If I am living with my boyfriend because he asked me to move in...should I have to help pay bills?...he won't be with me if I move out, so I feel like I am paying him to stay together! Also...should giving money to my parents to help them out or paying him "rent" come first?
2007-05-24 05:23:11 · 7 answers · asked by britt0487 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I wasn't living with him I would move back in with my parents...so I wouldn't have any bills, but he doesn't want me too! He is a very jealous person...so he is probably scared that something would happen if I didn't live there with him...even though I would never do that to him. He's just had girls mistreat him in the past...so I am paying the price!
2007-05-24 08:28:38 · update #1
Yes, you should help pay for the rent, utilities, etc. if you are financially able.
I would be worried though if the only way he will be with you is if you live together. I don't get that logic.
And I would take care of your bills before helping out your parents. And yes, helping your boyfriend with rent is your bill since you do live there.
2007-05-24 05:29:56 · answer #1 · answered by derek1079 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you move in expecting a free ride? Unless you're married to him or your share a joint bank account, yes you absolutely pay your share of rent and utilities. And that should come first. If you were living alone, would you pay your rent and utilities first? Or would you give money to your parents? You'd take care of your own living expenses. That's the way you should treat the situation of living with your boyfriend.
2007-05-24 05:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you and your rents are close, they come first. im in a simmiler boat but my parents are out of the picture.. you could help pay biulls but if he was fine before you mooved in then i think you should ony help with food...thats the only variable that would darastically change [my bf doesnt let me pay, but if i move out he said it wouldnt work becuse he is so used to haveing me there all the time and he thinks if i move out that we will loose touch or something...whats your guys justification?]
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2007-05-24 05:54:02 · answer #3 · answered by Skottiaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you have to pay your part of the bills. its your responisibility. If you live in your own house by yourself you'd have to pay your own bills why would it be different paying half the bills for living in his place?
rent first, cause you have to live... help yourself before others unless you're able to afford it.
good luck.
2007-05-24 05:32:27 · answer #4 · answered by almostdeadman1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i mean why wouldn't he be with you if you move out ?
if he trusts you he shouldn't worry about you hurting him and i think its OK if you help him pay some but not all of it
2007-05-24 09:39:57 · answer #5 · answered by tswifti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys should help each other pay half and half but dont give him all you money . and if u want to help your parent then is all up to u
2007-05-24 05:37:23 · answer #6 · answered by crazygirl123 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live somewhere, you shouldn't become a leech. You should volunteer to help with the bills.
If you're told that it's not necessary, then kudos to you.
2007-05-24 05:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋