Ever told someone who's parent died that "they're in heaven" when you really believe they're not? Or even that "they're in a better place"?
If you're an athiest, what is it that you tell people?
ever told someone that their dead relative is in hell? I mean, really... why sugar coat it?
btw... I did once... lol
2007-05-23 20:30:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i tell people that their loved one doesn't have to deal with this crazy world anymore
2007-05-23 20:39:18 · answer #1 · answered by p_isfor_pecker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is told that truth is God. But it is a prejudiced idea. Truth is there when lie exists. If nobody is telling a lie, what is the significance of truth? Truth and lie are complementary, even if they seem opposite.
More than that, what do you mean by telling lie? Its some opinion. And every opinion is the verbal form of a thought. And every thought is changing every moment. It is not permanent. Why should we worry about it?
What is the purpose of life here? Be happy and make others happy. If your opinion, a word, makes others happy, i feel god will love it. Forget hell and heaven, they are all in the mind. Live happily and let others live happily. Make others happy, even by telling some 'white lie', does not matter. When people around us becomes happy, they in turn make us happy in some way...
Love and Regards
Master's Grace
2007-05-24 03:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by Master's Grace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've lied to comfort someone but not in the example you've given. I tend to not bring up heaven or hell when someone is grieving a loved one, even if they didn't really like them. I simply tell them I am sorry for their loss. That I hope they can find comfort and resolve in their family and friends.
2007-05-24 03:39:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never tell anyone I thought their relative was in hell, because I don't believe in hell. But even if I did believe in it, I would not say that.
I usually say something like "well, he was in such pain, I suppose it's really a relief." If he was not in pain, but it happened suddenly, I would say, "Well, at least he didn't have to suffer. He probably never knew what hit him."
Fact is, unless a person seems to want this sort of comfort, I usually just give them a hug and say, "What can I say?"
2007-05-24 03:35:14 · answer #4 · answered by auntb93 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I haven't. I tell the person that their loved one is no longer in any pain.
I also wouldn't argue about the existence of an afterlife with someone who is grieving if they honestly believe that their loved one is in heaven. I'd let the take comfort in that if that's what they felt like they needed.
I would not lie to them, nor could I. If someone asked me flat out if I believe in an afterlife I don't think I could feign a belief just for their benefit at the moment. I would have to answer honestly.
2007-05-24 03:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm always honest with my faith... or should I say, lack thereof. If the deceased had suffered, my statement is usually that, "They aren't suffering anymore." Hey, to feel pain, you need nerve response--something death takes away. So I stay honest with my own beleifs while not trampling on theirs.
"(He or She) was a good (man or woman). They will be missed."
"I know you were close (if that is, indeed, true). I'm sorry for your loss."
My statements usually revolve around conforting--but since my words are out of respect for the grieving, I don't bash anything they say about their faiths. I don't need to lie to do that! Besides, most people who know me know that I'm Atheist.
2007-05-24 03:38:52 · answer #6 · answered by writersblock73 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its awful that you told a grieving person that, what was your purpose for doing that?
I dont say anything, or give advice because I have no clue how it feels to lose a husband or child, only grandparents.
Then everyone is different and feels things differently.
All I ever do is listen intently and hug them and say im sorry.
2007-05-24 03:36:00 · answer #7 · answered by KITKAT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a case of death I thinking telling the family the truth would be harsh and cruel. I would simply say they are at rest and leave it at that. What happens at judgment day is between that person and God
2007-05-24 03:34:29 · answer #8 · answered by † H20andspirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not the one to judge where someone is going there for I will not tell them they are going to hell. I tell them to remember them at their happiest because your loved ones wouldn't want to see you in pain. To be honest unless it is something terribly shocking people do not remember what is said to them unless it is shocking. The only thing I remember of my Fathers funeral in condolences was one of his friends stating that if my Father was not in heaven he had no interest of being there either. That meant alot to me.
2007-05-24 12:19:39 · answer #9 · answered by wicked wench 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't really matter in my opinion; if there is Haven, some would be there, then off course some would be in hell too, but look at it from a bright side; at least they won't freeze !
2007-05-24 03:34:42 · answer #10 · answered by javornik1270 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what the person believes. Depends on how well / whether I knew the deceased. If they believe such things, then for them it is so, and not a lie.
2007-05-24 03:35:43 · answer #11 · answered by Always Curious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋