My mom is a bingo fool she feels like she has to go everyday and shes even cried over not being able to go it's terrible she's 57 and to see her worry about bingo so much and she has her lights off right now and her water shes been staying at my house for a month now and says she can't afford to help me out I don't want to say anything to her but she raises my neices and i can hardly pay my bills the way it is .What can you do about bingo and will anybody take me seriouse?It is serious there forclosing on her at this time after paying on it for 34 years.I live in a 2bedroom and theres no room with my 2 teenagers what should I do?Thats my mom and I can't be rude or disrespectful and she raised me.
2007-05-23 18:38:23 · 3 answers · asked by sinful_1971 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She has a gambling addiction.
Bingo is a form of gambling. She needs help. She cant stop herself. She will continue to decline until she has nothing and more than likely she will bring you down too.
Don't be affraid to talk to her about the problem. She raised you and now she has a problem and needs help.
Check out site's on Gambling addiction.
2007-05-23 18:47:56 · answer #1 · answered by faith♥missouri 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I live in Vegas and Gambling addiction runs rampant here. If your mom admits that she has a problem then and only then can she make a change. If she admits it then get her the help she needs. there are gamblers anonymous groups all across the country, get the hotline and have her make the call. If she can't find a group find a local AA group, they run on the same program. It gets even worse if she wins because then she has a reason to keep playing.
As for your mom's house is there any way that you can save it? If you are living in a 2 BR apartment and her house is bigger then maybe you can move in and take over payments. Then she will be able to get her addiction under control and eventually back on her feet. If her mortgage is 34 years old it might be cheaper for you to take it over. If it worked out it would give you more room for your kids. (considering the house is bigger)
Unless she admits that she has a problem there is no way to help her. If she is raising your nieces maybe the strain is causing her a little too much stress and her only break is to go play bingo.Maybe she needs some help with the kids and another way to release stress.
I have had close family members ruin their lives with gambling and as soon as they think they have it beat, they put a quarter in a slot and it starts all over. It's hard and I feel for you. good luck
2007-05-23 19:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by kidzrdrivinmekrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously speaking your mother has a serious addiction to gambling. An addiction is a compulsive need one feels towards something. It's not different than if she were an alcoholic or into drugs. The highs one feel by getting their needs met is what keeps them hook on going back. What may have started out to be something entertaining and fun has turned into an obsession. Before you talk to her about this I would first work on getting her out otherwise living with her will be nearly impossible and she will use that as an excuse for her moving out.
Realistically the reason she needs to go is because the more people in one place the higher the bills. If you only have a two bedroom and it's you and your two teens then there really is no room for anyone else. It is not disrespectful to request or even expect that if someone is staying with you that they will help cover some of the bills. It's not like she's there on a vacation or recooping from an operation. She staying with you because she's been irresponsible in paying for her own bills. What's rude and disrespectful is that she hasn't recognized this and offered even a little to you.
It's never easy having to talk with a family member particularly your parents about issues like this. It's not rude or disrespectful when you share your honest feelings. Start off by telling her how much you love her and understand this is a difficult time for her. Explain how difficult it has been for you trying to meet your own commitments and balancing the needs of your own family. Maybe show her a copy of last months utility bills and the current month so she can see how they have increased by having them stay there. Explain to her how often you have to cut back on essentials such as going out for meals or forgoing personal wants in order to make sure everything is taken care of. (Hint, hint- sometimes the indirect approach is the best way to get a parent to see something) Let her know that although you wish you could continue to help you just don't think you can financially handle it and are worried because your apartment isn't designed for this many people. Get a copy of the bills and show her the difference between when she wasn't there compared to the month she is there. Tell her you don't want to end up falling behind. Ask her to pay at least the difference between the months. (i.e last month electric $100 this month $150 - she pays $50) Be firm but respectful. You have the right to ask for this. Then you would like to set a date as to when they will be moving out. Offer to assist her in looking and even suggest some of the county housing options. She and maybe you both might qualify for housing assistance and no I don't mean the projects. Many communities help provide money towards rent. Best of luck
2007-05-23 19:17:07 · answer #3 · answered by Orion 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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