We R married for 5 years. ours is love marriege.I am studying with his support. he supports me every where V have lot of love for each other. But still in most of the situations V quarrel for simple reasons it's not a small quarrel it leads to a very big fight where some times he also hit me with whatever he gets in his hand at that time he will not think about anything he just hates me.At that time he belives that i have spoilt his lifeby getting married to him. after we got engaged he lost his business After our marriege he worked in 4 to 5 companies & was leaving the job because of co-employee problem. then he was unemployed for some time.AT that time he was totally depressed so all the bad things happend that was ok.But now he is working in a very good company &he is also happy with the job.but some time the same old things are happening &he is not satisfied withme..our sexual life is also not good from 4 years.we dont have kids. i was pregnent but had a missed abortion in4th mnth
2007-05-24 06:11:16 · 11 answers · asked by priya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This is NOT your fault and your problem. If he thinks you have spoiled his life, tell him how he can fix his life (by you walking out of the door!) Him hitting you shows your marriage is NOT a love marriage and it will only get worse. He is so depressed he blames other people for his lack. There is NOTHING, I repeat, NOTHING you can do to make him happy. He has to be happy within himself first, which he isn't. He will only blame you and everyone else around him. The hitting WILL get worse! Get out of there while you still can. This is serious. Get out!
2007-05-24 06:18:37 · answer #1 · answered by Rainer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks to me that he is very frustrated and depressed. Comunication is the key to a good, happy relationship with your partner. If you don't communicate in any other way than fighting, that is not good.
Also is he hits you don't stay in a relashionship like that for too long, you guys don't have kids and you should count your loses before you lose your dignity and life.
Seek some profesional help, like marriage counseling. It might be just the frustration that he feels that is bringing everything out, the hitting, cursing, yelling, etc.
2007-05-24 06:23:33 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1] use birth control - do not get pregnant by this man at this time!
2] you both need counseling. Never, never hit or be hit. This includes shoving, pushing, slapping, punching, etc. NEVER!
3] go to a counselor and learn to deal with issues, and learn how to fight fair.
Small quarrels should stay small, not progress to fighting matches.You both need to learn to control your anger in a positive way [ you will still get angry, but will not cause permanent damage to your relationship ].
4] if he refuses counseling, get out. Domestic violence only escalates without treatment.
2007-05-24 06:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by Nurse Susan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand the comment about your ages. I hope you dont feel he is too old for you. Most quarrels are usually about nothing, and then everything else is brought into them. As far as hitting you, i dont think he should touch You even if you are the biggest screwball around. I feel that there is alot more than you are telling us.. Why does he blame You for ruining his business?.
I really dont think you two should even be together.Please explain to me what a missed abortion is?
2007-05-24 06:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by Dragon'sFire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be in a marriage where your husband disrespects you like this and hits you all the time. You need to talk to eachother and communicate about your problems. If he keeps hitting you and disrespecting you the best thing to do is leave him because you deserve better. No one deserves this kind of abuse from anyone. And you are still young.
2007-05-24 16:23:04 · answer #5 · answered by TJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 23:29:36 · answer #6 · answered by kurihara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you want out of the marriage. I have known my husband for 15 Years know and there is a 9 Year age Gap between us. You know there are laws laws I'm sure where you live that PROTECTS YOU from being ABUSED!! Its not healthy for you get OUT!!
2007-05-24 07:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by motherofbjz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I, too, would suggest counseling for both of you. He needs to respect you, and you need to earn it. Either way, the hitting needs to stop.
2007-05-24 06:28:36 · answer #8 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key to a successful marriage is putting your spouse before you in all situations.
2007-05-24 06:19:06 · answer #9 · answered by waffles 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You do not deserve to be hit. Please talk to him about this behavior and insist he get counseling. If he is unwilling to get counseling you need to get out of this situation NOW.
2007-05-24 06:18:34 · answer #10 · answered by LB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋