even at the supermarket, and a guy comes up to me (obviously making sure I wasn't with any male-I've had guys hit on my in front of my boyfriend, that's a no-no, obviously), and just simply says, "Hello, I just wanted to introduce myself, my name is _____. I saw you and I thought you were____(insert compliment here. Hint: telling her she's pretty is usually the obvious reason, and most women know this. Compliment a book she's reading, her smile, ask her if the spaghetti sauce she got is good, etc.)." Most women are responsive to polite, gentle conversation. When guys say "Chhhhht, hey, what's up?", all you're gonna get is a disgusted look on my face, followed by a few choice words. Also, don't kiss on the hand. That's gross and way too personal. Shake her hand, make eye contact and most of all SMILE!

Answer 5

First of all, dont just walk up and ask a chick for her number. Most girls are smart and wont give their number to some guy they just met. If you see her around every once in a while, always stop and at least say hi. Find something in common and expand from there and THEN go after the number. Otherwise, she may think you are a stalker.

Answer 6

women for the most part do not like overly aggressive men. We hate the standard pick up lines - "Excuse me, do you legs hurt, cause you been running through my mind all day..."I must have died and gone to heaven cause I am surely looking at an angel"
Once I had the flu and I know I looked horrible while I was waiting for my RX. This guy had the nerve to tell me I was the most beautiful lady he had ever seen.
I was like "yea right!"
Personally, I prefer honesty. If my eyes are what got your attention, say so. The most successful approach was when a guy at church told me he had been observing me for three years and was just getting up the nerve to ask me out....
He turned out to be a creep but I loved his approach.

Answer 7

A guy who's too cocky and forward is a big turn off but a guy who's too shy to speak is also a turn off. Somewhere in between is a good thing. If you genuinely sound interest in what we've got to say and are flirting in a nice way not too flirty like looking straight down out tops then you should do find. Genuinely nice guys are never a turn off.

Answer 8

FIrst thing that is really important is to be yourself! Women like men that are not fake and for me personally I like a sensitive man. I think there are a lot of sensitive men out there but they are to macho to admit it. Also, if you get rejected by a woman don't forget the old saying "there are lots of fish in the ocean"

Answer 9

i think the best way is to just make a small comment....for example if you at a bar/club and she ordering a drink say something like "its real busy/slow in here tonight" if she just says "yea" and walks away or turns her head after...she's not interested....but if she starts to talk back...that's a hint that she may be interested...at that point you can start to have a small conversation and then maybe ask her to dance (if you do dance) or buy her next drink or something...but do not just jump in and ask her for her number.....I'm one of those girls who HATE giving my number out (even if i liked a guy!) I'd ask for his and then call him if i was interested...but that's just me.

Answer 10

i know it's a cliche but...just be yourself. don't try to put on any mask like being macho or suave or rich or hip or anything that is not you. women will know you are putting up a front. trust me...we will know! Most of the time those who are faking it are the ones who are only trying to get women on a one night stand. it is always obvious. if your are honest about who you are, it will show. it will show vulnerability on your part and women love that. it will show that you were honestly just trying to get to know her.