we had an argument over an address which got out of control. there was physical fighting, but we said things to eachother that was very hurtful. i decided to leave and now i'm missing himlike crazy. i want my marriage to work. i don't feel it's in danger like that. i'm just ready to go back and it's been only one day. i wonder if he's missing and thinking about me as well.
2007-05-24 04:45:06 · 19 answers · asked by cami bae 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Usually if married couple are fighting about something as minor as an address then there is usually a bigger issue that one or both parties is not talking about that is bothering them!
You'll probably get the typically girl you need to leave him a lone and all that crap but I have been in your shoes and still am in your shoes you might need to take two more days just to think about why you think the situation snowballed like it did! Try to think of ways that you can fix your part, come up with different things that you can do to keep you from getting to a boiling point with your mate and lastly after you have looked at what you did wrong write down what he did and said the most that bothered you! Then after you have taken a step back and looked at those things call your husband and sit down and talk to him and share those things with him! That way when you talk to him both of you would have had time to cool off and be able to apporach the situation objectively! Be Strong!!!!
2007-05-24 04:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by shasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it happen often? If so I would let things cool down for a bit. Gather thoughts, and think about all the things that could and can be avoided in the future. He probably is missing you, you can't just FALL OUT OF LOVE like that!!! --- But you also should wait a bit, to let him know that you as well are upset, and there is no reason for the two of you to fight like that.
I would suggest letting things cool down. Gather thoughts, get your head together and maybe absence will make the heart grow fonder. Fighting is healthy sometimes in relationships, but there is also A WAY to fight. Physical and/or slandering is not the proper way to fight.
If you can't hack it anymore, then DO call him. Of course, you can't help but miss him. But when you do call, don't bring up the past... just say sorry and tell him that you don't want to fight anymore like that, that you just want to fight for him and look forward from this day on.
2007-05-24 11:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have additional details you might not have been able to add to your question.
But I would wait a bit until things cool off and then talk before thinking of coming back. If you truly want your marriage to work you have to seek help for that "physical" incident. A marriage has to be based on love but also respect and communication... exploding over something simple and taking the argument to a physical level trashed the love,communication and respect instantly.
Get help before the wounds you cause are too deep to mend and forget.
2007-05-24 11:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by Karla T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably is. But he won't call you first. Men are stubborn and have a lot of trouble making the first move to fixing problems. Give him space. But do give him a call or send him an email, just to say I want our marriage to work, I love you, lets work through this together. The hardest thing to do for me, is to give my bf space when he's angry. I get over things really fast, I over react, blow up, and I'm done. He doesn't get over things nearly as quickly, and I always feel so rejected when he just needs some space. But I need to learn to give him some, men aren't good at working through their feelings, at least I have yet to meet one. So contact him, put the ball in his court, but seek some therapy, the fact that your fight got physical is not a good thing.
2007-05-24 11:52:21 · answer #4 · answered by Lost and Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one thing it seems you two might benefit from some anger managment/marital counceling if you two get into fist a cuffs over an address.
There will be far harder things to deal with in the future and it seems that at least right now the two of you arent even close to capable of that.
2007-05-24 11:49:44 · answer #5 · answered by bushnellparty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, seperation and abusing each other is something serious that needs both of you to start thinking in a more mature way. so drop the should i call or wait puzzle. if you really want this marriage to work and save it from being wrecked other unncessary nonesense, sit together guys and talk calmly and reasonably and open up..and perhaps seek some counsel.
2007-05-24 11:57:11 · answer #6 · answered by kate07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the fights becomes a fist cuff, is it really a relationship? Well here's my opinion you should both seek counseling and anger management! And as to does he miss you, give it a couple days he come running back to you if he still loves you!
2007-05-24 11:51:37 · answer #7 · answered by Whip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you can do is call and say "how are you " kind of thing? Then you can start talking about what happened and everything that went with that argument. You'll be able to hear in his voice and what he says if he wants back and how he feels about the situation.
2007-05-24 11:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there was physical fighting, you might want to re-think going back to him so quickly. Physical fighting is never good in relationships. It doesn't matter who it was that started it. In either case, it would be smart for you to step back.
You should talk to him to find out where he stands on the subject. If you two are married, chances are you should be able to work it out between yourselves.
2007-05-24 11:48:55 · answer #9 · answered by Meagan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time. If you love him. Then enough will never be enough you would wanna work it out and be with him. Ill say call him and pour out your feelings honestly. chances he will do the same. Good luck. And stop physically fighting.
2007-05-24 11:50:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋