would paul burrie for him and he said yes and then a few hours before the services he backed out he didnt go to any of the services and now he blames me for it he says i am the reason he didnt because we got into a fight but he always said he cared so much for dad dad and i were very close and he knew that what do i do after 8 years of being with him i cant forgive he wasnt there when i needed him the most what do you guys think
2007-05-23 23:19:07 · 5 answers · asked by babykate1234 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
write ur question clearly
i could'nt understand
2007-05-23 23:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by ss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss. Losing your Dad, and having a bf go emotionally vacant on you when you needed him most must have been so difficult for you.
I don't agree with what he did to you, I think it is awful he let you down when you needed him.
but, maybe he has a hard time dealing with death, and grieving and didn't know how to make you feel better or help in an appropriate manner. People deal with their emotions differently.
Some Men have a hard time dealing with things they can't fix. their insecurities get the best of them and they don't deal with what is really going on.
8 years is a long time. only you know how good your relationship is, and if it is worth investing more time in.
If otherwise he is a good man, then why not get some counseling together and try and figure it out, learn how to forgive and move on together as a couple.
If he is not treating you right all the time, then kick him to the curb and move on.
You deserve a man who will be there for you, no matter what.
So either help him learn how to be, or find someone who will be. Life is full of ups and downs and you don't deserve to be left alone on the downs to deal with alone.
Best of luck to you :)
2007-05-24 06:32:08 · answer #2 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, he has treated you like dirt on the day when you needed him most. And then he had the gall to blame you for his lack of sensitivity and manners. But you know what? I'm willing to bet anything you like that he only thinks this is acceptable because you have allowed him to treat you like a doormat for eight long years. Understand that this guy will never stand by you when you need him, never take responsibility for his own unbelievable callousness, and move on. Enough time wasted already.
2007-05-24 06:41:37 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who wasn't there? Who is blaming you for his own actions. Sounds like he is making excuses.
2007-05-24 06:31:48 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is confusing ask your ? again
2007-05-24 06:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋