Why do people still think that women need someone to wait on them hand and foot? People keep saying "omg, the man should pay!!!" Are you living in the 50s, people?
2007-05-24 05:43:19 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's no reason for you people to be rude. women who don't want men to pay for them aren't "dykes" or being whores, and guys who don't want to have to pay for someone else aren't cheap bastards. Grow up.
2007-05-24 05:51:55 · update #1
Face it, most American women are brought up to expect that somebody else is always going to foot the bill. I just don't understand how they can justify that one day and then be out complaining about the 'patriarchal society that's keeping them down' the next.
2007-05-24 05:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by J D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I'm appalled at the answers here. But, of course, this IS a public forum, and to find what you want, you'll have to rifle through all the crap.
The reason people still believe in this is because the inherent sexist views that we (supposedly) left behind long ago are still there, woven within the minds of the feeble and the informal rules of mass society. Both men and women are at fault. Women? They allow themselves to be treated like the 'fragile' members of society, and then they demand equality? And men? They push forward the view of women's supposed inferiority, and continue to treat women like the lesser sex.
I'm not saying all men and women are like this. And more importantly, I'm not saying you should find the other extreme, and curse men for holding a door (the most common stereotype I've heard about feminists). Or women. I have a female friend (a teenager, no less) who, instead of taking that route, makes sure to hold open doors just as much as a man, or any human for that matter, would in the same situation.
If you choose to keep your views, so be it. It's your right to have them. However, I will never be able to follow why someone's life is so easily determined by the circumstances of their birth.
2007-05-24 13:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well personally i am a moody woman & i'm not implying dat all women r moody i'm just saying @ times i tend 2 b moody! ok now dat we have dat established i think da problem is communication, he needs 2 ask what u prefer b4 the situation arises whether it's holdin open or a door or paying 4 a meal or movie just talk about it with him don't expect him 2 read ur mind! eventhough were post 2 b in this new age of enlightenment where men let us fend 4 ourselves it is nice & refreshing 2 b treated like a lady every once in awhile! plus talk 2 the person & treat them da way they want 2 b treated don't get caught up in all that political correctness cuz u could make the wrong assumption- we r all people & we all need 2 b treated the way we choose 2 be so talk to whoever u feel has offended u ,but let others b entitled 2 their rights & opinions without trying 2 put ur beliefs on them! open ur mind!!!
2007-05-24 13:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by bonbontaj007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. A man shouldn't be expected to wait on their woman hand and foot and pay for everything. It is nice to do in the beginning when u first start dating...but after awhile..u should not be expected to do those things. Things are too expensive...its alot of stress on the guy to have to fund all the activities. I believe in 50/50. U pay for one thing and the women should pay for something else. Thats the way it should be. Why should the guy have to carry all the burden
2007-05-24 12:52:57 · answer #4 · answered by willow8975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think men should pay all the time or necessarily have to wait on their woman hand and foot...but what's wrong with being a gentleman. Opening the door or pulling out a chair is a respectful gesture to do...for any woman, young or old.
2007-05-24 12:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by justasking 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
old mentalities take a long time to die out, providing all the services for a woman is still considered romantic and showing that you're worth pursuing, even if it's only for your pocketbook, a classic tactic to be used in place of many shortcomings. Some of these things are even hardwired into brains, like men who don't know why they do it, but they stand closest to the outer edge of a sidewalk, this is to be the one hit in place of the woman when a car jumps the curb, but that doesn't happen all that often anymore, and most guys still don't know why they do it.
2007-05-24 12:52:24 · answer #6 · answered by Cory W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't expect a man to pay all the time, I can do it too, but I would at least like to see that his intention is to pay always. And yes, I do expect him to be a gentleman and hold doors open and do what men in the 50's did.
2007-05-24 12:48:21 · answer #7 · answered by shygal 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I like to have my door held open. It makes me feel special. I say thank you and give the guy a big smile.
However, I do not expect a guy to pay all the time. I think the girl should insist on going dutch part of the time.
2007-05-24 12:50:28 · answer #8 · answered by p00756 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well damn some of those answers were rude!!! well my opinoin on teh guy paying.. is its nice but the girl should also pay for some of the stuff! you kno split it up! but as far as opening doors and stuff like that.. thats just a polite thing to do!!
2007-05-24 13:00:09 · answer #9 · answered by Kristen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! God made the rules fight with him. Maybe you are cheap and don't want to pay. I am kind of conservative so don't worry about us, we like conservative gentleman. Don't get me wrong, I can take care of myself. But I kinda old fashion. Old fashion is good. If more people were old fashion maybe we wouldn't have so many teenagers on welfare.... but that's another topic....
2007-05-24 12:51:37 · answer #10 · answered by Belle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋