first off my son is a great kid and has not once given me a problem.... but my son came to me and told me that he accidentally killed a prostituite... he said that he hid her body down by the ravine.... i dont want to tell on him because he is 2 weeks away from graduating from stanford and i dont want to ruin his life... he was just with her to have a good time and he pushed her and she died.... my son has never given me a problem and his grades are exceptional... he jsut said he was tired of being a virgin and wanted to get rid of his virginity... he is not helping out at soup kitches and churches in his spare time and will do that for the rest of his life... telling on him will only ruin his life.... we need the money that he will make from getting a good job to help his 2 mentally disabled brothers with their schooling... i dont know what to do... this is my most successful son and i dont want his life ruined... should i rat him out?
2007-05-24 04:32:17 · 52 answers · asked by john s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Johnny, never go against the family.
2007-05-24 04:39:02 · answer #1 · answered by adam c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think of it this way. Once someone kills once (even if it is an accident) it makes it easier to do it again. I can understand not wanting to ruin his life but he took that risk by even getting a prostitute. You need to tell on him. This prostitutes family deserves to know that their daughter or sister is dead. I also understand the need for money. Although life will be hard, by not telling you are endangering yourself with the law and if your son was found out and the law found out that you knew something then you could get in terrible trouble. That would put you in even worse trouble. Think of all the consequences.
2007-05-24 04:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by !*SoMeOnE_To_CaRe*! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know what you're doing it can bring out some of the good traits, but you also increase the risk of bad things showing up. You're basically just better off not doing it. Especially if the rats came from a pet store, because they're already horrible inbred then.
2016-05-17 04:04:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, that's a tough one. At the very least an anonymous phone call should be made to the police so the family can be notified about their daughter/sisters death.
The thing of it is-is it happened and you can't change that. The question is, can you and he live with this?
The right thing to do would be for the two of you to go to the police and explain what happened. I must tell you, though, that this will be on his record and could very well ruin his carreer.
I suggest he go to a priest and get guidance there.
2007-05-24 04:50:00 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is true, he's already ruined his own life. It doesn't matter how much charity work he does now or in the future. He killed another human being. How can you still say he's a great kid? Are you thinking it's OK because it was a prostitute? Would it not be OK if he killed one of his college buddies? Go to the police!
2007-05-24 04:39:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should rat him out. Next he's gonna just push somebody for wanting soup or push them off the roof of the church or push one of his mentally disabled brothers and the ravine will be full. His attorney fees will probably bankrupt you, after all, he's a good boy so you will want to defend him.
The attorney fees will cancel out any money he can possibly make getting a good job. So, see, telling on him now will only improve the quality of both your lives. Thanks for the two points.
2007-05-24 04:48:41 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very difficult situation in which your son has placed you. You are worried about ruining his life without consideration of the fact that the "prostitute" has no life left to ruin. Her family members can only wonder who the hell ruined hers. If this is your "most successful son," he has failed already by not meeting his obligation to face his responsibilities head on. Absent his reporting of this event, your also fail by not doing so yourself. I suppose if someone killed your son, you would understand if their mother didn't want to "rat" them out.
2007-05-24 05:03:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My instinct is to say yes. You and your son need to go to the local police department and speak to them about this. No matter what your son killed another human being (it doesn't matter that she was a prostitute). And if it was an accident the police will be able to determine that and the charge is a lot different than premeditated murder. I wish you and your son the best of luck and God's comfort and support.
2007-05-24 04:37:26 · answer #8 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't ratting - it's reporting a serious crime.
Whether your son was trying to or not, someone died because of his poor choices.
Give him the chance to turn himself in - or if he won't - then you should do the right thing and give an anonymous tip to the police.
Not an easy thing to do - but such are the consequences of our choices.
2007-05-24 04:45:31 · answer #9 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming this is true, the deed is done. Now you have to consider the positive vs the negative about "ratting" him out.
Ask what good will be served, what harm will be done. How will society be improved if you do or do not turn him in. How society be harmed?
Go from there.
2007-05-24 04:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by blackfangz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your conscience tell you? How would you feel if you were the prostitute's mother and either one no one ever found her or she becomes as your words said, just another prostitute. God is the judge here, we aren't. Good Luck and many prayers. I'm sorry you are going through this.
2007-05-24 04:37:30 · answer #11 · answered by perleo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋