He forgot our anniversary - should I say something (if yes, what?) or shall I just be in a strop with him??

Answer 1

Find a way of making sure that he knows and never forgets again. By the way, did you get him a gift?

Answer 2

Hey, that's a man thing. A wise and caring wife/partner just starts letting it be known a few days beforehand, so the two can decide together what to do - and that also gives him an opportunity to plan a little surprise, if he's that way inclined. So take responsibility to ensure it will be a really pleasant day, with something good for you both to remember. You don't really want it to be remembered as the time you acted childishly, do you? You have to build a store of good memories!

So for goodness sake contact him and say something nice and loving about it, if you haven't done so already! And have something nice in store for him, the gift he'll value most -
"I've got you a gift as cool as can be;
just little old lovable me."

The kids and I all forgot my husband's birthday one year, until he asked us if we knew what day it was - at 10.0pm. We were all mortified and wished he had somehow reminded us earlier!

Answer 3

It is pointless being in a strop. He doesn't understand, you stop the communication and all it does is make barriers.
If it was a genuine mistake, plan another one next week. And do him a kindness, remind him every year. He's a man, it's more important to you, make sure he remembers.
If he couldn't be bothered, do what I did. I went to the jeweller, told him I wanted THIS pair of earrings and if he didn't buy it today, I would buy THAT pair (ten times the price.) I got it that day and he learnt the lesson.

Answer 4

Don't trust the lying git. As a man, I can predict his reaction:

he is very stressed at work, or
you are the most important person in his life, and he loves you, or
it will never happen again, and oh how he's sorry

I once forgot my wife's birthday - which has never happened since (she was not very amused!). I was unemployed at the time and in a foreign country, and I know I was thinking about myself and feeling low. I just missed the day.

But then there is the aspect that it was your wedding anniversary. Personally speaking, I know which day I got married on, but I never want to celebrate it. I'm been with my partner for 20 years, and a silly wedding anniversary doesn't change anything. People comsume by buying cards and gifts which you don't need.

Be yourself.

Answer 5

Take it from one who knows~don't beat around the bush and dwell on it cos all you'll achieve is stressing yourself out & what will being in a "strop" with him achieve hey? Absolutely "nothing" except make you both miserable! It's not unusual for men to forget dates (quite common in fact) so just nicely "mention" it to him but don't course a huge scene, and see what he has to say cos you might just find you've been panicking over an innocent mistake.

Good Luck!

Answer 6

As a guy, I have to say, that I have no excuses for your man if it is a wedding anniversary, if however it is an anniversary of your meeting or some such thing that you place sentimentality on then I will say that all in all most guys tend not to remember such things or place much importance on it unless reminded earlier by a hint or some such thing.

At the least you should mention to him that he forgot your wedding anniversary and you are hurt.

Answer 7

Which anniversary? Not all guys remember every month. If it was like 6 months or a year or so, then you should say something.

Just bring it up casually. Remind him that you guys have been going out for X amount of months/years, and that it was actually your anniversary a few days ago. If his reaction is one of "Really? Oh crap...", he's probably being truthful. If it's one of apathy, then he either remembered, and didn't care, or didn't remember and doesn't think it's a huge issue.

Answer 8

and what exactly does being in a strop acheive? nothing is the answer except make both of you pissed off. say something rather than stewing on it. you'll feel better and he'll make it up to you rather then get annoyed at you. you know it makes sense. just tell the man. men are bad at dates. they always have been and always will be.

Answer 9

Well obviously the most mature approach is to communicate with him!! As a woman we tend to like the silent treatment approach, but I will honestly tell you that it won't get you anywhere... If you haven't figured out by now that men don't know how to read signals then a little snap into reality will do you the world of good!!!
Number 1, we all know that he's obviously a few fries short of a hamburger to forget 1 of the most important days in his entire life...
Number 2... Non excusable! But men tend to live in a world of their own... Work, footy and beer!!!
If you don't learn to communicate properly with each other, even in the most hurtful situations then you can't expect to get the desired results from one another... My advice is talk to him, try make him understand that you don't want to have to remind him to make things special...
Chin up, don't flip out at him, but make him understand that he's hurt you!!!

Answer 10

Tell him, be honest dont cry and cause a comotion. just sit him down and be like honey this day was our anniversary and im hurt that u forgot... if he is sorry and says he will make it up then accept his apology, but if he doesnt care or acts indiffrent then something between u guys isnt right.

Answer 11

What did he say when you gave him a present? If you didn't do anything, then he might be thinking you forgot your anniversary. Give him the benefit of the doubt and talk about it as loving partners should.