The printer lost my wedding invitations, everyone is flipping out on me, now what?

Question

The invitations were ordered over a month ago and had to be in the mail by June1st. My one bridesmaid keeps tellling me they should have been mailed 3 months ago (my wedding is July 21st). In the mean time I was hit and killed (briefly) by a drunk driver on my way to work, have been recovering and had NO help from anyone with all this. I've been trying as hard as I can and EVERYTHING is going wrong. I'm a total depressed, insane, brokem miserable ***** now and no one seems to get what I've been through. I have no idea what to do anymore about anything, the invitations, my mother inlaw, my so called friends ****. I'm in constant physical pain everyday and I can't do this anymore. I feel just oh so lucky that I survived (sarcasim). At this point I don't even want to get married anymore and I can't call it off because of all of the money spent. I just can't take anymore. Please help! advice, anything.

I did go down to the store this morning and they faxed the order right over to the printer. I'm just worried they will screw up again. Thanks for all the words of wisdom people. I like the person who said as long as people know about it, it'll be okay, that was great. Thanks to all

Answer 1

First of all, make sure that you get your money back from the printer. Then go somewhere like staples or office max and have cheap ones printed up. They should be able to do it quite quickly. That or buy those premade ones from a craft store or office store and print them yourself. Most people throw them out anyway so it does not matter how they look. It is getting very close to your wedding and you need to get them out. Tell your bridesmaids and parents that you NEED help! Don't worry what others are thinking. Just breath and it will get done. And I am sure you don't really mean you don't want to get married, I think that is just the stress talking.

Answer 2

Oh-that's awful! I don't know that anything I could say would help, but I'll try.

Firstly, you need to take care of yourself. Hopefully you're doing what you need to in order to recover from your accident. It sounds like everyone has forgotten it happened.

Secondly, you can let the invitation company know you're willing to pay (credit card time) for another set of invites to be printed and shipped next-day. If it's the printer's fault, then you can ask them to own up and get another set out immediately. Be as nice as you can to them but firm. Even if you have to bite the bullet and pay, it will alleviate that part of the problem. If you can't manage this, then go to an office supply store and make your own invitations or ask someone to help you do that.

Most of all, put this whole thing in perspective (because it's far too easy to lose perspective planning a wedding-I've done it). It's all about one day. One single day, a few hours. If everything doesn't go perfectly, then you have some interesting stories later on. If you still love your fiance and want to marry him, then nothing else matters.

I hope this helped you some.

Answer 3

First, congratulations on being alive! The physical pain will fade but it will take time. (Been there too) For the wedding......DELIGATE, call a meeting of the bridemaids and let them know, I NEED HELP! If they are truly your friends, they will pick up whatever slack you give them. Let off some steam by yelling at the printer, no it may not help, but you might feel better afterwards. Make sure you have your receipt for the print order. If they have completely lost your invitations, get everyone together with computers and print out your own. Very easy and not expensive - Walmart has blank ones. So they're not engraved, who cares, get them mailed. You still have 7-8 weeks to get it together. That's a lot of days sitting in front of you. Wish I knew where you were, I'd love to help with your wedding! BTW, the mother-in-law - maybe give her a special job of calling all the bridesmaids and checking up on them that they are getting their jobs done? Relax it will get done.

Answer 4

I made my own wedding invitations. You can go to a paper store and they have wedding invitation kits or all the paper products you could possibly need. I know it isn't "ideal" but you really do need to get the invitations out as soon as you can if you still plan on having the wedding.

Everything will come together in the end though. Think about your invitations as one tiny part of the entire wedding. People will not care or know what your previous invitations looked like. Just go get your money back and continue on with your planning.

And for the bridesmaid that adds to the stress, tell her if shes so worried about it, than she needs to help you!! Make a day out of it and have all of your bridesmaids and maybe the moms help out.

I'm sorry about your accident. I'm in pain everyday also and I know how hard it can be. In the meantime, if you have health insurance, she a psychologist-they have meds for people who are depressed because they are in pain. it may help, it may not.

You're in my prayers. :)

Answer 5

I'm sorry you are having to deal with so many issues surrounding your wedding. The first and foremost issue is you wanting to get married. If you are having second thoughts about your love for your fiance' then that's a different situation all together. If you love your fiance' but are just depressed and hurting then you can always postpone the wedding. What has your Doctor said about the speed of your recovery. If you are going to go ahead with set date,You still have 8 weeks to recuperate and hopefully you will be feeling much better by July 21st. In the meantime, find a friend or your mother, sister, hubby-to-be or someone who can help you. Write down everything that has already been done and then what else needs to be done. Alot of things can be done over the phone or email. If need be, scale down your desires and simplify it if it seems like it will be too much work for you or if no one else is able to get the job done how you originally planned it. 4 weeks is plenty for invitations to be sent out.So that actually gives you until June 21st to mail the invitations. I can understand your depression but there is help for that too. A Dr. can help with a mild anti-depressant taken for only a short time.....like 3 months(that will get you thru the wedding and honeymoon!) Then you can go from there to see if you need to continue on them. It may sound harsh or degrading to have to take meds but that's what they are made for; to take the edge off. I have used them for a short time surrounding a tragedy and it worked wonders. Once I got thru the hard time I haven't needed them since. Get plenty of sleep, don't overdo it and let you body, mind and soul mend itself so your special day can be looked forward to and looked back on as a wonderful time!! Best wishes............

Answer 6

Calm down, relax!! Do you truly want to spend the rest of your life with the person your engaged too? If your answer is Yes, then proceed with the wedding plans. Whatever you have paid for already you should keep. Whatever you havent ordered yet forget about! Is your fiancee helping you out at all. With all the money you say you already put into the wedding, I'm sure you can postpone if you need to instead of cancel and the vendors will still be good witht their services.

I wish I could tell you that everyone was going to change and that they were gonna be helpful and relief some of the stress for you, but unfortunately they may get worse as the wedding progresses. Just ignore them, I know its easier said than done, but I have have learned so much from my mother and ignoring people that are just being mean and critical gets easier every day.

As for the invitations, the printers need to make you new ones and they need to have them for you by your deadline. It wasnt your fault they lost them, it was their fault so they need to make that up to you. As for the friend that tells you that you should have sent them out 3 months ago, she's freakin' crazy. Even if you send them out by June 16, your still good to go.

Dont worry, everything will be fine. And if you need to vent or just chat feel free to email me.

Answer 7

Take a deep breath and forget about all the pressure people are putting on you. It is okay if invitations go out a bit late or things are just quite right. You are getting married and it is your day. It should not only be a celebration of your love but also your life since you survived such a horrible accident. Get on the phone and see what the printer can get out to you on the fly, if they can't help check out local stationary stores, party supply and even wal mart for print your own wedding invitations.

If all else fails and you are willing to spend a bit extra get on theknot.com, pick out a wedding coordinator and let them run around while you recover.

Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 8

I am so sorry to hear this. Your wedding should be the best time of your life. As far as the invites specifically, you may have to see whats up with the company & let them know that you expect a lower price or free & that being this late is unacceptable. U may have to get a rush order at another local printer. Have your fiance help you out, it is his wedding too after all... OR make those pesky bridesmaids do it, thye are called MAIDS for a reason..put 'em to work. I hope everythign works out & you enjoy your day! Good luck & I hope u feel better.

Answer 9

For your sake, you should postpone the wedding. You just survived a horrible accident and the last thing you want is to feel miserable on your wedding day. Take this invitation mishap as a sign to push back the date a few months. Your health and well being is the most important thing right now.

Answer 10

at this point i think i would be postponing the wedding untill u feel better . not call off just postpone . I think some of the wedding party should be helping you have you asked them to do so ? And you should get the money back from the printer and have someone you know make the invitations for you . Things will get better and many prayers to you and hope I helped . good luck .