to spank or not to spank?

Question

is it leagle to spank your kids?
what is the law on spanking? i know some parents are scard to spank their kids so they dont and end up with out of control kids......and im not talking about beating your kid scenceless, im talking the first time they try to step up to you and test your athority, and tell you NO!......im not talking about slapping a kid over a spilled cup of milk......im talking about perpously not listening to you..... my mom and dad spanked us, but after we were done crying they would come in and express love, and explain why is dangerous at 9 to get in a row boat with 5 other 7/8/9 year olds and drift down the curent the the island where there is no bridge to get back.....no adult no life jacket......they said if something happend they would not even know where to start looking for me i could be at the bottom of the river and they would have no idea,i under stood why they were mad,my cu had 7 kids never spanked them they got taken away for being too bad......

Answer 1

it is legal.

Answer 2

I tend to use time out more so than spanking. I have been known to spank. I'm not totally against it. We use spanking for the important things like running into the parking lot when a car was coming. I don't spank my children hard. The fact that they know they are going to get a spanking is punishment enough. Also, I will spank my kids in public. I don't care what other people say or think. I know what is best and what works for my kids. Spanking is not always the answer. Talking works very well with my kids as well and explaining things to them. If you do spank make sure they understand why.

Answer 3

I don't know if it's legal or not to spank your kids. I, however, do spank mine when they need it. I have a 15 year old and a 7 year old and they can both push my buttons, but if I have to spank them for any reason, I talk with them afterwards and explain to them what they did wrong, that I didn't like what they did, and that I love them. I can't tell you how many times I got spanked when I was a kid, but I turned out okay. I try to show my kids that you treat others the way you want to be treated and that you must respect your elders. We all have rules to follow and they must follow the rules as well.

Answer 4

Hi!
Well I think it's Ok to spank. And some kids they needed, even teenagers. My Father: he called it spanking but was more close to Beatin lightly. Last time he did I was 17yrs old. I don't wanted to listen, I was talking back, and I don't wanted to help my mother etc. He got his belt off and.....I think you know what Im talking about!
Anyway, these days Im very thankfull for those beating. Who know's how Im gonna turn out, where m I' gonna get in life if he is not there with the belt to teach me a lession. Yes, too much beating is wrong and can lead to troubles. But kids have to learn 1 way or the other!
The only thing I can say: when Im gonna have kids I will pull the woodspoon out ...........

Answer 5

Spank. Kids only understand a little pain because when you tell them what's wrong with what they did they are not likely to listen, and it will not link in their minds disobeying with retailiation. It's like real life, you want them to know that breaking the law your rules leads to punishment. Some kids who never get spanked give the burst into tears bit with their crocodile tears and you don't spank them--leads to them being manipulative because they know they are being cute. Don't od, there isn't a law against spanking but real abuse that is being taken into account. plus, spankings don't leave bruises so if your kids want to cry to someone there is a question of why the other person is looking at the kids bottom.

Answer 6

Spanking is usually a good method of discipline. We use spankings to keep our children in line. NEVER beating causing anything other then a red bottom.

Answer 7

When we were younger, we only got a spanking if we did something really wrong. Usually we got sent to our rooms, which didnt have toys in them except stuffed animals, the occasional ball, and books. My parents were firm and stayed to the duration they said we needed to stay in there. It worked very well. Our rooms were boring because there were limited things to do, especially when we wanted to be outside. My parents also took things away we really liked to do or play with. That also got through to us as to what to do/not to do. Spanking on the butt is completely different than beating. an occasional spanking on the butt with an explaination afterwards goes a lot farther than some people realize. We were only hit with an open palm. Never any object or a fist. Its a decision every parent needs to make, and go with your gut instinct. Normally, it will never lead you wrong. Good luck

Answer 8

It's legal, in most places but it's also a really, really bad idea.

"Spanking demonstrates that it's all right for people to hit people, and especially for big people to hit little people, and stronger people to hit weaker people. Children learn that when you have a problem you solve it with a good swat."

"Being an authority figure means you are trusted and respected, but not feared. Lasting authority cannot be based on fear. Parents or other caregivers who repeatedly use spanking to control children enter into a lose-lose situation. Not only does the child lose respect for the parent, but the parents also lose out because they develop a spanking mindset and have fewer alternatives to spanking. The parent has fewer preplanned, experience-tested strategies to divert potential behavior, so the child misbehaves more, which calls for more spanking. This child is not being taught to develop inner control."

"Remember the basis for promoting desirable behavior: The child who feels right acts right. Spanking undermines this principle. A child who is hit feels wrong inside and this shows up in his behavior. The more he misbehaves, the more he gets spanked and the worse he feels. The cycle continues. We want the child to know that he did wrong, and to feel remorse, but to still believe that he is a person who has value."

"n the past thirty years in pediatric practice, we have observed thousands of families who have tried spanking and found it doesn't work. Our general impression is that parents spank less as their experience increases. Spanking doesn't work for the child, for the parents, or for society. Spanking does not promote good behavior, it creates a distance between parent and child, and it contributes to a violent society. Parents who rely on punishment as their primary mode of discipline don't grow in their knowledge of their child. It keeps them from creating better alternatives, which would help them to know their child and build a better relationship."

(All from Dr. Sears, a pediatrician, father of eight, and one of the best writers about parenting that I can think of.)

Answer 9

First of all, spanking puts fear into the kids. Therefore submitting to the parents. If you do not put fear into your kids, they will walk all over you and have little respect. "Time outs" only work for minor things, but really, do you really think that "time outs" are scary. I think as kid you would rather be put on "time out" than getting spanked. I was spank as a child and I didn't going around hitting my brothers or friends. Its about defining who has authority and you have to let your kids know who is boss. Spank the kid!

Answer 10

i think that spanking depends on the child, for instance my nephew is the tyype you have to spank because he is very willful and doesn't listen even if you take his fave things away (toys, t.v., video games and you really don't even have to spank him very much 1 or twice a year), but my niece you rarely and I mean rarely have to spank (last time anyone including parents spanked her was 3 yrs ago) you tell her one time in a firm tone not to do something she won't do it oft times and others you take her dolls or coloring books away and she falls right in line. i personally don't care what the law or society says you have to do what YOU feel is best for YOUR child.

Answer 11

I was surprised to find out that alot of parents spanked there kids here in Georgia. (I moved here about two years ago) It seems to be acceptible for parents to take a switch or belt to their kids here. Personally, when my son was small, I would give him a swat on the butt if he wasn't listening, but I never hit him with anything other than my open hand.