what am i supposed to say?
2007-05-24 01:46:25 · 25 answers · asked by twister 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You didn't say if you think you are gay or not. Some men are quite feminine and aren't gay.If this is your case then just tell them you are not gay and that you like girls. If you are gay then tell them the truth! I don't know how your family is but I would love my son's every bit as much if one of them were gay as I would if he were straight. If you are gay I pray that your family accepts you just the way you are.
2007-05-24 02:12:31 · answer #1 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok papi my question to you is first of all and please don't get mad at what I'm going to say and that is
are you gay?
If you are gay then I think that know one can really force you to tell them. I say when you are ready to confront them you will do what your heart tells you to do. But I say if you are not ready to tell tell them I say people including your family need to respect your decision no matter what.
So if your gay so whats whats wrong with that.
If you are not gay and your family still think you are then you know what let them think what ever they want eventually they will find out the truth even though I know boo that you want them to believe in you but parents sometimes don't really know what they are saying nor do we. So all I can tell you is to be strong and be patient. Cause it is your words against their.
but you know what in this case I think what you have to do is talk to them I always say that it is very important to have a communication with people that is as friends, family, children etc.
Tell them that what they are saying is hurting you and that you do not appreciate them saying false accusation.
Tell them that regardless if you was or not it shouldn't really matter. Just tell them that as parents your suppose to be always around for support and that me being or not being gay ill never change the love that i have for you guys.
I wish you good luck boo
2007-05-24 09:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by mary o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are gay this could be an opportunity to come out if you are ready for this. If you aren't gay then just blow them off they will get the message. For some reason in our country guessing someones sexuality seems to be some sort of game don't let anyone play games with your feelings if it bothers you that they think this then you have two choices tell them you gay or tell them your not. Blessed prayers in your journey
2007-05-24 09:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you say to your family is up to you. What I would say to you is look inside and think about why that bothers you so much. This is an opportunity to get to know yourself better. Are you homophobic? If so, why? If not, why would it bother you if people think you're gay?
Just be who you are. If you're gay, you're still the same person you've always been. If you're not, what does it matter what anyone else thinks? Unless your family members are planning to have sex with you, your sexual orientation is none of their business.
2007-05-24 09:27:05 · answer #4 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, are you?
If so, then it's time for a family "outing."
If not, then ask them why they feel that way.
Perhaps you're shy
Perhaps you're the only one in your family who prefers Mozart to Ozzie Ozborne.
Perhaps you just haven't met the kind of girl you want to be with - and are strong enough to hold out until you do...
But keeping silent about it won't help. The very least you can do is ask why they think you're gay.
And BTW. Gay or straight, it''s your life. Live it to the fullest and be as kind as you can to others.
2007-05-24 09:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure they have that belief for a reason. That doesn't mean to say that they're right. Ask them why they believe you are and consider whether you send the wrong message. If you come off as possibly gay, then you should know why. It could create serious problems trying to date and meet people. But, if you're not gay then set them straight.
2007-05-24 08:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by georgiabirdgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are, don't say anything and just be you.
If you aren't, you are probably giving them the impression you are gay. Act like you are man then. Show interest in masculine things....not men. Join in the testosterone activities, etc. Basically, be a man about things and show some interest in women and they won't think you are gay.
2007-05-24 08:54:39 · answer #7 · answered by Staveros 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude those are lyrics from a song called my whole family thinks im gay by bo burnham!! im not saying you're lying about your family thinking you are gay, but if you are just say something to them, and if you're not, then your family doesn't know you as well as you thought they did now do they??
2007-05-27 12:11:46 · answer #8 · answered by irish_candy_101 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you gay? If you are and ready to be honest with yourself and your family then say so. If you are not gay then I would tell them how it makes you feel when they make these accusations and insist that they stop.
2007-05-24 08:51:03 · answer #9 · answered by TTG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you gay? really? It's okay. There's substantial gay communities in all major cities in this country. You will be alright.
2007-05-24 08:50:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋