how to teach house keeper?Her age same as my mother.sometime she *sorry*Flatus in front of me also when I eats

Question

first year she do good job. but now not so. She take care my baby from birth. and she stay and sleep in my house. sometimes she like to use my things (cosmetics, eat my foods etc). Now she very often to do not polite. Should I say the hard words to her?

Answer 1

From the US

First of all, thank you for using English to the best of your abilities. It's a tough language to learn, so again, thank you.

I'm assuming you are from a different country and truly I do not know customs surrounding servants.

Here in the US, housekeepers are employees and are treated that way - They have duties which are spelled out before hiring. They have expectations regarding behavior and treatment of their bosses - which are spelled out before they are hired.

Good household servants are very difficult to find - at least here in the US.

And a good housekeeper/nanny is paid very well - Many nannies are specially educated to be good nannies. Same is true for housekeepers.

As employees, they are treated with great respect, they are not cursed/yelled at, struck, locked in rooms etc. Indeed, a couple from India, living in the US, are now behind bars for treating their servants badly. So bear that in mind.

I'm going to suggest that you sit down and write out each duty that you want from your servant. Make sure you are specific - not "clean the house and take care of baby" - that's too broad - but Sweep and vaccuum each room, dust the furniture, etc. etc. Spell this out as detailed as you can just as if you had to do this work yourself - for a stranger. Include periodic work evaluations so you can monitor the quality of her work and speak with her about it on a regular basis.

I would go so far as go to a lawyer to have him look at your list to make sure it's a reasonable list of duties. I don't know the labor laws in your country but it wouldn't hurt to speak with a lawyer.

Then decide what is an appropriate pay - and add maybe 10% more to that so the job comes with too good a wage to turn down.

THEN - meet with your housekeeper and go over the list and the pay and benefits of working with you. Tell her that you have noticed some changes in her attitude and her work and would like this not to be a problem to your working relationship. Explain that since you are the boss, then it is up to HER to adjust to your new list - especially since you are paying her top money for her work.

Now this discussion works both ways - once you spell out her duties and come to a working arrangement, you cannot come back later and change things just as you please. Again, a lawyer may be able to help you with the laws of your country regarding servants.

I would assume that there are a lot of qualified housekeepers and nannies in your country. Don't hesitate to hunt for a new housekeeper/nanny if this woman can't or won't work out well.

But key is how business-like you can be. YOU, as the boss, cannot shout, curse, wave things, threaten, or be dramatic in any way. This is a business arrangement. Nothing more. You're paying this woman top money for her work and you expect the best she has to offer. If she can't or won't - then find a new person who can and will.

But if you are dramatic and hysterical, then you lose the negotiating advantage.

Answer 2

Get a new housekeeper!!
this woman is disrespectful in your home. She is an employee. so either tell her what her job description is and what your expectations are , or find someone new.

If she is not polite do you want your child learning to be unpolite too???
she should not be touching your cosmetics. If you don't want her to eat your food, tell her. she should not be taking /using your things without your ok.

Answer 3

Get a new housekeeper! Do not be unduly nasty to her, as she can get even. Change the house-keys.