My 22 year old daughter asks her boyfriend to help around the house when he stays with her, she still lives at home. I have 2 other children 16 and 6 I do not feel it is appropriate for her to ask him to hang out all of our laundry including undies.
What do you think.... its not an issue its just that anything goes with her and him and anytime I raise these issues she acts as if I have issues.
2007-05-24 03:07:44 · 24 answers · asked by BettyBoop 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I see an even bigger issue. Your 22 year old doesn't respect you enought as to live by your rules. She has a nice, but very week at heart boyfriend, by the way. Appropriate or not, she should not question it. Since you are clearly upset with the situattion, she should just live it.
This is just a hint of what she can do....manipulate boyfriend, raise against mom's wishes, and being a bad exaqmple to your younger ones (imagine 3 of them trying to break your authorithy - kids do that without even realising...)
My friend, get a backbone quickly, be in charge of your life, or worser things than this will start to happen.
2007-05-24 03:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by liellys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure why there would be an issue over the boyfriend doing the laundry being a bad influence on the younger children when you don't think it's a bad influence for him to be staying over and sleeping with her in the same house as the younger sibs. If your going to let the younger one's see him staying over, then you need to let the laundry issue go. Mayhaps they should be getting thier own place if it bugs you that much.
2007-05-24 03:21:03 · answer #2 · answered by Lady M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the boyfriend, how well you know him and how long they have been together. If it has just been a couple of weeks, then, yes, that would be a little bit awkward, but if they've been together a long time and he's 'like family' well I think it's an excellent sign that he's prepared to contribute, especially if he stays over a lot. I think many people would be more upset if their daughter's boyfriend was a lazy bum who couldn't be bothered to help out when he stays! On the other hand, maybe you just have a lazy daughter who likes hassling her boyfriend into doing her chores for her... ;-) Hx
2007-05-24 03:14:51 · answer #3 · answered by rainy-h 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your house and you make the rules . . . and if you feel it is inappropriate for whatever reason then that's the end of it.
If your daughter wants to play house . . . tell her to get her 22 year old butt into a place of her own. Quite frankly . . . I do think the issues you have are not related to the rules you set from your own house, but I think your issues may be you need to be more assertive and take charge of YOUR house.
2007-05-24 03:17:53 · answer #4 · answered by Skully 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they do no longer hate the boy as a guy or woman, they hate the actuality that this youthful guy is removing their daughter's innocence. Wether their kissing, hugging, having intercourse and so on, it seperates them from their daughters in way they are in a position to't administration (which additionally drives him loopy cuz adult adult males are administration freaks.) they like to be the only guy thats extra desirable than a chum to their daughter and this is confusing whilst that would not ensue. this is no longer something own to the boyfriend. this is only Father instinct. and not all Dads have this.
2016-10-13 08:02:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. What a great guy to be willing to help around his girlfriend's house just to spend time with her and to get to know you and your other kids. After all, they could be moving in together, into drugs, she could be pregnant, he could be abusive - but NO. He's hanging out the laundry. Wow. I'm impressed.
I bet he's polite, respectful, kind and gentle with you and your other kids, too.
Put your worries behind you and thank the Lord for His blessings.
He's a nice guy.
If you're concerned about your tattered underwear - there's always Wal-mart.
2007-05-24 04:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is your problem with your daughter's boyfriend, then consider yourself one lucky mom. Your daughter has a boyfriend who not only spends time with her in your house, but helps with chores! This is a blessing. There are a million places they could be, and doing a million different things. Take a moment and think about that, then you'll not care whether he sees your familiy's skivies or not.
2007-05-24 03:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by georgiabirdgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a blessing that a young man would even think of hanging out other people's undies. Be thankful and drop this particular issue.
2007-05-24 03:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Must admit it would make me a bit uncomfortable, but perhaps we're a bit old fashioned? I think the important thing is to encourage him to be helpful around the house, and to lean how dot do things properly, more important than seeing undies, especially as he doesn't give a hoot.
2007-05-24 03:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by proud walker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It clearly is an issue with you. Whats the big deal? He's only helping out around the house. God calm down, be glad she has a nice boyfriend who doesn't mind hanging out the washing with her!
2007-05-24 03:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by Lola 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋