How do I get my creepy colleague to leave me alone?

Question

I have lied and said I have a boyfriend, I say no to go out with him, I say no to go for cig breaks with him and still he is leeaching all over me constantly and it is really creeping me out. I don't really want to go to my manager as we are only two women working here and he will know that it comes from me.

Answer 1

I would say directly to him
tell him politely that you find his advances uncomfortable and if they continue you may have to take further actions
if you dont do anything about it and let it continue then sorry but its your own fault
it is not acceptable to harress other colleagues its bullying
tell him to stop iot immediately

if you dont want him to them give me his number and ill tell him im your solicitor and warn him that he stops or he sees you in court

I HATE BULLIES
and men that harress women are appauling

Answer 2

The guy could have aspergers's syndrome and just not know better social skills.

I'd suggest to be blunt with him. Look him in the face the next time he follows you somewhere and tell him that what he's doing is rude. Don't be mean. But don't sugar coat it either. Be direct. People who fall on the Pervasive Developmental Disorder Spectrum, which Asperger's is a part of, don't figure out subtle all that well, if at all.

Even if he doesn't have Asperger's the guy definitely doesn't pick up on social cues. The above should still work if that's the case.

If it does continue then go to the manager.

Answer 3

Tell him that you are gay. That might do the trick. Whilst he thinks you're straight, he thinks he's in with a chance. Give up smoking is another way you could avoid being alone with him.

If it is a serious, serious problem and you feel intimidated by him, then there is nothing else for it really other than approaching your manager in confidence. You cannot continue to work in an environment like that as it will start to affect your work and then your personal life. It could be that he's done it before to some other poor girl and his card is already marked. There are laws against this sort of behaviour of which your employer will be well aware and will be anxious to make sure they deal with this matter now before it escalates.

Answer 4

I've had this problem a few times and there is only 2 female employees where I work as well. I did complain anyway and he would have probably known it was me, but I wasn't to bothered and as he was in trouble, he new he was being watched, he left just left me alone. You could try being firm with him and just turn round say "look I'm not interested, it's not gonna happen, you are creeping me out and making me feel very uncomfortable and I don't like it. If he is still harassing you, you should go tell your boss and tell him your worries because there is only 2 females. I think there is other places you can go to for advise but I'm not sure where.

Answer 5

You need to just tell him straight up one day, "Just leave me alone!". If you just kinda lash out at him once he should back off. However, if there is not stopping this guy you really do need to go to the manager. You should not have to put up w/ this crap at your job. The manager will not stand for it, I promise. Something will be done, and it sounds like it is time for something to be done. Don't worry about him knowing you said something, or about what will happen to him. If he approaches you after you tell someone, be like.."Well, I told you to leave me alone and you wouldn't. So I reported you." or something like that. Maybe you should try to talk to another colleague of yours ( a guy) and tell him what is going on. Perhaps someone who works near you. Get him to get this guy off your back. I really hope you do something. you shouldn't put up w/ this any longer. Do something! Good luck and I hope this creep gets the hint.

Answer 6

The only thing I can think of is just to ignore him if you really don't want to go to your manager. Don't get into conversations or anything, only talk about work stuff. If he starts asking loads of personal questions just give really short answers. Basically act like a real 'ice queen'. Sorry I can't be more help.

Answer 7

Just tell him in no uncertain terms to leave you alone and if he wont, then you have to tell your boss, you have the right to go to work and not be harassed or bullied in any way, its doesnt matter if he knows its you or not, its wrong, and he is probably relying on the fact that he will know its you and you will be worried. Sounds like bullying and harrassment to me sweetie, be strong and tell the monkey faced letch to get lost!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! In front of the rest of the office would be best

Answer 8

There is one very rational and powerful way to stop him. Go to your human resource department of your company....and report him for sexual harassment. After they haul him into the office for a talk...his whole attitude might change for the better...if he doesn't change..then continue the process...until he is fired. There are rules in place for this type of behavior...and in most companies the end result for him will be something he may not wish to pursue.

Answer 9

Well you have two choices you either give him something to think about or you tell the boss.

To think about:

Tell him your off to the STD clinic and would he like to come along seeing as he has a thing about you.

That will stop him dead in his tracks.

You could always tell him to go away and stop leering at you and if he ignores that then you could have him for sexual harrassment.

Answer 10

Public shaming should work, tell him in a loud voice in front of other staff members that you're not interested.

'There are three things that turn me on a man's heart a man's body and a man's mind, you score nort out of three.'

Or something similar. Creeps deserve no mercy