is my son being molested?

Question

2 weeks ago when my 3 yr old went to visit his grandparents he was not drawing male gentaila. 1 week ago my mother in law calls and say he is drawing penises. HE never drew that when he was w/ me.Is he being molested And are they doing it?if he was being molested why would he just out of the blue start drawing such things. Could this problem be caused at home or up there
please help[ me ,i would kill someone over my son

Answer 1

I have a 3yr old. He has not drawn a penis, but I can tell you that he knows what a penis is and he shows a fair amount of interest in it. This could be your child's way of representing what he has recently discovered about himself. I, like the others, don't know if this is cause to suspect molestation. If it is molestation there should be more clues. However, at 3yrs these might be hard to see. My suggestion is that if you have any suspicions, even the smallest, you should investigate further and maybe seek the help of a professional. It's better to be safe than sorry.

Answer 2

OK this is kinda hard, first before anything have you seen the drawing? Does it really look like a penis? If so is your son using the bathroom yet? Maybe he is drawing his own, not knowing it is bad, but make an appointment with his doctor so he can look at him and see if this is really happening. If not then maybe you need to find out if your husband/boyfriend is watching porn or something and maybe he saw it, and again does not know that it is a bad thing. Do you have an open door policy as potty training? That could also be where he saw it, maybe he even walked in on his grandpa going to the bathroom. It could be a number of things if its not molestation. I do understand your fear, with so may perverts out in this world one can not only help but to think of the worse.

Answer 3

on an identical time as that's stable to be vigilant against molestation, it is likewise significant to no longer come to faux conclusions. there replaced right into a case at present the place a guy killed his neighbor because of the fact he thought the neighbor replaced into molesting his daughter (yet he certainly wasn't). besides, because of the fact the youngster is barely 4 months old, i anticipate you think of he's being molested because of the fact which you have stumbled on some sign of harm or some thing? purely make helpful that it is not in basic terms some frequent rash or some thing, pass to a doctor. I additionally anticipate you think this because of the fact which you your self might have been molested through an identical kinfolk? if so, verify you get some help and get the guy to blame to stand the police. Molestation isn't some thing you may forget approximately approximately because of the fact different young toddlers are going to be victimized till the guy is stopped.

Answer 4

Have you seen the drawings? Is it really a "penis?"
If it is..i suggest you take your son to his peditrician & maybe he(she) can determine if he is beong molested!!! Dont make any accusations until your sure. I also suggest talking to your son...ask him where he saw that (what he's drawing) also tell him that those are his private parts & NO ONE is to touch him there & if someone does then he needs to tell you or your spouse. Assure him that he wont be in trouble if he tells. If in fact he is being molested dont take matters into your own hands. What would your child do if you went away to Jail or prison. I understand thats your son & i myself have a 19 month old boy & would do anything for my son. But "killing" someone aint the answer.

Answer 5

You need to just have the talk that no one can touch your body etc, do it calmly and then at the end say casually, has anyone ever touched your ____ whatever you call it, or have they ask you to touch theirs. He could have also seen a porn magazine, I am not sure how unusual it is because he has a penis. I would try talking to him when you are alone, and make it clear to him no one can do that or ask him to either. Also tell him you would not be mad at him etc if someone does. My grandfather molested me and told me my parents would be mad and hate me for it so I never told, reassure him that you would NEVER be mad no matter what the abuser said.
I don't think it means they have abused him, it may just be something that one day he thought of drawing. But ask him and I ask my kids a few times a year when we are alone. And stress that no one, I even say, not mommy, not daddy, not teachers, no one but themselves may touch there.

Answer 6

he is a boy, but somehow i dont think that is where hes seen this??? i believe maybe a child could have drwn one in front of him or put him up to it, is there any kids he is around that are lik 9-12 years old, they seem to be fasinated by drwing penises? well, if he was molested, he'd probably say something rather than draw the picture, talk to him aboput it and ask if anyone touches him "here" and point and explain ask where he saw the picture he drew and he should be able to tell you.

Answer 7

First, you should take your son to his pediatrician for an examination. They are professionals and most times can tell if the child has been molested. Second, if his doc cant find out anything, try a child psychologist they have ways of talking to children to find things like this out too. If you think your sone might understand then you should try to ask him. Hes 3 so he might understand he might not. Until you find out something I wouldnt let hime go back up there. Good luck and god bless!

Answer 8

well heres what i would do sit him down get a snack a drink make it comfortable bring paper and a pencil have him draw it calmly ask hunnie what is that whered u see that at.. if he doesnt wanna answer u tell him u can keep a secret to get his trust tell him a secret doenst have to be a BIG one or it could be... then he can open up and tell u where this came from if he is being dont freak infront of him.... just say ok baby this is wrong im glad u told mommy we arent gonna let them hurt u anymore then contact police etc.. family members and treat ur child nicly dont let him hear ur rage b/c he will think him telling u made u sad and love him less....

good luck and i hope this is just something he saw on tv then being molested:(

Answer 9

First, take a deep breath and think about what you are saying (or thinking). You are implying that he has seen your father or father-in-laws penis - is that possible? Is there no father or husband in your house that he could have possibly seen unclothed? Kids draw many things while they are learning to write and/or draw. For a child to draw a recognizable penis is quite remarkable. It's worth looking into, but you need to do so calmly, and with a level head. There may be a logical answer, but then again there may not. Someone may have let him watch porn, or worse, they may have exposed themselves to him. I sincerely hope that he's okay, and you figure it out and shield him from further exposure.

I truly wish you peace!

Answer 10

I do not believe you have offered enough to suggest molestation, a very serious charge indeed.

Drawing anatomically unique features seems pretty normal in toddlers about your son's age. Hair and bellybuttons are also distorted and wildly represented in most children's drawings. Of course, these do not draw the same attention to adults as depictions of children's sexual organs.

Unless you have witnessed more behavioral changes that seem out of the ordinary, I caution you about your conclusion. Moreover, be especially aware of your reaction. While your emotion is quite understandable, please reflect first on your child's needs and not your own potentially vengeful ones.