Why do people look at spankings as a form of abuse or violence?
Isint abuse and violence when you beat the hell out of your child, or the child is being "abused" in other ways such as sexualy, mentaly, or physicaly?
Since when did a pop on the butt fall into the category of abuse and violence?
2007-05-24 04:48:27 · 15 answers · asked by shorty 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I think a swat on the butt is okay if used very infrequently and for only the most important of reasons - such as the child is doing something that may be dangerous and won't stop after warnings. I only spanked my son twice - and yes, he did learn from it, and never did the deeds again. I think it was because I didn't do it often, that it left such an impression in his mind. By contrast, my parents used to switch me with belts, sticks - whatever they could get their hands on. I definitely think this is wrong behavior.
2007-05-24 07:26:57 · answer #1 · answered by 13th Floor 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go so far to say that a little tap on the behind should be called abuse, but in my experience it just doesn't work. I used to give a little tap on the behind with my first child and all it ended up doing was that every time she became mad, she would hit me or someone else. I still didn't really realize the connection, so when I had my 2nd child, I did the same thing. Again, same result, my 2nd child would hit or hurt others when she was mad. So, it finally sank in, all I was teaching my kids was, when you're mad, angry, or disappointed in someone then you should hit or hurt them. I felt very bad once I realized this. I have not spanked my 3rd at all and he is the most loving and affectionate of all my children. I have found that time outs work pretty good for my younger two. My oldest is 7 and what works best for her is losing a privilege for awhile. Like no tv, no games, no going to friends houses, no computer, and so on for say like a week. When a criminal commits a crime, they go to jail, which is loss of freedom and privileges. So, the same thing goes in my house. You commit the "crime", then you get a period of time alone (time out) to think about what you did and you lose your privileges.
2007-05-24 05:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by Momma_of_3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel its abuse, but I think when a child gets a spanking its should be with the hand only, instead of leather belts, phone cords, vacuum cords and such. That's what I would call abuse. But in a way it can teach children to hit, how could you tell a child not to hit, and then you do the same to them? Doesn't make sense. Not all kids should be disciplined that way, you have to try different methods for different children. A few of my cousins were spanked, whipped even, and the only way they resolved conflict was through fighting.
2007-05-24 04:53:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Since the world went mentally "politically correct". It's mad I was smacked as were my brother and sis and my other half and my parents, we are all perfectly normal fully functioning well mannered members of society. I only smack my kids when they are very naughty and it is only with my hand but in my opinion that is not child abuse.
2007-05-24 05:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by Angie B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand it either. People think it teaches a child that violence is okay. I was spanked as a child, and I don't go around behaving like hitting people is a form of communication.
2007-05-24 04:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by erinn83bis 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Does spanking cause physical pain? If even for an instant like a swat.
2007-05-24 04:54:10 · answer #6 · answered by lillilou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when the government decided we did not know how to dispcline our children. A spanking didn't hurt my folks, didn't hurt me, and sure hasn't hurt my kids.
Spare the rod spoil the child. (ok my kids are spoiled but they know what a good butt busting is too)
2007-05-24 05:01:05 · answer #7 · answered by Leslie C 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree. There's nothing at all wrong with spanking. The ones who call it "abuse" or "violence" or "hitting" are just not very educated.
And I can't STAND it when somebody says "pop on the butt".
2007-05-24 04:52:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
I tell you what... if my little one acts up it is going to get an @ss whoppin'. I look at SO many of my friends who don't spank and their kids are completely out of control brats. And then we wonder why the kids of this generation act the way they do... Not mine!
2007-05-24 05:53:30 · answer #9 · answered by i gET bORED eNTATAIN mEH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a pop on the butt is not abuse but sadly, many parents take it too far.
2007-05-24 04:56:18 · answer #10 · answered by Emily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋