What does that say about your future together?
Okay, I love my boyfriend a whole lot....but there is one thing I can't stand. Me being the last to know everything, or giving me short notice. It just gets on my freakin nerves. He would come home and I would be asking what he wants to do. He be like: "Oh I told so and so I was going here and there last friday."
Well you didn't tell me, and he does this all the time. I'm always being told at the last minuted. Sometimes an hour before he leaves. I'm so sick of it..I talked to him about it before. It's like he doesn't see what he is doing wrong. They never see until some other guy gets their time.
I don't think he is cheating, but hey if that's the case I would give him up. Because I can't deal with that B.S.
2007-05-24 05:17:18 · 13 answers · asked by SexyBlackFasho 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with you 100% "Shy Girl S"
2007-05-24 05:41:11 · update #1
He is very inconsiderate of you and your feelings. It seems to me that other people are more important in his life. I don't know how old you guys are however, he seems rather immature for a relationship.
He may not be cheating...it sounds like he is just clueless as to how his actions affect you.
Talking to him at this point is probably not going to do you any good...you've already tried that and it seems to be adding fuel to the fire.
Maybe you could point it out to one of his mates and have them show him how he is acting. He might listen if it comes from one of them.
Good luck.
2007-05-24 05:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not communicating isn't the same thing as having secrets. A lot of secrets would be something to be concerned about, because it would indicate they are either doing things they know wouldn't go over well with you, or they don't trust you with the information.
As for what is actually occuring, he's just not thinking ahead or about anyone but himself. He makes plans for him and doesn't think to see if you'd like to go or to let you know so you can make your own plans. This is likely an issue with him that you'll either have to accept, or leave (him) behind. Although he's not obligated to give you notice, it is the appropriate and courteous thing to do.
If you choose to stay with him, perhaps you should just start making your own plans when you two don't have time scheduled together and not worry about what he's got going. When either of you wants to do something together, then just be sure to make the plans far enough in advance.
2007-05-24 05:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Um, perhaps he has ADD, or some kind of attention deficiant and quite possibly he isn't even aware of, or won't admit to.
Guys that keep alot of secrets or lie are not good for any decent woman. What cracks me up about these types is they sit and wonder why they can't get any decent chicks. Well, like attracts like...Duh!!
2007-05-24 05:22:00 · answer #3 · answered by Rogue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These are not secrets. A secret is; I'm married and cheating on my wife. This is failure to share; which speaks to lack of commitment. By consistently failing to share his social plans he is excluding you in the event something/someone better comes along. Occasionally a man may assume you know that he will be hanging with the guys for the big game if you are not interested in sports or an opportunity to go to a sporting event will come up unexpectedly and you will have the opportunity to demur for his enjoyment now and yours later. But on the whole people in committed relationships share their plans even if they plan to do things with other friends and without each other. So in essence he may not be cheating but he is.
2007-05-24 05:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that at this time in your life, it would be probably safer to stay in the closet. I know teens can be very mean when it comes to acceptance in a peer group. Coming out of the closet can even lead to assault. I personally believe that if you are gay or straight, it doesn't matter and you should be able to express that however you want (without infringing on anybody else's rights; don't go firebombing churches because they are against homosexuality). The reality however is that there are always going to be a set of the population who are anti-gay to an extreme, and willing to infringe on your rights to that extreme. Stay safe and good luck.
2016-03-17 04:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called lack of respect. Doesn't matter if he is cheating or whatever he is doing. He is going to do what he wants to do. You are an enabler. You allow this to happen to you. Try reversing the situation. Do exactly what he does, even if you have to go park and sit somewhere for a couple hours. There is nothing "wrong" with him. He has a perfect deal.
2007-05-24 05:25:07 · answer #6 · answered by sensible_man 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may not be cheating...but that can lead to it!! He will have you thinking he is always around his friend's all the time. So now you'll be complaning he is around his friend's too much. That's how they want you to think...especially if they with another woman.
And he may not be cheating now, but I wouldn't fall for anything if I were you. Keep your eyes open...also I think he is not mature enough for a serious relationship.
2007-05-24 05:46:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through that with someone, he is being just plain out disrespectful. Not thinking of you at all, and for him to up and leave when you want to chill with him..that's just wrong!! I'd have to kick him out. But that's me...if you choose to stay with him than be prepared for the worst. You've talked to him about it before and he still haven't changed. Now it's time to play his game and see how he likes it. ((hint)) :0)
2007-05-24 05:34:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't feel like he can talk with you or something just let him know you won't kill him for telling you things.
2007-05-24 05:19:35 · answer #9 · answered by GA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's hypocrite and that very bad for a relationship.
2007-05-24 05:21:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋