I am so heart broke over this situation! I have supported him in every way, and have never asked him for anything!! I just wanted to go and see her graduate from high school!! I told my daughter that I would send her the money that we would have used to go up there and she said she just wanted me to be there and nothing else!!! I am so disappointed in my husband for promising me to take me there,(another state) and then saying no when it is this coming Sunday??? What should I do, try to drive myself? Or hitch hike ?? This is so not fair, when I have never asked him of anything!!! Sad in the south east!
2007-05-23 18:37:36 · 22 answers · asked by jbabysgma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He says because the gas prices have jumped to high! I feel like he will never be supportive of my children, and me. After 6 years of supporting him and going to his elderly mothers every weekend to help her out, I feel he owes me this! I think I may also need some advice in divorce laws in Virginia. This is the straw that broke the camels back! His children whom he doesn't bother with will be graduating in a year and so on will, I plan on seeing graduate as well!! Pray for me I need all prayers that My car will make it if I decide to try this on my own. I FEEL I HAVE TO BE THERE, OR MY HEART WILL DIE!
2007-05-23 18:59:26 · update #1
That was very unfair of your husband. Yes, gas prices are high. SO WHAT! You want to see your daughter graduate and should be able to.
I understand how you feel but perhaps it would not be safe to drive yourself there is you don't think your car will make it.
I will pray for you.
You need to decide what to do about your marriage to this unsupportive man. If you leave him, do you have a safe place to go? Can you support yourself OK alone?
2007-05-23 19:22:33 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
?!?
Ok, several things come to mind here:
1. Why do you need his permission to see your daugher graduate?
2. People need to realize that when you marry people with kids, they become your kids too. So although he may not desire to go to the graduation, I can't believe he is saying that her own mother cannot go.
3. I was wondering if you can add a detail to your questin as to his reason for saying you can't go.
4. I wouldn't hitch hike, but if finances are an issue, I would go by myself and either drive or take the bus.
5. Why do you say you have never asked your husband for anything? I am very traditional in my beliefs about marriage, and the woman being submissive to a loving husband, but its also supposed to be give and take. You should not have to suppress your desires (big or small) and feel like only your husband gets his needs met.
6. Keep in mind that her graduation is a once in a lifetime opportunity.
7. Does he normally support your relationship? If not, you stil have to go on. Step parents sometimes have a misconstued view of where they fit in the picture. You are her mother. Go if you can.
2007-05-24 01:46:06 · answer #2 · answered by florita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure why you are relying on him to take you there or tell you whether or not you can go ANYWHERE based on his wishes, but that's really another matter.
In my opinion, you should proceed like a grown, capable, independent woman would. Get the exact address from your daughter, print some directions from Yahoo Maps, gas up the car, tell your hubby "adios" and that the number for Pizza Hut is in the book. Then ENJOY YOURSELF!
You'll kick yourself (and eventually him) if you let him stop you from missing this once in a lifetime event.
2007-05-24 01:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by Jane D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is your daughter!!! She needs her mother on this most special day! Why won't he allow you to go? You are your own woman...can't you make any desicions? I guess I just don't understand why his "no" is the only option. If I wanted to go somewhere...for whatever reason...my husband would support that 100% reguardless of how HE feels, because he knows how important it is to ME! It just sounds like he doesn't respect your feelings. You said, "I have never asked him for anything"...maybe you should ask for the things you want or need. It just sounds like he's asking for too much at the sacrifice of your daughter's needs.
2007-05-24 01:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by Holly C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means, go. If you are afraid to go alone find a friend to drive with you. This is an important milestone in your daughter's life, one I'm sure she wants her mother to share. Fly, take a bus, do what you can to get there. Did your husband say why?
2007-05-24 01:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by kgee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is being an insensitive controlling JERK. Your daughter is only going to graduate from high school once. Are you going to miss that? You are her mother, how will you daughter feel if her own mother isn't at her graduation?
2007-05-24 03:35:35 · answer #6 · answered by Smile:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u say u told ur daughter that u will send her the money if u don't go.why don't u take that money and buy a plain ticket with it,am sure u can find a decent fair.cuz if i was ur daughter,i would rather have my mom at my graduation than her sending me money.as for as ur husband,he should understand that u need to do this for u daughter.so go,if he's upset am sure he'll get over it one day.
2007-05-24 02:20:49 · answer #7 · answered by leen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you try your best to get there...Tell your husband that you are going to be there for your daughters graduation no matter what. If he won't take you then you find another way there. You have supported him he can get off his *** and take you.Your daughter needs you to be there no matter what. My mom was in prison when I graduated and I would have loved for her to have been there but unfortunately they would'nt let her out for that...They barely let her out to say goodbye to her mother on her deathbed. You get there any way you can!
2007-05-24 01:46:06 · answer #8 · answered by poetic_justice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be with your daughter. Drive yourself if you can. Or take a train. Or have someone meet you somewhere to pick you up. Your husband doesn't seem to supportive of your life. Tell him, I know you don't want to go, but I will be going. You'll regret it forever if you don't go.
2007-05-24 04:05:58 · answer #9 · answered by knhglassey@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for what you are going through but if it were my child I would go with or without him. Get a plane ticket and go. You shouldn't have to ask his permission and if he's not going to support you in this matter then you need to examine what your relationship is really all about.
2007-05-24 01:48:41 · answer #10 · answered by Orion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋