Here is my ordeal, I have 3 children. 2 daughters ages 12, 10 and a son who is 9. My oldest daughter because of her behavior had a horrible school year and barely passed to get promoted to middle school, and she thinks she deserves a party, and also keep in mind she has been very mean to her other siblings also. My younger daughter has gotten straight a's all year long. And my son has done his best all year long has gotten mostly a's, b's, and 1 c. Do you think I should through her a party???? Part of me feels I have devoted so much time trying to get her to pass, that I have neglected my other two children.
2007-05-23 23:24:01 · 12 answers · asked by TAMIKA T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds as though your other two children have tried hard all year and made decent grades. They are the ones deserving a party. As a mother I know that you ,despite the terrible year you have had with the oldest, still don't want her to feel left out. I would throw a party for the three of them. One party celebrating the year's achievements.
2007-05-23 23:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by fruit bat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that if she picks up her act (and I don't just mean how she does in school, I also mean her behaviour towards her siblings), she can have a party at the time of the next mid-year reports. Tell her also that at the moment, she has done nothing to deserve one and will therefore not have one at this time. If you throw her a party that SHE thinks she deserves (but you don't), you will only be reinforcing her belief that she can behave any way she likes all year long, and you'll still "reward" her in the end because you are too spineless to say NO.
2007-05-23 23:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so....the part of what you said that got me thinking is that you say she thinks she deserves a party. I think she might have quite an attitude going on. No one should get a party who thinks they deserve one.
Could you have some kind of "Got Done With Another Year Of School" party for all your kids?
You are correct in wondering if you've neglected your other two. It's hard when one child needs more of your time and attention than the others. Being aware of that is a good start to trying to change it.
2007-05-23 23:35:39 · answer #3 · answered by mom123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there's an inexpensive place you can have a party at... like at a park. Find a picnic table or a shelter at a park, get some food and a cake or something, and have the party there. That way, you won't have to spend too much money and she can have as many friends at the party as she wants. And then later, she can have one of her best friends spend the night and you won't have to worry about too many kids giving you a headache in your house. Good luck!
2016-05-21 09:35:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always keep one thing in mind all the fingers are not same...expecting all your kids to be the same is not right....every kid has his her own individual identity...comparisons hence is bad....2nd about being mean to other siblings...try reasoning out with her...so what if she is 12...she is still a kid...she doesnt know the consequencies of er action...you do because unlike her your actions would be well thought out and planned...not throwing a party fo her is an example...
What u do and how u treat her is going to decide what she would be in future...set good examples..forgive her throw a party for her..she deserves it....understand he why she does it talk her out find out why she behaves like this be friend to her...and sh will be fine ....kids DO NOT deservd to be PUNISHED....no matter what...what u r doing is really mean..i mean asking us f u should throw a party for her or not...you re her dad ....she loves u trusts u what if she comes to know that u asked this on the net...its bad dont do it..please!!!
2007-05-23 23:34:52 · answer #5 · answered by araina_08 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think its better that you wait the right moment to throw a party as if you this now this will create a negative attitude in the mind of your other children. What i think is that better you tell her that u wil throw her a big party together with your other children, if she stays well with your other children and that if she does well in the future. But for the time being you can organise a good familly meal together.
2007-05-23 23:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by amar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your oldest daughter should set an example to your other two kids. Maybe you should delve into what her problems are rather than rewarding her bad behavior by throwing her a party. Good luck
2007-05-23 23:31:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. As a parent, I would not let her manipulate to get her way/party! Your other two stuck to their studies and that is why they did so well. I think they deserve a party!!
Plus, just because she is older, this gives her NO special treatment! Just the order of birth!
2007-05-23 23:34:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do a small family party, and tell her that if she does better this year and treats her siblings right, she can have a very nice party next year.
2007-05-23 23:28:57 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should throw her a small party with just family and show her that because she passed you are proud of her but if she does better she can have a bigger and better party next year if she proves that she deserves it.
2007-05-23 23:30:35 · answer #10 · answered by <3Princess<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋