could you ever forgive your partner if they cheated on you?

Question

would you consider staying with them after you found out?

Answer 1

no, once a cheater always a cheater.

Answer 2

I could and I did. My wife had an affair with a co-worker. It was devastating. However, if the relationship means enough to you, you should work it out. Cheating is not the end of the world. Anyone who says "once a cheater, always a cheater" doesn't quite understand human nature. Have you ever told a lie, even a little fib, to your partner? How is that any different? By telling a little white lie you are telling your parter you can't be trusted, and that is no different than cheating. You need to examine the relationship as a whole, not just at this one time break in trust, and decide if you yourself can move beyond it. If your partner is sincere in an apology, you need to decide if you will let it go. If you can't, move on. If you think you can, then you need to truly let it go and move on. That doesn't mean you necessarily forget, but you forgive and don't hold it against your partner. Ever. Truly ever. Good luck. It hurts, but it doesn't mean the relationship has to end.

Answer 3

I think this is not a question that I can answer with a simple "yes' and "no". There are different reasons why a partner has an affair. Maybe I could be responsible for his cheating behaviour. A tree doesn't fall down by itself unless it is rotten from within.

I think I would not tolerate a partner who has no respect for me, our marriage and the other woman but will try to understand what went wrong if the affair wasn't the result of deliberate cheating.

Answer 4

The question really is could you forget that someone cheated on you?? You can forgive anyone for anything but you need to make sure that if you forgive a person that you will forget about it because usually you will think about it so much that it will cause u to either leave the person or just plain and simple go nuts

Answer 5

My first husband DID cheat on me. He cried when busted, and was oh, so sorry. I forgave him, but, in time, he did it again. Along with the forgiveness, there has to be something else.......a genuine SORROW from the spouse. If they are NOT sorry enough to GIVE YOU THE SPACE to be angry, cry, yell, and work on forgiveness, then they are NOT genuinely sorry. Many people think "GET OVER IT!" But, it canNOT be gotten over in a day, or a week, or a month. The cheater has to PROVE themselves. They have to EARN your trust again. Forgiveness, and a long happy life together ARE possible, but, only if BOTH parties are willing to WORK at it. Forgiveness is a process. It cannot happen overnight.

Answer 6

I can honestly say that I would forgive my partner if he cheated, but I don't know if I would necessarily trust him after that. It would take a LOT of soul searching and we would have to build up the trust again.

I would be difficult, but I would try to make it work. However, I would do that because we have been together for 10 years and have a child. If I weren't married, I probably wouldn't try so hard. lol

Answer 7

Depends on what kind of cheating. I could manage a kiss or making out. Its a mistake and sometimes the moment gets in the way or your just in a wrong state of mind. But sex? No, I would never forgive.

Answer 8

You can always forgive, but its forgetting that gets in the way. The thing is that you can't never trust the person who cheated. You better off not going backwards. You will say you forgive, but in the back of your mind you will always wonder where they are at?? It's up to you if your ready for that mental stress.

Answer 9

I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years. I was only 15 when we met and he was 19. He cheated on me twice in the first couple years and I forgave him both times, because he was young and I knew it was just a physical thing with the other girls. Plus they were fat and disgusting as hell... absolutely NO competition for me whatsoever. I also know that he truly loves me and I love him and couldn't bear losing him over stupid mistakes. Some people would judge my decisions but most people, even married people, don't have the strong relationship that we have.

Answer 10

I have forgiven my boyfriend when he cheated on me and that was after i found out, after hours of crying and ranting to my friends (and popping his tires). we decided to work it out. I think the only reason why i forgave him was because i was in love and completely blind. otherwise he would have been out of my life forever. i had a boyfriend way before him that cheated on me, but it didnt affect me like this one did and i basically cut him out my life. when this happen i like cut 2 lifelines from my life.

after things were never the same, trust was pretty much shattered to be frank. we moved into togther to ease it a bit. which was probably a mistake because the lack of trust still was obvious and we moved out. still stayed together though.

i just recently broke up with him because we have been arguing more than ever because we cannot seem to communicate properly. but to answer your question, i have done it. amazing. to this day i admire myself for doing something that i never thought i would do

but had i had advice like some of the answers here, i could have spared emotional breakdowns. i am a different person since i entered the relationship

Answer 11

My motto is "Never go back" which I always follow. Once my partner cheat on me then it tells me that he don't want me anymore. So no, I would never go back or forgive him because once you forgive and takes him back; that tells him that you would be easy to cheat on since you took him back and forgive him.

I know this by experience and once I realized that he cheated again thinking I would take him back and forgive him; I dropped him and promised myself never take any man back as soon as he cheats and lie.