Boyfriend issue?

Question

I told my bf of 9 months that i was pregnant 2 weeks ago and he told me we'll talk about it. But the problem is he's bein delayin/not showin up all the times we suppose to meet to a point i told him i had enough n that i give up. Well he told me not to give up....He keeps on telling me he is very busy and that i shouldnt worry we will talk......bt he is never there and time is goin by so fast (as im bout 15 weeks nw) plus i truely n deeply miss him at this point in my life. How should i go about gettin him back and also what could be the problem wit him? is he on a plan to runnn?or is he hiding somethn from me?.........I have tried everything and it never works........any suggestion please :-(

Answer 1

If you are going to have this baby, you are going to do it alone. Be sure you get child support from this loser, though. That will be the only support you can remotely count on. If a man refuses to acknowlege his child and take responsibility for your pregnancy, you do NOT want him in your life. He is a loser. Get yourself together and make your decisions. It is up to you to do what YOU need to do. Do NOT rely on him.

Answer 2

Why don't you call him and tell him that you're going to be doing this with or without him, and that his behaviour is telling you he neither cares for you or the baby. Whatever way he wants to go on this, he's still going to be a father. Him putting off seeing you doesn't change that fact.

Do you think he loves you? To be honest, if my partner acted the same way, I would think they were avoiding me because of the commitment issue, and probably didn't intend on being in a relationship with me longterm.

Life goes on, don't base your happiness around another person. If he wants to act this way, then one day, he'll regret it.

Be strong, toughen up and go and see a doctor to get some advice on the situation. Maybe this guy is having a panic attack and can't think clearly to be able to have the talk with you- maybe he can't decide if he wants you to have the baby or not. Either way, it's not his decision. It's your decision. He doesn't sound like he's going to be a reliable father when the baby is born, so you may want to speak to your friends and family to work out a support system for you and the baby ahead of time.

All the best, hope you get what you want.

Answer 3

I know how hard it could be when guys just keep you hanging like that. It is kinda like they put you on the back burner until they have had enough fun or something. You just really need to talk to him and tell him that you either need all of him or you cant have him at all. Your feelings and heart are at stake here. You are pregnant and you cannot be dealing with all of this worring and stress. It is not good for you or the baby. Yall created a child together and he can either live up to what he is supposed to be (a supportive boyfriend and a father to your baby) or he needs to hit the road. At this point in your life, you dont have time to keep hanging on. You need to find out from him what is going on so that you will know for sure and you can start planning and making preprations for your future with this baby. He could be being honest...he may be busy right now, weather it be something good, or bad. I know that it hurts but you cant make choices for him. If he chooses to see another girl, do drugs, or work too much...that is up to him. You can WISH things for him to do, but you cannot make his decisions for him. Just like noone can make them for you. If he doesnt want to be there and man up and let you know what is going on, he doesnt deserve you or this baby. And I know that you want someone to love and someone to love you back, you want to be in a realtionship, but when you think about it, if you have noone else in life, you will soon have a little baby that loves you deeply. It will capture your heart in everything that it does. It will look up to you, it will cry for you, yearn for you, depend on you, love you, make you happy, make you sad, it will love you unconditionally....what more could you ask for? And sooner or later you will find someone who will fall in love with you and be a father to your baby if the babys dad will not take on his responsibility. 9 months is a long time, and if he wants to throw it all away when you need him the most...you deserve better girl. I wish you the best of luck and remember that you have to be strong right now, your body does not need all of this extra stress and baggage. If you worry too much and dont take care of yourself, you could lose this baby. Is it really worth it? Let him go, if he really loves you he will come back soon. Good luck and congrads on baby. ;-)

Answer 4

Your boyfriend sounds scared of having a child. I think you should call him on the phone and tell him how you feel about this and how he has been avoiding showing up to your meetings. I don't think he is on a plan to run but just to make sure I would go to his job and tell them that as soon as possible you need to see him. Maybe he needs to get a psychartrist. He might not want to tell you why he is scared of heving a baby but pretty soon when he sees that a baby isn't that bad than he will not be afriad.

Answer 5

If you want to give him the benefit of a doubt, he may be having trouble accepting the news. Now, more realistically he is not going to help you. If he truly loved you, he would be there to talk about the pregnancy. Unfortunately, you are on your own and need to address this issue with a family member or health care provider. These situations are tough to deal with all by yourself. Please seek help and forget about this boy. If he was going to help, he would have been there. I am sorry but life does go on and he is moving on without you and the baby.

Answer 6

if he cant make time for u now - heaven forbid when a innocent newborn arrives - he sounds like a loser, kick him to the kerb quick smartm you deserve better than him!

Answer 7

dump him and go see a doctor !