housewives: is this normal?

Question

im 22 years old, my daughter just turned 2, we just moved and im not very familiar with my area, and my family only has one car and my husband needs it for work. so i am stuck in my house all day every day, with nothing better to do than clean my house and play baby games. dont get me wrong now, i know what my responsibilities are, and i love spending time with my daughter, but i need a change and fast!! im becoming so restless with my inactive lifestyle, it is beginning to give me stomach pains, and im losing motivation to get off the couch some days.. any advice? ill take anything you guys have at this point.

thanks in advance.

Answer 1

Have you taken the time to get to know your nearest neighbors are joined a church yet? Where is the nearest playground for kids - go during mid morning - I'm sure there will be other mothers there with their children. It's summer now, is there anything close by that has progams for toddlers that you and your child can attend and can reach by walking?

Go to your local library or chamber of commerce to get information on what your town has to offer.

Good luck. Making friends takes some time and some effort.

Answer 2

Can you drive your husband into work and then use the car all day a couple of days a week? You must get out the house... I went thru this when my son was young. If you can't get use of a car, stroll the baby somewhere safe. That will at least get you out the house....Make a real effort to meet your neighbors, even if they are older, every one counts. IF the weather is nice, put the baby in a baby pool and so outside activities. Ask your husband if he could invite some of his work people and wives over for desserts , etc. Then you could find out who has kids and get the info about the new city. Good luck.

Answer 3

We just moved too, and we only have one car and my husband takes it out of state with him every monday through friday, so if I need anything I need to walk somewhere to get it. Thats how I got to know my neighborhood. I took my kids to the park and met some really nice people that live on my block.

If he works close to homw you could ask him if you could drop him off at work one day so you can see the area you live in. Go to the park, find one close to your home that you could walk to. Now is a good time because school is still in and you won't have the bigger kids getting in the way. You will likely meet other parents there that are a lo like you, your daughter will also make some friends, then all you have to do is make play dates. Adult contact really does make a difference.

Answer 4

I am a wife with the same problem. I have 2 very active kids that keep me going all day. I actually stayed run down for quite a while until I got so big that I wasn't wanting to get off the couch. I am not on a one-a-day vitamin (try that) and a doctor prescribed diet pill. Between the two of them, I have the energy to get up and go without feeling so tired. Does your wife drink a lot of cold drinks during the day? If sso, have her switch to an energy drink in the morning, it'll give her the pep she'll ned to get thru the day and evening, then sleep soundly at night. I know, I do it everyday, drink lots of water now, and I feel so energized. Only time I feel tired is when I'm about to get sick. I suggest you take her to a doctor and have a full check up done on her, just in case. Maybe the doctor can do for her what he did for me....GL;)

Answer 5

i am 33 years old and been a stay at home mom for 16 years. all i have done my whole life is take care of my kids and husband. so let me tell you find something now and do something because the longer you wait the harder it is. I am starting classes next week and i am scared but i need something more.My kids are getting older and i getting really bored, sometime i don't get out of my pj's but i am changing all that now and so can you. I live in the country so there is no walking around the block. So get up and get off the computer lol and find something that you can do with your little girl or you will be asking the same question at 33.

Answer 6

Talke a walk every day with your daughter in the stroller - get out every day even for a few minutes, it'll make all the difference in the world! (Been there, done that BTW! - I know how you feel!)

Go to the library and get a stack of great books and magazines, then come homeafter your walk and - well, maybe you might get a couple of minutes with a magazine and a cup of tea! Worth a try anyway....

Playgroups are good too - sometimes a local church or comunity center will have one. I loved the one I found when I moved with a toddler and didn't know anyone. It was good for my child too!

Try and take care of yourself as well as your child - let the house go a little, clutter doesn't bite! (I have personal experience here too!)

Answer 7

You are too young to be stuck indoors all day. Can you arrange for a neighbour (who has a car) and you to get together and go to a gym (some provide sitting), or to mind your child while you go for a fast walk for 2 hours?

If not, get the child in a stroller and walk all over the place (headphones are nice to have).

Make it part of your daily routine rain or shine.

You need to move around and get the energy flowing, then look at some hobbies - what do you like to do? Gardening, sewing, painting, crafting, etc.

Keep on moving!

Answer 8

Try getting out with a baby stroller for a walk in your area. You'll get to know the area, and maybe pick up a few friends on the walking trail. You could also see if your local library runs a story time or other family activities. Call and explain your situation to the person in charge and see if there is any way they can arrange to have you picked up or have someone carpool with you. Good-luck!

Answer 9

If your husband is a reasonable person, pick one day each week when you and your daughter "drive daddy to work" then have a girls day out. Go shopping, go to the park, take a walk, have lunch, go to a library, petting zoo, join a mother/daughter group, etc.

As an incentive for him, pick him up after work and have a picnic together, or drive to another part of town to have dinner "out".

Don't give in to boredom - get some fresh air.

Answer 10

Lots of things you can do!,, Start with a baby carriage, and take her for long stolls to the park, shopping, etc. Perhaps you need a part time job. Or maybe baby sit another child or two, at your home, meet people and staying busy, earning a bit of money, and still get to be the perfect housewife. I sure would not reccomend staring at a t.v, and get fat and lazy!