I have a 4 year old son who lives with his mom, and basically her mother watches my son and other kids during the day, kind of like a daycare. Well I got off work early and went to see him, and basically I said joking around, "go fart on one of the kids" My son has a sick sense of a humor but I was only joking. Well he did it and his grandma (his mom's mother) says to her, "I didn't like him telling him to go fart on another kid! See the kinds of things he is teaching him!"
Basically.. how does she know what I'm teaching him? And why is it a big deal, if he's MY son and I was joking anyway?
Do I say something to her?
2007-05-23 18:28:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think you should just ignore it. It's stupid and definitially not worth the fight.
2007-05-23 18:34:22 · answer #1 · answered by Chrys 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Um, mothers-in-law (even when they aren't actually in-laws) are like that. You know you shouldn't have done that but it shouldn't be that big a deal. I would apologize to your boy's mom, it could have caused her an issue with the parents of the child he farted on. But be jovial, just say, "I'm really sorry Sharon, I didn't think he would do it. I guess I really have to watch what I say. What a funny little man our boy is!" Or something with the same feel. If she was your wife, you would have gotten a dirty look at maybe even a little shove but as separated parents, stuff can get awkward fast. Don't talk to the boy's grandmother, she will find a way to turn it on you. Just give mom a quick light-hearted apology and watch what bad ideas you give your son. That might be funny at home, but what if he decides to do that when he is meeting some future girlfriend's kid, or a boss's child. Not so funny then.
2007-05-24 01:45:19 · answer #2 · answered by Momofthreeboys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you do not say something to her, you were out of line. Where does a 4 year old get a sick sense of humor? You need to take a parenting class. Do it now so that you can help to make this world a better place. If you truly do not understand that what you did was wrong, take the class, it is not there to tell you that you are a bad person; but, the only skill any of us have toward becoming a parent is having sex. That does not make anyone a good parent. Take your son's wife along and you will both be on the same page. He will truly benefit. Good luck.
2007-05-26 20:36:03 · answer #3 · answered by marshfield_meme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is possible for a 4 year-old to have a "sick sense of humor". It is possible, however, for his dad to be immature with a "sick sense of humor" and blame it on his son. You need to apologize. Keep apologizing, too. 4 year-olds are unable to judge when an adult is joking or not. Kids are very literal and sometimes they're much older before they can tell the difference. Sometimes they can't. Some adults can't either. So make peace with grandma and quit getting your son it trouble.
2007-05-24 01:39:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No; you were wrong. You went into her business and encouraged your son to disrupt things. You told your son to do something that he probably knew was wrong and would upset his grandmother, whom he loves (I'd assume). You put him in a position where he might have to be disciplined and feel like he has to decide whose love he wants more--yours or hers. What a crappy thing to do to your son, all in the name of you having a funny joke to laugh about. If he did this at school and you had to have a conference with the principal, would you still think it was funny? Or would you feel like a school is more deserving of your son's respect? Stop being a child. Apologize to your son's grandmother for causing a scene that she might then have to explain to the other kids' parents when they complain about the bad behavior of HER grandchild, and apologize to your son for getting him in trouble with his grandmother. Consider someone else's point of view.
2007-05-24 01:39:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save it for bigger issues and be a little more careful of your jokes when in her presence. No it is not her place to correct you but sometimes it is better to choose your battles wisely.
Oh just a thought for you, a four year old mimics his elders he has not yet attained a sick sense of humour, he is sharing yours. He is looking to you, the most important person in his life to show him how he should act.
2007-05-24 01:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't encourage him to be disrespectful to others... but at 4 you're not really teaching him anything. Studies show that kids don't really start learning actions til 5. Emotions they learn, but not actions. If anything the grandma is 'teaching' him by being hostile towards his father.
2007-05-27 19:50:23 · answer #7 · answered by Danger2Society 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say anything to her. Just watch what you say to your son....I know you were only joking, but he may not have known that and wanted to please you.
My husband sometimes does things and I have to remind him that our 19 month old is copying him or trying too...It's fun to joke around with your kids..but you just have to remember how impressionable they are sometimes.
2007-05-24 09:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by kittynala 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah no. its not funny you should have never said that. what if that kids father or mother walked in ? it wouldn't be very funny anymore. if i had seen that and that had been my kid your scence of humor would be gone. shame on you. (father of two)
2007-05-24 01:34:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
his grandma needs to liven up . she needs a laxative
2007-05-27 20:32:12 · answer #10 · answered by Maka 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋