2007-05-23 21:24:08 · 26 answers · asked by greyskinn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
quit seeing her. talk to her via email and on the phone maybe but stop seeing her if she just wants to be friends.
2007-05-23 21:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by Becker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men, in particular, seem to find it very hard to accept that a very close relationship has ended. At least, I've been told this by a therapist, who is helping a friend of mine who still hasn't got over the girl who turned him down 15 years ago! So do your best now, to avoid ending up like that! Build a new life for yourself - an active one will compensate best. Apparently physical exercise releases endorphins into the blood stream that give you the same feel-good factor as love! And physical exercise in a group or club gives you new interests and takes your mind off the old ones. Take an active holiday with a buzz - eg white water rafting, which you can do on organised holidays without any previous experience. You'll have more to contribute when the door opens to a new relationship. All the best!
2007-05-23 21:57:47 · answer #2 · answered by jimporary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to still be with her being friends will not work. It only works when it is what both people want (which is rare). My guess is she is keeping you there "as friends" because she is unable to let you go i.e. she still has feelings. If you came out and said this to her she would run a mile.
Remove yourself from the equation. Don;t be rude but gradually break off contact over a week or two. It may be hard but without you around she may think about what she has lost.
Then give her a call in a couple of months and see how things are.
2007-05-23 23:34:25 · answer #3 · answered by bepositive1976 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its so hard when this happens. You need to look at what is good for you and being in her life right now is hurting. Support yourself by spending time with your friends and family. Create a bit of detachment sometimes people need space too to see what they have lost or not lost. Space for both of you I think is the answer here.
2007-05-23 21:39:13 · answer #4 · answered by zail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to suggest. I'm with my long tearm partner of 6 yrs, and I love the bones of him however, I'm still in love with my very first proper boyfriend, I've lost contact with him now, I started seeing him 9 yrs ago, we were together for 2 yrs. Every day I regret not keeping in touch.
2007-05-23 22:45:04 · answer #5 · answered by steph d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a girl wan to be friends after a relationship. Most prob they have make up their mind and are very firm with their decision. U can try to hint once, but if it does not bring up the sparks, just give up! Dun spoilt the good image of urself in her mind.
There are lots of girls out in the world. Good luck!
2007-05-23 21:34:51 · answer #6 · answered by cookiee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way that ur gonna get over her is to break all contact with her! think about it! U dont see her or talk to her for a while so u start to get over her. Then one day u see her and chat and ur right back to where u started. U need to realise that its over and that u need ot move on! This is the only way ur gonna get through it.
2007-05-23 21:34:21 · answer #7 · answered by Stacey-Lee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop seeing her. Still keep in contact by gradually pull away.
Get over her first. Write a blog, vent to friends. Get it out of your system. You have to face the fact taht she does not love you anymore.
Then if you feel okay, persue the friendship.
2007-05-23 21:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
due i feel for you i am in the same boat thats what my wife use to say and we are now working things out if yo luv her and know without a shadow of a doubt that she is the one then don't give up just play it kool and if it doesnt then at least you got a good friend that you can count on
2007-05-23 21:29:24 · answer #9 · answered by doughboypa26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im going through this same thing right now..He wants me back and for 20 weeks now i have been telling him no..He just doesnt know what No means..I know he loves me but there was something wrong with the realtionship or she wouldnt have broken up with you..Go out have fun chat with other girls go to the club and dance with some women just have fun..And go on with your life..Theres Other women in the world
2007-05-23 21:28:36 · answer #10 · answered by candyapplebabe32 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she knows how you feel about her, a decent person would distance herself from you unil you were over it. If she doesn't tell her.. If she does know, make sure you keep as much away as possible and one day someone else will ome along who feels the same and bingo. good luck we have all felt like this a t ne time in our life.
2007-05-23 22:05:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋