My mother had a retirement party I, my brother & my aunt were invited to. I heard my aunt say to my brother "don't forget about Saturday." I didn't ask "what's Saturday?" My mother doesn't have her sister around.....she may talk to her on the phone but there's no contact between me & my aunt. It just hurt me that she invited my brother & not me to her anniversary. Should I tell her this hurt me? Or should I just let it go? I've never done anything to her. I've never even had a single conversation with her. If I did talk to her I'd say "Do you remember mom's retirement party? I heard you say to * don't forget about Sat." I saw the photos I just wanted to say it hurt me that you didn't invite me." That is all I would say. Should I?
2007-05-24 03:39:33 · 8 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There's just been no relationship with her or my mother's family. I am of a different race than my adoptive mother & her sister. So that's the other layer. My adoptive brother who is my mother's biological child is bi-racial...... but looks white.
2007-05-24 03:46:20 · update #1
Cowboy-----I think she probably just didn't want a Black at her party..
2007-05-24 03:47:00 · update #2
Ask yourself what you wish to accomplish by talking to you aunt about this situation. If you are looking to hurt her or to make yourself feel better, don't do it. Let it go & realize life is too short to let other people's pettiness get your down.
If you wish to speak to her about this because you want to have a better relationship, then go ahead & talk to her. Talk about the relationship, not about the lack of invitation. A closer relationship will lead to more invitations.
2007-05-24 03:52:01 · answer #1 · answered by retropink 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say yourself you have no relationship with this Aunt so she probably thought you wouldn't be interested in coming to her party. If you want to have a relationship with her then you may want to try and begin one by calling her and inviting her to dinner or lunch or something. It sounds like she has a relationship with your brother, but not much of one with you or your mother. Frankly, most of us wouldn't hang out with our relatives if they weren't relatives, as they aren't the type of people we would pick for friends. Would you choose your Aunt for a friend if she wasn't a part of your family?
Let it go - you are taking this personally and it really doesn't have anything to do with you.
2007-05-24 04:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her that you are really upset about not being invited. You should also be upset with your brother for not telling you and your mother for not telling you.
2007-05-24 03:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes tell her she may think you wouldn't come because of the lack of your willingness to talk to her or call or have and relationship with her take the first step.
let her know you care
2007-05-24 03:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with telling her how you feel. You need to be smart though. Tell her in a good decent way, and she will probably tell you what's going on.
2007-05-24 03:43:17 · answer #5 · answered by true love 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i guess if u think its worth discussing but to me ur aunt sounds like all my aunts, extremely rude! if they dont want me to be apart of their life theirs no use forcing a bond on them. if u want to say something, than ya do it, but me i'd just be like whatever.
2007-05-24 03:42:50 · answer #6 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, why havent you ever talked to her? yes, if it hurts you and you dont know why she didn't invite you, ask her.
2007-05-24 03:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by jane j 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
call her
2007-05-24 03:41:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋