2007-05-24 06:03:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
been there , tell her times up . You are a adult , no one has to answer for your actions but you.
2007-05-24 06:07:03 · answer #1 · answered by srstephens 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you still live with her? If so, she feels that she has every right to control your life, even if it not so. At the expense of upsetting your mom, you are going to have to tell her in no uncertain terms that you are an adult and that you would like to live your own life and make your own mistakes without her trying to protcect you from that. If you enjoy the torment of your mother trying to tell you what to do, then by all means, continue on with that horrible torment. But, if you really want your mom to cut the apron strings, you have to tell her and then be willing to put up with the guilt game that she will play on you. She will treat you like the lowest form of dirt and she will try to put off all of this guilt on you, until you cave in and go back to her controling ways. However, if you can withstand the guilt trip for an extended length of time then your mother will see that you have truly grown up into the adult that she has been training you to be, and she will stop her torment and guilt trip.
good luck and good guilt trip blocking.
2007-05-24 13:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by Forever Looking 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think that its that they try to control our lives...its like someone else said...they don't want us to make same mistakes they did and they want us to succeed...nothing wrong with it...my mom does the same thing...the thing about it is...have u ever done something...opposite of what ur mother said...and later on u find out she was right....that will and does happen a lot...take the advice that u can while she's still able to get it...it can be overwhelming at times and feel like she's trying to "control" you, but thats not what her intentions are, she just wants the best for you...:-)....nothing wrong with that...good luck....
2007-05-24 13:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by ro19_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll be 50 on my next birthday and My mother is 85 and living in a nursing home.
She still tries to control my life.
2007-05-24 13:17:02 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but you should be happy you mother is trying to help you guide thru your life. Do you know how many kids do not get attention from their mothers because mom wants to live her own life. She has a responsibility and that is you and she is not gonna rest happily until she sees you succeed. ANd if youre friends talk about your mom that is just because they are jealous. and i promise when you are a succesful person in life your mom will leave you alone.....
2007-05-24 13:07:02 · answer #5 · answered by QueenMary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many parents want to have imput in their children's lives. I am now 30 but I use to go to my parents for advise on everything. What car to buy, what house to buy, do these Jeans look good and so on. So I set myself up... I gave my parents too much power in my life. So now, when I buy a new are, I just drive it up in their driveway and wait for them to say, "you got a new car". And my husband and I bought our second house and then showed it to my parents. I have put control back in my life!
2007-05-24 13:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by boohoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine does. She used to be real controlling but she has slacked off lately. I'm in my mid-late 20's. But I have kinda gotten used to it.
2007-05-24 13:06:18 · answer #7 · answered by gizmo0013 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
moms will always do that. til the day you die. i dont even live at home anymore and my mom is always asking what im doing where im going who im with. i just learned to ignore her and deal with it. i guess its a mother thing
2007-05-24 13:09:23 · answer #8 · answered by cole33x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol.... My mom died last year, but I was 38 at the time. She STILL liked to give plenty of input into what I needed to be doing.
Enjoy it while you have your mom. You'll be wishing for her input later. :)
2007-05-24 13:06:13 · answer #9 · answered by nite_angelica 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 40 but did that until i was in my 30's, now we do not talk and it is the best time of my life.
2007-05-24 13:06:29 · answer #10 · answered by native 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋