What's the Rush?

Question

I have been reading through the questions and I really need to know. Why are our teens rushing to be in relationships and have sex? I have a 10 year old daughter and I really want to know so I can address these issues with her. I think that you young people should slow down, sex is not something to rush into and nor is it something to take lightly. Thanks for reading and any answers

Answer 1

AMEN!

i feel that young people today do not know the difference between.. having sex, making love and hooking up... I'm a young person myself but i do not condone hooking up and having sex for the hell of it...

i believe that sex should only happen when you are in love with your partner, preferably when you're already married... or been dating for a really long time (not even... but it's more understood than one night stands)... and yes it is true when people say... sex is sooo much better when you are in love with your partner...

sex isn't just for fun... its a way to show your partner how much they really mean to you... when it's time to talk to your daughter... stress the fact that sex should be given to the ONE guy she loves... remind her that theres going to be people that would want to takeher virginity away... but she must only give it to that one... and only she will know when the time is right... and if the guy is the right guy...

***raging hormones or not... that still shouldn't be a reason or an excuse why young people today chose to have sex for the hell of having sex... just because you are young... and have raging hormones that doesn't mean all your moral values go away... it's still you that makes that decision... its still you that knows whats right and wrong.. it is always up to the person to chose to give in to temptation or not...

tell her to think about her future husband... what about her future husband?.. how is he going to feel that she already gave her "present" away to some other guy who was not the one.. i remember someone saying this to me and it always made me choose wisely...

so thanks for your question... and yes.. there is no rush... =)



PS. heres a star for you coz' this subject needs to be preached!!!

Answer 2

I think it has a lot to do with hormones. Teens tend to think of sex as either a rite of passage or a coming of age kind of thing... some see it as a proof of love but they don't quite understand how it will affect them for the rest of their lives. I also think that there are also a ton of horny teenagers out there just waiting for a chance to experiment and stuff. That time is just so awkward and they think they know everything there is to know about the world, but they don't and sometimes cannot be convinced of that.

Not all of them are that way though, there is an exception to every rule... I decided to wait until I found the right guy. Someone I trusted and could see myself settling down with. My parents told me when I was about twelve or thirteen that they knew that I'd be thinking about sex within the next few years and that whatever I decided to do, I should know that there would be consequences. Especially if I wasn't careful. They've always let me make my own mistakes and my own decisions about that kind of thing and I think I turned out okay.

Good luck!

Answer 3

It has a lot to do with company.. "Tell me who you're with and I'll tell you who you are" is not a proverb in many cultures for no reason... I think its important to give kids their space, but until they come of age I'm sorry but I WILL be in their face.. I WILL be involved and loving and caring and spend quality time with them. Understand the teens that we read about here who ARE into sex may not have that. Otherwise how do they GET on here?.. We can lend their folks a hand by being an objective yet positive influence, but in the end kids will make their own choices. So long as we've told them all there is to know and modelled the right choice, there's only so much we can do.. You are absolutely right about taking it slow and one can blame hormones in food (which has been proved to be affecting our kids) we can blame society, we can blame the world's lack of religion, but at the end of the day it starts at home.
The fact that you want to know and want to address these issues proves you're a good mom. Good on you!
I think they rush because it's not depicted as a "responsibility" thing in their circles. Media bombards them with images of what's "kewl" - and look at the music role models which impact them more than we ever can. I think in this day (let the teenagers answer me on this) its just not "a big deal" for them and its something that is "there" - its immediate gratification and its just a whole LAX attitude. Keep chatting to your child as she grows, about sex. Keep instilling in her self-love and self-respect and the importance of choice. Keep the fear low-key and treat her with respect so she will feel you are there with her through it all. Then, when she is faced with the situation, she'll have all the tools to make the best decision regardless of peer pressure. Its not about turning our kids into "adult" thinkers and taking away their joy its about teaching them responsibility in an irresponsible world.
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Answer 4

Hi Tia. It's raging hormones. But you're right, there is no rush. I think that many youngsters (and adults for that matter) want validation. If they don't get it at home they seek it elsewhere. Having sex not only feels good but means someone else thinks you're special...at least for the moment. So if someone is feeling neglected or unloved, by having sex they fill that void. Re your daughter, give her lots and lots of love, lots and lots of hugs, support her, validate her, honor her and tell her how much you love her. And do it some more. If she feels she gets plenty of loving at home she will be less likely to seek it "out there". Good luck.

Answer 5

Yeah, I just responded to a 14 year old girl asking about dating an 11 year old boy. I mean was this a joke or what?
Not really a lot of children are being exposed to dating and sex too early. I wonder what we as parents and responsible adults can do about this? This has alot to do with teenage pregnancy.

Answer 6

I have to beleive that you are a mother. (No offense, just...) you have NO IDEA the hormones RAGING through a male's body at that age. If you know anybody that suffers of PMS, it's actually similar. (or so I'm told, as I don't have those hormones raging through my system at ANY age! LMAO)

I've heard women say that they are really pissed off (or crying) at something that would on any other day be trivial. And they don't want to scream / cry, but they do.

I agree with you; it should be waited for, but if you've ever seen a male animal 'rutting' you know that there's no reasoning with it...


Just throwing a guy's two cents worth in.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I think u should address her now ! Next year she'll probably be in The 6th grade if I'm correct. I found out that my Little cousin was looking at sex pictures & videos on her laptop. She is 11 your chld is ten alert her nat to do that now.

Answer 9

That's true. Most young kids have sex though nowadays. I think some parents start caring less. It's really sad.

Answer 10

to be honest, I wanted to have sex because I was horny. I felt getting fingered was more invasive. Good for you for talking to your daughter, but instead of telling her flat out "no," please teach her all different forms of birth control, and if she ever wants to go on the pill, let her.