I am getting mixed signals from one of my male friends. He is always telling me his "criteria" for a spouse, we have a lot of mutual interest and values and we can talk for hours. I feel some "sexual tension"; but he has never approached me other than anything platonic. Does he seem to be interested in me and he's just being a gentleman; or is there nothing to it?
2007-05-23 19:09:43 · 12 answers · asked by isis 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know how long you've known him, but it sounds like he's trying to feel you out...you know...get to know you, your values...to see if they match ?? As long as you don't bend to meet his ideals, then roll with it. Who knows? Friendship is being able to discuss anything with someone and is the foundation to any relationship you end up in with this guy.
2007-05-23 19:19:02 · answer #1 · answered by ndngrlz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men often share with their female friends what they are looking for in a wife. They need feedback and assurance that the qualities they seek are good ones. I think that you may be reading a little more into this than there actually is. According to the nature of your friendship in which you guys are at ease and can talk for hours, I don't think that he would have a problem with expressing any romantic feelings for you if they existed. The sexual tension that you sense may just be wishful thinking on your part. Realize though that if you intend to pursue a sexual relationship with him it's going to change your friendship forever, and sometimes not in the best way. Before you make any hasty moves be very clear about what you're doing, what you hope to gain by sleeping with him and what you are willing to give up to be bed buddies. Sex does not equal love. Just because he sleeps with you does not mean he wants to be with you, so you must be prepared emotionally for the rollercoaster ride involved in this type of situation.
2007-05-23 19:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well chances are your feelings are correct, but the complication which has kept the situation at a stalemate is probably significant. He might like you, but he might not want to get serious or he might be worried about ruining a friendship. That's a complicated situation if you guys have been friends for a long time. My best friend tells me about who she wants to marry and such all the time, and i think once there was sexual tension, but we don't see each other and we've been dating people so it's not as tense anymore. So if in my case, i think i wasn't willing to risk ruining a friendship over it, and i kinda got some hints that she didn't want to either.
2007-05-23 19:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by GIMMEABREAK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ask your self you have have confidence subject concerns..with you hooking up with a woman you met at your daughter's day care...do you stop at nowhere? this might get messy, the different woman has no longer something to lose, the husband is getting divorced besides so she's waiting and on the seek for the subsequent new element yet you your self pronounced you have have been given too a lot to lose yet you are trying this? it extremely is extremely not even like traveling a prostitute, you're having an affair. shame ON YOU! you're a SORRY EXCUSE OF a guy.
2016-11-05 05:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and ask him if he is interested in you or not. But something you might consider about his 'criteria' is you want to be your self at all times, not what someone else wants you to be. Mighty hard to fill the shoes of someone's imagination.
2007-05-23 19:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a girl with anything close to looks is someone i'd want to mess around with. A girl who can hold a conversation and still has good looks is someone I would choose in a relationship.. she has to be intelligent. Sounds to me like he is interested in a relationship,
2007-05-23 19:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by burgler09 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants more than friendship from you you'll know it. Look for the eye contact...if he is attracted to you, you will catch him looking at you when your not talking. If he never looks at you for no reason other than to just look at you then he is not interested in you in as more than a friend.
2007-05-23 19:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if he respects you. That is a good sign that there can be a future for the two of you.
2007-05-23 19:13:57 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of ocurse he like to have sex with you
all men want ot have sex with their female freinds
he just looking for an opening
if you were :"wife" material
he would have asked you out knowing what type of person you are
2007-05-23 19:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be he is just beign a friend and talking to you abou this future plans and what he wants from life.
2007-05-23 19:12:57 · answer #10 · answered by soarinwithclouds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋