2007-05-23 18:55:06 · 19 answers · asked by ranaji 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's stupid
Statistically, couples that DON'T have sex prior to marriage, are more likely to stay married.
What, you think it won't work, you want to try it like a used car?
Or are you just horny?
What a concept!
Trying to figure where, (if anywhere), vulgar enters the conversation.
2007-05-23 18:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by spam_free_he_he 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As a guy, I would not have waited five years to have sex, and I definitely would not go another long span in this time in history. Here is the scary thing you face, once he finds his sexual self in a marriage, he will begin to wonder what other kinds of wonders can be had sexually that will become a fetish, particulary the ones that you are not into. I know many of these religious freaks will support you on having no sex until marriage, I pity your marriage once he finds out just how good it really is, and his mind wonders a bit in the years well into the marriage. I would make sure he gets stuck in the Bible, and never watch another tv show ever. You might wane his interest that way. Wow, those are the best years of your life to be going without. In 20 years from now, you may live to regret all this.
2016-05-21 08:15:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always wondered why a society threatened with a host of STDs, teenage pregnancies, and over 50% of mariages ending with divorce condones premarital sex saying stuff like, "well, it depends on the two people."
"All that matters is that the two people love each other". "Try before you buy".
Cut the crap.
Sex is for married people. When the relationship doesn't work out, you don't find many people saying, darn, I sure wish I HAD slept with him/her. Save yourself in from the regrets and heartache.
I know it is difficult in our society. SEX IS EVERYWHERE. It sells. It forces you to think about it, but just because society endorses it doesn't make it right. God said it was wrong and we shouldn't do it. I believe He knows what is best.
In addition to premarital sex being biblically wrong, it doesn't even make common sense. You shouldn't give yourself to someone intimately that is not ready to commit to you monogomously. It's almost like virginity is looked down upon in our society or is rare. Youth are losing their virginity earlier and earlier. People are having casual sex, like its just a handshake. Not a single one of you want your teenager having sex and being a young adult isn't much better if they're not married. It is ok to be single and it is okay to date and not have sex.
People should not be living together (cohabitating) before marriage either. You can't play at or practice marriage. The closest you can do is date, and spend quality time with th person for a long period of time (without sex). I know people say you won't know the person before you live with them, but that's the whole point of getting married. Even when you tie the knot, you still have a whole lot to learn about the person.
Statistics say that people that cohabitate AND have premarital sex have lower levels of marital satisfaction. Why do you think that is?
2007-05-23 19:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by florita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call it vulgar, more like realistic in today's world. However, one must respect the religions of all involved. Personally. Marriage is really just a ceremony coupled with what is supposed to be a lifelong commitment. That commitment can be made between two people without the ceremony. Obviuosly the legal portion would still have to be accomplished. But vulgar? No. True intimacy is the most beautiful union two people can share.
2007-05-23 19:01:53 · answer #4 · answered by David M 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is a relationship that involves Sex. It is a vulgar thing to have sex with or without a relationship that doesn't involve marriage because of the mental instability and diseases that are passed by just having sex.
2007-05-23 18:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by Peggy Pirate 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Many ppl believe in sex b4 marrying, some say "U gat 2 test ur machine b4 u buy it". But u know wat, Long term relationship first, then comes marriage and then comes sex, dat is d philosophy of a normal being. The issue of premarital sex is really a vulgar thing n i wish ppl could just start doing d right thing, every normal being would do. You know wat i mean when i say "normal" right?
2007-05-23 19:04:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vulgar? No.
Sex is an important part of a successful marriage and I personally think it is foolish to not learn about that aspect of a serious partner before you make a life long commitment. I have heard of too many people who waited until marriage only to find they are totally incompatible sexually with their mate. Puts me in mind of a piece of advise I got as a young woman: Always drive the car around the block before you decide to buy it.
Peace!
2007-05-23 18:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by carole 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you test drive a car before buying.no it isn't vulgar having sex before marriage,if more youngsters did maybe thier marriage would last,sex is a natural part of life,don't put any negative with it. use condoms and make sure birth control is in place before you start anything.
2007-05-23 19:03:30 · answer #8 · answered by DR DEAL 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself these questions...
On my honeymoon do I want to feel the passion of making love to someone I love and just pledged the rest of my life to?
or
On my honeymoon do I just have sex as usual in a motel room?
My marriage is 10 years strong with the 2nd choice but it sure would've been nice to experience the 1st one.
2007-05-23 19:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by Smile:) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is vulgar if your Indian or pakistani. Else its a personal choice between two people that shouldnt even be discussed.
2007-05-23 18:58:34 · answer #10 · answered by brian p 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋