i have been judged harshly by some for my decision to stay with my kids. i feel that is so backward! does anyone agree that family life if disintegrating due to this, or am i odd?
2007-05-23 19:23:57 · 17 answers · asked by taryn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't know you, but I think the world of your for being a stay at home mom and building your family. You can work later when the kids go to school. If they're already of school age, you can support the household even more by being the rock of the home, next to your husband.
2007-05-23 19:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by florita 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a stay at home mom of 3. I live in a community where there are about half working moms and half stay at home moms. When I tell people I'm able to stay at home with the kids, they tell me good for you. Raising kids is the hardest job in the world, more important then any other job. Your kids childhoods only happen once, don't miss out because others harshness.
If you have the financial means to be a stay at home mom, even better. But if people bother you about this , tell them you've made the decision to stay home, that its something you want to do.
2007-05-24 03:59:51 · answer #2 · answered by knhglassey@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be not to even entertain the thought of anyone judging you. God is the only judgement that should matter. No one else can judge you for your own decision. The people that are judging you is because they are jealous because they can't be in the same situation and stay home. They wish they could, so they have to downgrade you because you are so blessed to be able to do this for your children. Remember misery loves company, and you are too blessed to be stressed over other peoples opionions. Thank God for stay at home moms, especially with all the ridiculous drama that's out there now. Momma don't worry about people that are jealous of you. Do what's best for you and you're children.
2007-05-24 02:33:48 · answer #3 · answered by hez_able 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think most people who judge you are jealous of your option of staying home. Working parents can make the family work, but I believe that staying home is the best. I never could figure out why people have children if they plan on putting them in day care right away. You are doing the right thing. Ignore these people who claim you are wrong.
2007-05-24 02:39:21 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids need their mother or at least one parent to be around to guide them and discipline them. When both parents are working there is little time for quality parenting. I know some have to work to survive and Im not putting anyone down. But the fact is when your kids are being taken care of by someone who does not love them unconditionally the way a parent does they lose out on a lot.
However you could also end up being a stay at home parent who doesnt discipline or neglects their kid and they can still turn out bad.
But overall its nice for a kid if he has a parent he can turn to any hour of the day or night and not have to wait.
2007-05-24 05:48:26 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I don't believe so. I think that parent's who work constantly and who generally just leave children to raise themselves is the cause of teen pregnancy, obesity, and just the downward spiral of our children nowadays. I think it is great that you want to stay at home with your children. I think that anyone mother or father who has the opportunity should. Your children need more than just financial support. They still need our emotional support also this will determine your child's confidence and self-esteem in the future. Kudos to you! If you feel as though staying home with your children is the right thing to do then do so. People will always want to comment or focus on someone Else's life and not their it's common knowledge you just enjoy raising those children of yours every step of the way.
Karma
2007-05-24 02:31:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you made a great decision to be a stay at home mom. By being a stay at home mom you can always say...
I know my kids will say THANK YOU Mom for being there. If I had a full time job I know that they wouldn't care if I was there or not because you can always be replaced.
2007-05-24 03:28:38 · answer #7 · answered by Smile:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I taught school until I adopted my first child. I went back to teaching part time after my last child was in high school. I was still able to be home when they got home from school.
I have never regretted my decision. We are not wealthy, but I don't care. I know I made a difference in my children's lives.
I could never let a daycare raise my children.
I'm glad to know there are still people like you who are doing the same. You won't regret it.
I know there some people who have to work to survive. My mom was divorced (for good reasons) and had to work.
2007-05-24 02:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you. I raised my kids by being a stay at home mom, and they were just fine, minimal trouble. Then, I got a job, and thought I was going to get into a new phase of life, and really enjoyed it. I feel sorry for women who feel they HAVE to make money because of college education, etc. They are wasting their youth at work. It is better spent with the kids.
2007-05-24 02:29:42 · answer #9 · answered by JOYCE M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First: Good for you, for being able to do this.
Secondly: If you are being judged, it is due to others jealousy and/or misunderstandings.
I believe that society is heading in a downward spiral because too many kids are being pawned off on daycare providers or nannies.
I too am a SAHM, but unfortunately because we live in expensive times, I have to find a job. However, I am going to shoot for a night time job, when my husband gets off of work.
That way, our kids will be raised by us, and not strangers.
Good luck to you. You will have such a good time, especially when your child/ren do (or say) amazing things. You get to take the credit for that.
2007-05-24 02:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by MusicGeek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋