love like you've never been hurt?

Question

how do you do that? i mean i always have my heart broken when i never even dated anyone! and im 15 already.

please dont say i'm tooo young or anything like that. i mean is it even possible to love someone and then not getting hurt??? please be specific and detailed

Answer 1

If that other person loves you back, then you might still have some fights and some arguments, but overall it won't hurt.

Answer 2

the place there is not any mind's eye, there is not any Horror. 2/ i do no longer care to belong to a club that accepts human beings like me as individuals. 3/ Being a character isn't comparable to having a character.4/ a female is nearly a tea bag, that's no longer until she is in warm water, you realize how reliable she is!!

Answer 3

just don't let it get you down.. you'll only ever have one relationship that will ever work out (the last one)

you just have to lay it out on the line. if you don't trust people, or you hang on to thoughts of past lovers, it's not fair to the one you are with now and you'll probably drive them away. you have to treat each guy as a different and give them a chance without carrying over anything from a past relationship. if you go into anything with negative expectations, those negative expectations will always come true. you have to always hope for the best and hope that this one is different from the rest of the guys. and eventually you'll find that person and hopefully they will be yours forever..

Answer 4

Hon, I'm 16. I've had my heart broken many times. It sucks, yes, but it's something that everyone has to deal with. I live in a small coastal city in Australia and I'm gay. It's hard, but I get along. I'm sure you can do the same!

Answer 5

age has nothing to do with falling in love ---- getting hurt in love is inevitable --- how you handle it is the big question --- do you break up or make the relationship work?? --- if you break up think of the good times you had with them and the reason you feel in love with them in the first place --- it wont stop the hurt --- it may reduce it --- if you never love you can never experience the joy and that makes (in the long run) the pain stop hurting ----- best wishes

Answer 6

love doesnt mean very much when you dont selflessly put yourself on the line, when you dont leave yourself open to being hurt. If you dont give in, how can you ever truly feel real love? If you cant trust, what kind of relationship does that make? If you dont risk, you dont gain. Pain and sorrow dont exist without joy. In my experience, a real part of loving is the fear of losing.

How many people love what they cant have because they cant have it... because once they have it the chase is over and they are ready for their next challenge. Its human nature to want the best we can get. If we win someone over, its occurs quite often that we no longer want that person (just ask anyone whose lost interest only after their interest has been returned). That is also why "teasing" is so popular... the "look but dont touch" aspect of our society... want but dont have.

Its fun to be wanted. Its fun to want. But how often are we disappointed when we finally get what we want? Whats the fun in giving in to those that want us, just for them to no longer want us after the fact?

Personally, I am quite turned off from people with that mentality... the whole teasing and whatnot is disgusting and I label it as a form of sluttiness. But in any case, we seek the best, we seek what we think is beyond our capabilities, beyond our "league", all for the sake of bettering our own condition in life. And once it becomes clear that we can easily aquire that state of being, we shoot for the next higher level.

Thats why love comes with fear of losing... because if you dont risk losing your partner then they are either desperate or completely hooked. Anyone with real relationship values knows that this is a good thing. But in our modern day Americanized society that is boring and monotonous, because it means that you can get better... and this is ultimately why relationships fail. There has to be friction or else there is apathy.

Fear of losing is shallow and meaningless, as well, unless there is a real chance of losing. That is why relationships always take work, and why there are always disputes and fights. Passion comes in at every moment in a relationship where two people realize the value of what they have. The strength of a person and the strength of a relationship is determined by two peoples willingness to overcome their obstacles instead of ignoring them and walking away from each other, not in the shear lack of problems.

Any good relationship involves fighting and making up. Any good relationship involves people who value the other person for their differences and strengths, not their similarities and weaknesses. When the two as a whole is stronger than each individually, you have a good, practical pair. Two similar people may seem ideal, but in the end you may butt heads too often and you may never compensate for the others weaknesses. Essentially doubling each others weaknesses and flaws. A good pair is a pair without any flaws because the other person fits in place perfectly. Opposites may not always attract, but they do stay together with a strong bond. That is why opposites benefit each other but also conflict with each other, and why they fight but often stay together.

How often do two people who are similar never fight, but ultimately break up anyway over seemingly minute differences. Really just a cover for their hatred of their own flaws that they see in the other person.

In the end, after enough dating experience wither properly placed relationship values, you realize that unless your problems are soo extreme that a relathionship is not possible (and that should be easy to determine), conflicts should be fun. They should be taken seriously as a legitimate problem, but ultimately you two should be able to look at it and laugh.

I realize I am ranting. But my point is simply that two people that truly love each other had to have given the other person a real chance. They had to have seen the problems coming and still be open enough to accept them. Allowing yourself to be hurt, knowingly, is the ultimate form of selflessness... and what is selflessness if not love? If you protect yourself then you only love yourself... you are selfish. A truly loving individual would take a bullet for you, wouldnt they? Thats how you have to view all relationships. Give everyone a real chance, openly, without any prejudices of your own, and let them hurt you. If they hurt you then turn your back on them, but not before then. If you dont then you wont ever find real love because you cant overcome your own self-love.

Answer 7

Hunni i hav had my heart broken a few times and i hav broken a few, but what i hav found is that it is easier to move on once things are cool with the ex. idk maybe knowing that things can sort of fall back into place after the break makes it easier to take the risk again.

Answer 8

The only thing that could save you from this trauma is, if you do not set your expectations too high.