Im 16 years old andim with a 34 year old guy and im in love with him and im scared 2 tell my fam wut do i do?

Answer 1

I am 34 and the thought of being with a 16 year old is nauseating! What are you thinking? What is HE thinking? Is a he a teacher? Is he married? Does he have children? How did you get involved with him? And how is this going on without your parents knowledge? You need to supply a lot more details about this situation before anyone can advise you, and be honest. You can't expect good advice is you don't give accurate details.

Answer 2

Well, I think you are way too young to be with a 34 year old man in the first place. If you tell your family, they could call the police and have him arrested or at the very least they will be furious and forbid you to see him anymore. Take some advice from me, chances are your relationship will not work out. My father married a 21 year old woman when he was 40 years old. They were in love too. They got divorced after less than 2 years of marriage. The differences were just too great and she was no where near the same maturity level that he was. I think at first it is all about the physical attraction. Once that gets old, what will you have in common? My husband is also 34 years old and he graduated high school in 1991, so your boyfriend probably graduated around that year too, which was probably the year you were born. That's kind of creepy. If he was really a stand up guy he would have left you alone in the first place, he has no business being involved with a minor. He is technically old enough to be your father. That 18 year difference would be pretty difficult to overcome. Think about down the road, when you are 34, he'll be 52 and when you're 52, he'll be 70!! He's only 34 and he's interested in a younger woman, what's that tell you? You'll probably be looking for a younger man when he's old and wrinkly and can no longer "keep up" with you. You should not be worrying about this kind of stuff anyway, with a man of any age for that matter. You are in love?? You are a teenager!! Focus on school, friends, college, making a future for yourself!! You will have plenty of time for love. Take it from someone who was a mother at 19 and a wife at 21, it is too young!!! Don't get me wrong, I love my life, but I missed out on a lot. Take time for yourself first, get your life in order first, then worry about love. I know you feel so grown up right now at 16, I felt that way too, but now that I am 27 and look back at 16, I was just a child!! Adulthood comes fast, enjoy your childhood and the freedoms that come with it, cause once it's gone, it's gone. Good luck to you!!

Answer 3

I find your question some what odd because I my self am 30 yrs old with a 38 yr old fiance. I just do not see how you can be in love with someone that has lived and experienced more in life than you have. You are 16 yrs old and so much to look forward to meeting more people going to college and living a youthful life for a few more years at 34 what exactly can he offer you. I know age is only a number but if he truly loves you as you say to love him he will encourage you to live your teenage years as a teenager. I wish you only the best trust me as a mother myself there are no words a child can use to try to tell there parents they are in love with some twice there age. Good luck.

Answer 4

Sorry to say this but that is creepy. No man needs to be dating a girl that Young especially if it illegal. If you guys have done anything sexual then you need to tell your parents and put his butt in prison because that not love that is sick but if he's very respect full to you and is waiting till you are 18 to make your own decisions then I am wrong.

The oldest that I dated when i was 16 was 27 and we never did anything except kiss. You know why because i was lucky and yes I did run into creeps but also I knew that i was to young to be involve with any of that and I wasn't ready. But that is still very disturbing that he is that much older. Just thing about it, looks like you might as well date your dad since you know you love him.

Answer 5

First of all, if you haven't already - say out of bed with him!

You could end up pregnant and then you'll surely have to tell your parents! Believe me it is very, very easy to become pregnant even with just one time of having sex.

Of course, your parents would be very alarmed if they know about this man. You know you will have to end the relationship if you tell your parents.

Sneeking around is not a way to live. I suggest you try very hard to find an adult you respect and trust so that you can talk openly about this. You need to get some help for yourself or this man will hurt you in a 1,000 ways.

16 is a very vulnerable time for a young girl. Its very easy to be swayed by words. You have no way of knowing if this man is only using you for sex NO MATTERWHAT he says!

He shows a lack of character to have sex with a 16 year old. It is aslo against the law.

If a man trully loved a 16 year old girl he would respect her and not have sex with her until she is at least 18. This is exactly what Elvis Presley did. Although, he was much younger than 34!

Elvis went to meet the girl's parents and told them how much he loves her and will not touch her until she is of age. I think she was only 14 when he fell in-love with the girl.

I think its very important to find out WHY you are choosing to be with a 34 year old man!

Tell him you will not have a sexual relationship with him until you are 18 and see how he reacts. If he trully loves you he will respect your wishes.

If he tries to convience you to have sex with him after you have said 'no more sex' then you will know that he is using you for sex.

Answer 6

That is a little bit of an age spread, even for someone as liberal minded as I am, but first some practical advice to keep everyone out of trouble.

Where do you live? 16 is the legal age of consent in Washington, DC and over half of the US States, as well as much of the rest of the world. The website below can help you find the information to help you determine legality as far as any physical side of the relationship.

However, despite the age of consent, you are still most likely legally considered a "child" and the responsibility of your parents - it sucks, I know, but most states usually don't treat you as an adult for most purposes until 18, except for sex which is younger, and drinking which is 21, of course.

The thing to consider is, what will you parents do? Will they kick you out of the house? Will they forbid you from seeing him? Will they accept your relationship? You have to figure that out for yourself, then decide if you can live with the consequences.

Answer 7

This guy is twice your age. Let me tell you something, I don't know you, you may be a mature 16 year old, but a 34 year old man, he knows what he is doing. He might like you and you just may be in love with him, but the fact is, you guys shouldn't be seeing each other and you both know that. That's why he hasn't met your parents yet. Question you should ask yourself is, why does he want someone so young, why isn't he with someone already? I think he just wants some young meat and you are naive and gullible and he knows it. Be careful. Most older men will give you what you want, but in return you have to give them what they want and most of them are possessive.

Answer 8

Just be honest and tell them the sooner the better and sometimes what we think is love is not,im 19 and dated a 36 year old whom i thought i truly loved but didnt.U c being with a much older man is tricky because they have all the experience,they know exactly what to say to make u melt.I hope u take care of yourself and that ur relationship works out unlkike mine.

Answer 9

Are both of you nuts???!!! Give me his address so I can kick his a55 before he goes to prison!! After he gets there, he will be the little girl!! I have a daughter your age, and God help the guy if she ever does what you are doing!!!
When you get older, would you let Your 16 year old daughter be with a 34 year old guy? I dought it!!
Get some real help!!

Answer 10

Hi, look i don't think that's love. i experience the same thing before but the guy was just playing with me. so be careful with your mom she has reasons to get mad because you are only 16 and he is 34. he is to old for you, find another young guy and live your life the way it has to be: having fun , going to parties, and having a lots of friends.