Recently split up with my ex after 2 and a half years, he turned into an **** hole and left me in lots of debt, yet i cant stop thinking about him! Anyone know how long it takes to get over someone?
2007-05-24 00:12:34 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it takes as long as u let it!! get back on the horses back and in no time you'll be flying and he will be in the past!! if you let yourself get down it will take alot longer but if you just put on a brave face and face the world with a smile life will get easier for you!!
2007-05-24 00:17:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is different for everyone. You will know when you are over your ex though. You cannot force it, but you can take your mind off it. As other people have said, get out with your friends, see your family, watch tv and films, go to the gym more, get a hobbie.
You will still find yourself thinking about them but the less of that the better.
I speak from experience. My ex ended things nearly four mths ago. For the 1st mth I was in denial/gutted. The 2nd I tried to get her back. The 3rd I got out and about.
Suddenly, at some point I can't really identify, I realised I was totally fine with things ending and that it was her loss!
One word of warning. The worse thing you can do is jump into another relationship. It will only mask the pain and will not be fair on the other person.
I know this because my ex did this. I have now heard that is on the rocks after 2 mths because she is unsure about me!!
Bit ironic really!!
2007-05-24 01:43:48 · answer #2 · answered by bepositive1976 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I split with my partner of 10 years in 2001 and it wasn't until 2-3 years later that I felt ready to start dating seriously again.
My circumstances were very different however because we had a child together and I would still have to see him when he collected our daughter for visits. I think if I didn't have to have that contact I would have got over him a lot sooner.
2007-05-24 00:20:39 · answer #3 · answered by Adele P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends, to be quite honest. i split from a real a*****e thort i'd got over him very quick after6 years. then while out one night with friends 6 months later a tune came on the cd player and i found myself crying my eyes out, and i felt such an idiot, cuz i'd finished with him. but that was the one and only time. so the answer is it depends. the one thing that will make you still think about him is the debt, so try and get rid of it, cuz while your in it you'll still think of him.whether in a good or bad way for leaving you in that state. chin up xx
2007-05-24 00:30:27 · answer #4 · answered by vron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say it takes half the time you were with someone to get over them! So you've gota little while left yet unfortunatly. But I think it differs with every relationship. You'll get there in the end, and you'll know when he's out of your heart and mind. Just keep your distance and keep yourself busy good luck hun x
2007-05-24 00:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not convinced of this rule but I've heard that it takes half the length of the relationship to fully get over someone. So in your case, that's 18 months! Of course, you can always have rebound relationships during that time. But realistically, I think 6 months is enough to get over this guy. Just avoid any contact with him so your emotions don't get all riled up for him again.
2007-05-24 00:18:14 · answer #6 · answered by koiboy 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Some say that it takes at least half the time you were together, it depends on the circumstances. You should go out and enjoy yourself and try not to think about it, its easy to say i know but it helps- i've been there.
2007-05-24 00:18:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is up to you. You can meet someone a week later and forget or you can be depressed for years. You have to get on with your life and meet someone and you will get over with it. Then you will look back and think the whole ordeal was ridiculous.
2007-05-24 01:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by Robert Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he left you in debt nice guy just keep repeating that to yourself
plus the fact his an arsehole it should not take to long. have a night out/in with your friends .or do something nice for someone.look on the bright side you could have had children been with him for ten years than found out his an ARSEHOLE
you have had a Lucky escape cut your loses and run.you could take him to court for monies owed
2007-05-27 23:00:05 · answer #9 · answered by JULIE G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say it usually takes about half the time you were with the person to get over them. So I'd say it's gonna take you about 15 months.
2007-05-24 00:16:29 · answer #10 · answered by Jen G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋