move or stay?

Question

I live in South Africa and wondering if i should move to australia i have alot of problems with my mother i think its mainly because im the only child and she never lets me go out well only if they family my age maybe but other than that i stat at home and whats worse is that alot of guys ask me out but i cant go because my mother wont let me so most of the guys call me a ice queen because i always say no so thats why i want to move and have a free life and do what i want to do but i dont want to be selfish to and just leave my family and if i stay it will be my old story .

IM 20 IM TURNING 21 IN JULY

Answer 1

You don't say how old you are, but I'm guessing your mother is just trying to protect you and keep you out of trouble. Mothers are smarter than we think when we're just branching out in the world. We push against that naturally, because we are in the process of learning to fly out of the nest, and if we didn't want to get independant of mummy, it wouldn't be healthy.
But moving to another continent is maybe overreacting a little. I am pretty sure you will regret moving that far away. You will be independant soon enough without going that far away from any family. Family is important no matter what age you are. What would happen when you got married, had a baby, and then how would your poor mother ever see her only grandchild? Your child would be deprived of a grandparent who would no doubt shower them with love and make all your lives more full.

Don't do anything that you can't take back. And remember your mama loves you. When you have a child (in years to come--you sound MUCH too young now!) you will understand how much she loves you. No matter how old you get.

Answer 2

Well you're not just thinking of moving out from home, but moving to another continent altogether. You should probably give it more thought before making a decision. 1st, how do you intend to stay in Australia? A tourist visa is only good for six months if I remember correctly. 2nd, how are you going to support yourself there? You sound like you're still financially dependent on your family. I don't even need to go to point 3. Points 1 & 2 should get you thinking already.

Good luck.

Answer 3

i recently left my mothers house and moved across the pacific!! (Mind you i come from a military family) I am now living free and easy...but there were set backs in the beginning make sure that you are financially stable to move out and that you know where you want to be living and where you are going to be working...I left with nothing to my name, and no job in mind...also no where that i could call my own...fortunetly enough i have a wonderful job, and a lovley home....i couldnt have asked for more!! So be prepared for the rough times, but if you feel that you are emotionally, fiancially, and mentally ready to make your move then go for it, but make sure that you do sit down with you family (mom in particular) and let them know why you want to move, also keep in regular contact with your family...you never know when you may need them!

Besk of luck and god bless!!

Answer 4

Are you really ready to face the world alone without family? If you feel that you are, then make your move. You did not say your age, so I am assuming you are of age to leave home. Just be careful. Life is much harder without family to count on.

Good Luck!!

Answer 5

solve your own problem in your own home... u will not forgive urself f u left the only mother you will ever had alone for this small matter.... all you need is to set with her and talk talk talk.

Answer 6

is it necessary to move to another continent?? couldn't you just move somewhere else in South Africa??

Answer 7

Tell her your problem and tell her you want to enjoy ur life.
Don't be so cruel to give this punishment to ur mom.Don't snatch her only child from her.
Believe me she loves u.

Answer 8

Move.
I have a spare bedroom u can use.