I'm 13 and have been asked by a lad if i wanna have sex with him. I don't know what to say. Am I too young?
2007-05-24 04:28:27 · 84 answers · asked by Mariah♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nope he's 13 the same age as me.
2007-05-24 04:36:56 · update #1
YES
2007-05-24 04:30:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes, I too believe with all my heart that the age of 13, or any age under 18, is too young to have sex, because I am sure you do not have the source of income to support a baby being born and raising that child as well...
Also you are not old enough to pay for all the problems associated with getting disease...
All the doctor visits and tests and humiliation of the disease that will lurk in your body for years after...
Once you contract any disease, it lives in you for years after and you can spread that disease to others when the first guy has long left you...
Boys throughout time have used the asking a girl for sex as a way to show they care, but they never stick around to show they care later on...
It is only a line to make you believe they love you...
You will feel used and no longer special when it is over with...
You will wish you had waited till you meet the real man in your life who wont pressure you...
A real gentleman will wait and not make you do something you don't want to do...
Please think about waiting till you are over 18, the legal age of consent, and by law, you shouldn't be doing anything at a younger age...
You start giving away sex to anyone who might ask you and then it will spread like wildfire that you are an easy target to other guys...
You gain that bad girl reputation and you can't get rid of it...
Please when this question is over and done, let us all know what your decision is and I hope to GOD you make the right decision...
2007-05-26 07:32:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well to tell u the truth that is a good question since I am 15 going on 16 and I believe that if u feel the time is rite then go for it. But 13 is a young age and you should wait since your new to the game. Me well I've been in situations so I know a thing or two.
2007-05-24 04:32:48 · answer #3 · answered by nelle boo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Absolutely too young. Can you take care of a baby? How would you react if you were to contract an STD?
The fact is, it's hard to say no. But the fact that you're asking if you're too young shows that you have a good head on your shoulders. And the fact that you're thinking about it shows that you're human. It's easy to get carried away and do something that, later, you'll regret.
Save sex for when you're an adult. You'll be glad you did.
2007-05-25 09:14:01 · answer #4 · answered by Keely B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you may think think that he really likes you sweetie, but at that age, guys are very immature and as soon as something would happen for example get pregnant or contract an std, he'd leave you in an instant. sex is also a very emotional thing that you should at least have with someone you love. it may take awhile for you to figure this out, but when the moment is right, you won't have any regrets in ur mind, it will just feel right. i'm 19 now, and i had a lot of friends a couple years ago start to have sex really early and its sad to see them now. honestly, they are mixed up with the wrong group and have an extrememely trashy lifestyle. Accidents do happen, so you might as well prevent this life altering issue while you can. I'm sure that you are a very smart and pretty girl, so you'll have so many guys wanting to go out with you, you'll be throwing em out!
2007-05-24 04:41:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
are you ready to be a mother or have an std that will plague you for the rest of your life?? if you said no then you are too young and you should tell him no. true none of that may happen if you have sex, but even with protection there is a chance, and if you are not ready to take that risk you are not ready to have sex. the problem with young teens these days is that they are in too big of a hurry to grow up. also, if this boy doesn't like you if you tell him that you are not ready then he's not the boy for you. a boyfriend who cares about you will respect your decisions and wait right along with you until you are ready. besides a pregnancy or an std can seriously affect your future and you will be glad you waited until you were mature enough to respect the consequences.
2007-05-24 04:37:47 · answer #6 · answered by maggiemae 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say in my own opinion yes
you are to young to be thinking about losing you virginity what the hell is going on with teenage kids this day.
Look here I am sorry for expressing myself this way I apologize
I really don't think girls like you should be thinking about sex at an age like this you are right not trying to get all your body types together and you don't even know about all the consequence that could happen. I mean I think you know but you are probably crossing it off you head what i say ignoring and I say you shouldn't ignore it at all cause it do come with the sex part.
I say that you do not have to do what others do you know
you have your own life and I know that you are smart why not wait it out a little bit longer until you know what to do if something bad crosses in your way.
But when ever your ready I have to say that it has to be a very special moment. And remember that once you lose it you can not get it back. I say that it is best for someone to wait until marriage but of course kids these days want to experiment before.
So when ever you decide to do it just be aware that you must ware protection for the sake of you and the person who you are with.
Girl If you are dating this kid that is forcing you to have sex and you don't know what to do i say just be real to yourself at all time and tell him that you are not ready and if he don't respect your decision then I subjects you to find someone else that will give you all the respect that you deserve.
2007-05-24 04:45:55 · answer #7 · answered by mary o 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, 13 is too young. Give yourself a few more years to grow and develop emotionally. 16 is a pretty good age to use as a general target. By then you'll have a better understanding of boys and you'll have seen some of your friends go through the whole process. The boy who has asked you is not likely to be around a year later.
2007-05-24 04:39:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
When you are 13 or 14 you feel so mature...so ready for an adult form of relationship...we all did..and we all made the same incorrect conclusion. We were not ready...you can't be at that age...and you may not be ready to hear this...because you think you are ready. Sexual relations...means a risk of pregnancy....of transmission of diseases...and a commitment to a person...a level of intimacy that should involve love. Wait for the right moment...don't be pressured by friends or any boy...think for yourself. By asking this question...you have made the first right step toward becoming more mature and that is taking a pause...and thinking...before you act.
2007-05-24 04:36:43 · answer #9 · answered by Amovitas 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just say no, its not only too young its illegal!! Want to spoil your life and be the one who cant finish her schooling because she has to look after a baby, get an education get some life experience and when your ready for sex you will know, by asking the question you know the answer yourself, your more mature than you thought!! :o)
2007-05-24 04:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes
1. It is easier for whatever method you are using to avoid pregnancy to fail
2. a 13 year old is economically weak to support the expenses of a pregnancy, delivery and then baby
3. a 13 year old body is not mature enough for a baby... it is still growing!!!
4. a 13 year old mind is not mature enough for a baby... same reason as above, it is still growing!!!
Interesting reasons...
5. it will hurt like hell and you won't get to know what an orgasm is until a few years... fun huh!!
6. who will be "taking" your virginity? a 13 year old? 14? 15? 18? odds are they will have to recite the presidents backwards just to be able to "last" a couple of minutes
Good reasons to wait a few (several) years...
1. you should be mature enough to research methods to avoid an unplanned pregnancy as well as mature enough to face one if your selected method failed
2. your "partner" should be mature enough to handle a "baby" responsibility
3. your "partner" should be mature enough to please you both physically and emotionally
... it is NOT like they show it in the movies... be careful, it is not glamorous or even romantic when you do it in the back of a car or worried that someone parents could be home any minute, and if on top of that is risky, painful and you will not enjoy it... why bother now?
2007-05-24 04:45:48 · answer #11 · answered by Karla T 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋