Why do men promise us girls the world, only for us to later realise it was just all talk & just a big con??

Question

Why do men say things like, "if you were my gf I'd treat you like a queen" or "I'd spend my life trying to make you happy" blah blah blah when it's never true?!
They should just be honest & say, "get with me & I'll piss you off, ignore you, sleep around, & be a tosser whenever I feel like it."

Where have all the good men gone?!

Mike, true, not all women are saints but I have yet to meet a guy with no bastard-like qualities. & I meet ALOT of men!

Answer 1

yer my boyfriend said he would take me places iv never been before. he did hospital and court.x

Answer 2

Us ladies want to hear what we wanna hear sometimes. If a guy gives you the blah blah, I tend to raise my defences and become sarcastic when this happens - he may be genuine by why take the chance and be let down in the end? For me, the empty compliments and promises are all part of the chase and challenge, which only leads to a temporary high for them but a huge downer for the girl. Don't put yourself in a position where "oh well, he was nice to me" is the best you can do - take control and say "sorry, not good enough mate". If he IS genuine, he'll respect that and try harder to convince you he is the genuine article. Try harder to see past their "blah blah" words and read between the lines.Relationships are a marathon+not a sprint!

Answer 3

Same place as all the good women. Married or living with someone who does treat them decently. Or they're gay, apparently.
Tell you what, have a healthy dose of cynicism and don't let the bugger into your knickers until you can be certain that he's half decent.
I'd say from the question you've either just got rid of, or just found out, the guy you thought was great is actually a complete p*rick. Well if you haven't dumped him, dump him.

Next time, try to be a little more discriminating who you get with. General rule of thumb (V. general!!) is the better looking a person is, the more likely they're going to jerk you around.

Or are you just too fussy? Remember relationships are all about give and take. It's not all take.

Answer 4

I'll answer your loaded question best I know how.

"The Big Con" was one title of seventy chapters I wrote all dealing with the demise of the Twin Towers.

We are all victims of a con, in one form or another.

Where have all the good men gone?

They can be found in Boot Hill, all buried there because they were a little too slow at the draw.

Men got wise, so they don't want to commit like they used to.

It used to be that the dashing Prince would come and sweep the Princess off the floor, marry her, die early, and leave her set for life.

Today, I work with lots of women who break their rear ends just so that their man can make it in this corrupted world.

Without them working hard, everything would come to a halt.

So, over the course of about forty or fifty years, women found out that it takes hard work for a couple to get by, and those who found out that it wasn't all peaches and cream, or moonlight and magnolias, opted to get divorced and would up with nothing.

Over this time period, many changes took place...changes that we didn't hardly realize because it was stealthily taking place under our noses.

The feminist movement created a world of liberated women who now have many choices and freedom they never before enjoyed.

That new found freedom gives them the opportunity to do anything they so choose, and if some of them still wish for that shining Knight in Armor, reality says...forget it.

Many of them became Lesbians, giving up on men altogether.

I didn't want to paint for you a dull picture, just wanted to illustrate what kind of wrold we now have, and every dog is on his own.

Those who succeed today work very hard, maybe too hard.

It would be nice to live in a fantacy world, but those days seem gone forever.

Welcome to the new, wacky, corrupted and fast paced world where those who fail somehow do better than those who work very hard and long hours, each and every day.

Answer 5

They're out there, you just have to look for them.

Are you being too judgemental in your men? Sure, Guy A may be hot (while Guy B is a dork), but if he's a jerk why bother? Give Guy B a chance. You may find yourself being surprisingly attracted to him.

The creepy guys promise us the world because they realize that without their promises they are complete & utter tossers. Eventually they'll end up alone & unhappy or with some complete harridan. (Well, maybe not, but it's so much more fun to imagine them miserable!)

Answer 6

If you meet a lot of men arent you a slag so your a bit of a hypocrite then arent you?

but if Ive read it wrong apologies but really the good men are the ones you never pay any attention to because we arent the loud mouths who are in your face, we are the ones who walk you to a taxi because were worried about you because your drunk, we dont want anything we just met on a night out but I want to see you off safe, we good guys are the ones who you can use as agony uncles and we dont mind, we good guys are the ones who you should pay more attention

where are we??

in the places where you think that all the d**** and in your eyes weirdos hang out

and stop dissing we good guys off im insulted

Answer 7

I got an email yesterday for the girls, saying exactly this, and you know what its because we let men have that much power over us, not that that helps because I still have no idea how to change things, but there is some sense in it somewhere.

Answer 8

people tend to promise anything to get what they want even if they don't mean it.. be careful in believing what people tells you because more often than not they were simply pretending and lying so that we end up disappointed and disillusioned.... the good men are out there and they won't promise you the world, i'm quite sure of that! :)

Answer 9

Why do girls make a load of effort to impress us at the start of a relationship and a couple of months later expect us to treat them like a princess when they look like a troll. Maybe it is you girls who need to take a look at yourselves as well. Btw way I have been with my Princess for 11 years now and I have never cheated on her, we rarely argue, and improve each others lives daily. Also she STILL makes an effort for me and I show her the respect she deserves for it. If you generalise about us fellas expect to be generalised about yourselves!!!!!

Answer 10

When we said it we meant it, but then when we get home and open the 'tin' you don't 'do' what you say on the tin. Years later we discover you have a use by date which has long expired which you didn't tell us about.

Every time you put on your make up you lie, why should you expect to meet honesty with lies?

Answer 11

i may be a guy but some do and they dont actually do what they have said but there is the odd ones out there who will do what they say and will give you the world and stick to there promises etc..