well..my kid has started taking the name of my baby sitter , instead of me when he needs to get off the crib/ or once he wakes up in the morning .
he is 18 m/o age . its driving me nuts! What can i do ?
2007-05-24 02:09:34 · 11 answers · asked by barley 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
i know it's hard but you have to realize that he spends more waking hours with the babysitter than with you , most likely. just tell him that you're mommy whenever he does it...he'll get the hang of it.....he knows who you are, he just uses the name he hears most. he'll grow out of it soon.
2007-05-24 02:15:20 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ooooooh... I know it's disheartening, but it's a normal mistake, easy to make for a toddler.
He's around the sitter a lot, so the names and knowledge of where he is can be a little confusing. He's not doing it on purpose, and it doesn't mean he loves the sitter more than he loves you, so try to understand that it's just him getting confused.
When he calls out for the sitter, go to him, gently tell him, "No, baby, I'm Momma," and carry on. My youngest did this for a while, and after a few times, he loved the fact that he got a rise out of me, and he would do it on purpose for fun. Don't let it get to you.
In fact, you can take it as a sign that he is in the hands of a babysitter he likes and who cares for him well. Instead of getting jealous or annoyed, try to see it as a positive that your child is happy, healthy and safe. There's nothing negative about him having more people who love him, and more people he loves in return.
"Nono" has no clue what she's talking about. This is a normal stage in development, and not spending every waking moment with your child will not cause the child to forget who you are or see you as the non-mommy for all eternity.
My neice is 20 months old, and everytime I babysit her at my house, she calls me Mommy (and annoys my kids, who will sit and argue with her that I'm THEIR Momma, not hers!). When we're out to eat with the extended family (often), I see her call her dad Mommy. She calls my mother Mommy. Mommy, apparently, is the person with the food. She will call any adult "Mommy", whether she's in the presence of her own Mommy or not.
2007-05-24 10:24:58 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean "talking" cause taking the name makes sense if someone chooses to when getting married or adopted. Id just reinforce that "mommies here"
Then again, maybe your sitter leaves them in there too long, maybe something to look into.
2007-05-24 09:15:39 · answer #3 · answered by lillilou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY son is 28 months old now. As the majority of babies do, he said dad-da long before he said mommy. In fact, he only said mama until 2 months ago he up and said, "mommy." Boy, that was a sweet moment. And it has been mommy ever since. Don't stress out about it. As people told me, your baby knows you are special compared to others. When he/she says the babysitters name I would respond something like, "yea....they're gone right now. mommy's got you now." End of subject. If you make it a big deal, it'll become a BIG deal. Be sweet and enjoy your bundle of joy!
2007-05-24 09:23:59 · answer #4 · answered by HeVn Bd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it too much. It's just a phase that will pass. I'm guessing your child spends a lot of time with the sitter and just doesn't "shift gears" when you are around. Try not to take it personally. My son 16 months calls my husband "mama" constantly. He knows how to say Daddy and when his daddy is around, my son wants NOTHING to do with me, but he still says mama when he wants something. It's just what he's used to saying because I spend more time with him than my husband does. There really isn't much you can do about it, rather than just GENTLY reminding your son that your name is "mama." That's what my husband does. When he calls you "sitters name" sometimes you can say, "my name is mama, sweetie. Can you say mama?" something like that. Good luck!
2007-05-24 10:26:29 · answer #5 · answered by Amy27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's totally normal for him to get confused . I have a daycare and kids call my mommy half of the time. Except for my daughter who calls me Mrs. Dawn half the time because that's what the other kids say. He knows who you are, just say mommy when he says the wrong name. Kids get used to saying a name all day at daycare, they just carry it through. It has absolutely no reflection on how much he loves you.
2007-05-24 10:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by Daybreak 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay if a mother does not spend enough time with her baby in the growing stages the baby is likely to associate with someone she/he is familiar with in this case the baby sitter.Start spending lots of time with ur baby let her see u all the time talk to the baby so that she/he can start to know ur voice and allways hold her in ur arms if u dont she will neva call you mommy.
2007-05-24 09:19:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
they get confused. it is normal . I have a day care my little ones do this all the time they forget. they spend so much time with you and so much time with the sitter they just dont think at the time it is nothing against you. just correct them every time
2007-05-24 09:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by fawneyblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just learning language... he's trying out words he hears. That's how he learns.
There is no way he can possibly get his little head around the fact that one word infuriates you.
So chill out, calm down and wait untill he learns more words.
2007-05-24 09:37:03 · answer #9 · answered by mgerben 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Price you pay for having to leave him with a babysitter for so long....
2007-05-24 09:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋