why do you think he is hiding how he really feels but he loves me is IT a trust matter?

Question

i was thinking today when i ask my b/f if he was in a bad mood yesturday he didnt want to answer my question but he did he said that he was in a bad mood then he ask me how i knew i told him that i could tell then he look in my eyes long and hard then he look away and he look as if he was thinking really hard but not in a bad way he look happy he didnt say anything for about 10 minutes until i ask him whats wrong

Answer 1

Well being that I kind of just did this to my boyfriend last night, there is probably something on his mind about either you, him, and/or the relationship and he may be feeling apprehensive about communicating and opening up to you about it. This may stem from his being hurt in the past when he did open himself up and became vulnerable or perhaps he does have something to say but he may feel that what he has to say might jeopardize what you two already have together and/or it might land up hurting you. My reasoning for not opening up and being like that was basically a combination of all three reasons that I have mentioned. However, communication and trust are vital to a successful relationship, so I did finally talk about what was bothering me and we were able for the most part, to clear up the situation. I do kind of feel vulnerable at the moment and want to distance myself to a degree because of it but I am trying my hardest not to because my boyfriend deserves the world and not to be pushed away. I think that you should talk to your boyfriend and find out what's going on because by distancing himself and keeping quiet about how he feels, it is going to cause you to become growingly suspicious, frustrated, and to doubt yourself and the relationship because you have no idea what is bothering him and if his problem does indeed deal with you and the relationship, he may become resentful and even more distant then he already appears to be with you. You don't have to nag him but I would tell him that you feel like there is something wrong and it is upsetting you to see that he isn't happy and unable/unwilling to confide in you no matter what the situation is. I wish you nothing but the best of luck but I do think that he should be more open in his communication with you and that he actually does come around and tell you what's going on so that you can talk about and come to some resolution together. Take care :)

Answer 2

My wife use to ask me the same thing and it bothered me because she thought it had to do with her, and it never did. Sometimes people are in bad moods no matter what. Anything can cause it, work, money, family or even a bad night of sleep. In the future, if you detect that he is in a bad mood, ask him sincerely without trying to make him feel bad if he would like to talk about anything that he's thinking about or feeling. If he says no, then just say o.k. Dont worry, If he didn't want to be with you, he would have split already. Sometimes it got on my nerves when my wife would continually ask me if it was something she did or if I didn't love her any more. It just wears the guy out. Sorry to be so blunt, but it's the truth.

Answer 3

Too many experiences with that situation!! Its hard to say whats going on. He could feel guility of doing something he shouldn't have, believe me its the men that you least expect that will hurt you. Or maybe he has had bad relationships in the past and finds it hard to open up anymore. If thats the case it just takes alittle longer for the trust to kick in.

Answer 4

Sounds like he isn't telling all. If he isn't, why not? Maybe there should be a trust issue. Normally guys only act like there is something to hide if there is. You need to ask him more direct questions, like why was he in a bad mood, etc. If he is unwilling to answer, something is going on and you need to decide if you can live with his secrets.

Answer 5

regardless of being in bad mood there must always be communication

Answer 6

Most guys don't talk about their feelings. Get used to it.