what are you supposed to do when you have an innate, deep rooted hate for yourself?

Question

i absolutely hate myself...and there is no hope. its like im trapped with no exit....for all eternity...


can you fathom what that is like?

what is "one" supposed to do?? any real suggestions.. oh..and ps..i am pretty smart actually so dont give me any of that "be postiive", believe in yourself", "look at so and so who has it worse than you"...bull sh*t cuz i see right trough it....

i guess this was more of a rant than anyting huh? my apologies...

but im screwed arent i??

Answer 1

First of all, the most interesting thing that I got out of one of my philosophy classes, is that one can not, by definition, ever truly hate themselves, and it makes complete sense. Hating youself is, and I won't get into the details for the lack of time, is a selfish act, which can not be done if one truly hates themself. U may feel that it is so, but deep down it isn't, trust me. While I do not know the details of your situation, nor your age, it is highly likely that you only hate yourself for the simple fact that you do not live up to your own perfectionist (and sometimes not perfectionist, but very logical) expectations-that is the reason why I hate myself a bit for instance. Hate for self may come from comparisson to others--"I am not good enough..." etc., and this is an issue with self esteem, that can be aided by going to the gym, for example, increasing ones intellect, etc.---bottom line completely fixable, with a bit of effort. Next, one may hate oneself for laziness--not being able to carry out, or make yourself do the things required/necessary for an accomplished, successful life. This laziness may stem from depression, and other more complex issues, which I am restricted by space from discussing. The final, and perhaps the most important point regarding your question that I will bring up is that more often than not people hate themselves because (and I want to say this without sounding cheesy, but there's just no way) they willfully supress the goodness of their character, as well as, consequently critisize themselves too much once this occurs in response to the outcomes of doing so. Ok, put simply...deep down, people know what the right thing to do is, yet they do not do so, and then suffer in pitty for themselves. Life teaches us lessons if we stray down the wrong path, and if one continues to do so, it will keep teaching us in more severe ways. We know what is right and what is wrong, our choices though shape our experience. There is nothing wrong with making mistakes, otherwise we would not learn...one must NOT be too critical, and strive to do better at listening to this inner conscience next time, so that our actions are not followed by self-hatred and mistakes the next time around. Whheew, sorry disorganaized and long, but comes from the heart...hope not too off-topic, for me this is completely relevant. How is your stance on religion? Because true happiness is only foiund through G*d in my opinion :)

Answer 2

I want I would support you... I would inform you how I alleviated my trouble with self-hate; despite the fact that I consider your trouble is quite special. Are you depressed? Have you been rejected? Do you might have a intellectual disease or health problem? Try to get therapy for whatever else. Not best will you distract your self, but it surely would deal with the underlying motive. It would possibly not suppose this fashion, however I consider that self-hate more often than not has different explanations than exact hate. I had a deep disgrace that made me hate myself. It used to be brought on round a detailed detail of my persona and made me particularly fearful to consider approximately. It broke me down and I went into treatment. It took me part a yr or so earlier than I stopped spitting at myself daily. Now I have a alternatively depersonalized view on my "faults", and do not consider such a lot approximately it. In the beyond I could additionally hate my complete self, however more commonly considering that I used to be an interloper and a loner at my university. The concern modified and I acquired larger.

Answer 3

Well, I've found a lot of healing through my relationship with Jesus Christ. I used to be the same way, feeling like there's no way out, but He set me free. He loves you and wants to be in relationship with you. All you have to do is ask Him to come into your heart, and He will be there. You may not feel different right away, but that is the starting point. It's not an easy path, but it does work. Message me if you would like some more information.

Answer 4

actually, anger at one's self is hard to fathom.. my theory is that we tend to hate our selves because we expect too much and when things don't go our way or if we disappoint ourselves by failing, we tend to hate us..

what's supposed to do? maybe we shouldn't expect too much and instead live life as it is.. i won't ask you to be positive but maybe sometimes it would help, don't you think so? and think that making mistakes is normal, that nothing's perfect in this world... it won't help if you keep on hating your self.. coz that way, you will always fail.. how can an angry person succeed?

and yeah, it's normal to rant once in a while.. it helps to let go of anger..

Answer 5

Why do you hate yourself so much. I would suggest talking to a counselor or seeking religious help.

Answer 6

The best way to like yourself is to do good things. Be kind to others, treat others like you want to be treated yourself. If you do you will be a winner.

Answer 7

Honestly...I don't know: I never hated myself. I'm just sorry to hear you hate yourself...but it's your choice, your life, so, guess you can decide to live it as you wish. Just remember: since it's your decision, you should not complain about it;).

Answer 8

Run and smash yourself against a wall.

Answer 9

just beat the crap out of yourself and if you dont think you got enough then do it some more!!!

Answer 10

Please seek medical help! It will do you good and also those around you!