Unfair treatment?

Question

I am 21 and moved out of my parents home almost a year ago. My husband and I live in Germany. I am now moving back (my own place) because my husband is being deployed to Iraq. Since I was 16 I have had 3 cars that were all at least 10 years old, and didnt last over 2 or 3 years. My dad has helped me get a few of them (all under $1,000) but my mom was never really able to. A few years ago my mom got in a better financial situation and just a few months ago, got herself a brand new car. She gave her old car, a 02 jeep Liberty to my 16 year old sister. I think this is really unfair. I think she should have given me the jeep and I would give my sister my 90 Ford Explorer. I had to drive crap cars when I was a teen, why not her? Its not that I expect my mom to give me things for the rest of my life, I just think that since she is in a position to give a good car away, it should go to the older more responsible daughter, especially since I was never given anything like that. Am I wrong?

Answer 1

You are MARRIED!!! She owes you nothing. Grow up, you twit.

Answer 2

Your mother probably figured since you had previously gotten cars from your dad, and at this time had one of your own that was working, that the younger sister deserved to have one given to her as well. After all she is still in the home and you are with your husband. You are quite old enough to provide for yourself at this point and should not be worried about who gets what of the kid(s) living at home still. She wasn't trying to make you feel bad or treat you unfairly, just trying to give your sister something she could use for a while.

Answer 3

Life isn't fair...whoever told you that is was lied.

Yes you are wrong, your mother shouldn't give anything to her adult married daughter over her underage child. If you wanted to keep getting things, you shouldn't have gotten married and moved out. Do you see the difference? It's nice that your dad is helping, however that doesn't suddenly created a requirement that your mother do so too.

I find it amazing that you are so selfish and self-centered that you would want your little sister to go without so you can get more. Especially since you are suppose to now be a responsible adult...

Answer 4

Yes. You are in a position to provide a better car for yourself at this time in your life and your sister isn't. I don't think your mom planned on waiting until you were grown to be better off financially so that she could get out of buying you a "better" car, it just happened that way.

Be happy for your sister and find a job and buy your own car while your husband is in Iraq - you may as well keep busy while he is over there so you don't dwell on it.

Answer 5

I've had a similar situation. My mother bought me an older car. When I was in college. I had a co-op job clear across the country. I asked my mother if I could swap my car for hers while I was on my trip for 3 months. She said no.........she didn't care that I'd be traveling thousands of miles away without reliable transportation. I thank God for my father who bought me another more reliable car that got me where I needed to go.

I can't tell you you're wrong. Maybe your mother thinks that since you're older than your sister you can pay for your own cars now? I wouldn't make an issue about it. Being jealous over what your sister gets & you don't isn't good. How about this--my mother put my brother's name on her beautiful new house---& not mine. How that's for unfair treatment?

Answer 6

You are a married adult. You are responsible for your life and your possessions. Your parents were relieved of that duty when you became an adult (your sister is still a minor) and even more so when you got married.

Answer 7

grow up, ur married, ur not a child anymore, if u were under ur parents care i could see u raising hell if u were being helped by them but ur on ur own so stop being so pety about this junk and realize ur husband shoudl be taking carte of ryou not ur parents!