i have resentaly got a boy friend and we never talk and he always thinks about him self...he is a stalker(basicaly)and i think he will kill him self if i do it...what should i say?how should i put it?should i even do it?
2007-05-23 21:33:35 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh let him kill himself..
2007-05-23 21:36:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try & end it as nicely as possible. Just tell him that things aren't working out, and that you are just too different people to continue dating. You could also say that you are not in the current mind frame for a boyfriend, & that you don't believe that he is either.
Don't let him use the excuse "I'll kill myself if you leave" on you. He sounds dangerous, and it's likely that the person that may end up hurt or dying is you. If you have to, talk to your local police station about getting a restraining order. Let your friends, family, & coworkers know that you do not want him around you. Take a self defense course so you can defend yourself if the situation ever arises.
I'm sorry that you ended up in a relationship like this.
2007-05-24 04:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to sit him down and be honest with him. Tell him that u know that he loves u but u dont feel the same way and u feel that it wouldnt be fair to either one of u to keep seeing eachother! Tell him that you need a man who u can have conversations with and a man that cares about u not just himself and that u feel that ur not getting this from ur relationship with him. Tell him that u dont want to hurt him but that this is the way that is has to be! and that ur sorry but u just cant be in a relationship with him! But remember no matter what he says or does u make it clear that u have made up ur mind that its over between the two of u and that there is nothing that he can do to change that! Dont back down even if he says that he is going to kill himself if u leave cause lots of SAD ppl say that to trap u into staying with them! He wont do it! And its not ur problem anyway! He doesnt sound very stable!
2007-05-24 04:44:20 · answer #3 · answered by Stacey-Lee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key is accountability. I did this earlier in the year and I was worried for him. I felt as though I wasn't so much 'in love', but he was obsessed. Our values were different.
Get him some accountability so that sopmeone can help him, because guy and girl accountability isn't right. Just tell him that things aren;t going so good, and you need to just be single for a while.
If he is a stalker, and you are afraid he is suicidal, then that is not an ideal relationship for you to be in.
2007-05-24 04:39:20 · answer #4 · answered by Sammy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are too young to even think about getting serious with anyone.
Report him so that there is a record of what he is doing. You can get a restraining order if he continues to stalk you after you split up with him. If you are still in school, tell your parents and your school counselor.
If he wants to kill himself that is his business. Don't let him trap you with threats. Tell him that if he ever threatens that in front of you again, you will be forced to call the police for his protection.
Whatever you decide to do, get away from this nut before he trys to hurt you.
2007-05-24 04:42:50 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be around someone that you don't like the same way, especially if he is stalking?
Talk with him and tell him you have enjoyed being friends with him but you aren't interested in him romantically and that you wish him well adn don't want to continue the friendship any longer.
And you must remember, if someone commits suicide, that is NOT your fault. We cannot control what others do and that is emotional blackmail if he tries that with you. If he says that to you, tell him to please go get counseling but your friendship is over and you hope he will take care of himself, that you will be praying for him.
And leave. Then keep him in your prayers.
2007-05-24 04:41:38 · answer #6 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth and if he has a problem with it, let him deal with it. Tell him he is stupid if he wants to kill himself. Your maybe-soon-to-be ex needs some sort of therapy. Just tell him the truth and don't hold back on anything, otherwise, it will be you who will regret it. The truth is better than some made up lie or something that will hurt even worse. Believe me, from experience...
2007-05-24 04:38:36 · answer #7 · answered by RYO 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gracie--the boy is a silly, immature, disrespectful person--and a manipulator who says and does whatever to trick you--and you have a problem--you are bright enough to tell him to get lost. Kill himself??? Let him !! That is no reason to remain under his spell. How old are you??? You have got to learn that YOU control your life--not anyone else. Tell him to get lost....before he figures he can get away with actually physically harming you--which is the next step.He is a classic abuser---tell him he will be reported to the police if he comes near you again.
2007-05-24 04:42:23 · answer #8 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow! You can't stay with him, unless you love him, he might kill you!!! So just put it easy, and say maybe we could be friends. He sounds like he needs some!
Make sure to put in that you love him just not in the way he loves you!
2007-06-01 01:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by vlw12091 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie if he wanted to kill himself he would of done it already, he is just looking for attention!!! just tell him its not working out and "u can still b friends" I don't think its a good idea to stay with him he is going to make u as crazy as he is soon enough!!
2007-06-01 04:33:08 · answer #10 · answered by Babybear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ag No! This man must grow up. Please dont be fooled by the " I will kill myself if you leave me "! He is blackmailing you dont fall for it. Think about youself, it is not selfish in this situation. He seems to be very infantile and still needs a mother to mirror how great he is. Get yourself a guy that is grown- up and interested in you! Tell him to go see a shrink!
2007-06-01 02:32:40 · answer #11 · answered by namibia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋