since returning form overseas i have had sever depression and anxiety, am on meds and seeing acounselor but hate my life and nothing feels like home anymore i am a sad grumpy person who never laughs and feel conscious around everyone, i cant get hte life i had overseas badk but i dont like the life i have here, i jsut have no home now.......i h ave no idea what to do, and i dont even have any serious issues i'm really quite lucky but for some reason i ahve turned into this horrible person.........my family are all sick of me as are what is left of my friends.......what can i do?
2007-05-23 17:11:45 · 13 answers · asked by sally b 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
you stated that you are seing a counselor and are on meds... have you tried a support group? look on the net for groups in your area that have gone through the same issues that you have, or ask your Dr. where one is... you'd be surprised to find out how good talking with someone that "knows what your talking about and how you feel" can be..."PTSD" is what it is that you have...and no i'm not a Dr. I have a child with the same thing...Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is more common than most people think. ask your Dr. about it. and no you cant be fixed ...YOUR NOT BROKEN! And Yes you can Be Happy again.
2007-05-23 17:23:45 · answer #1 · answered by genia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to take some time to honestly look at what started this, when did it all begin. There is an answer and you have it.
You say you were overseas, in school, in the military, what? That is a big change, a traumatic change, to move from one country to another. You have experienced a type of culture shock of sorts.
I suggest you go easy on yourself. Do things you enjoy, healthy things. Relax, don't push yourself into stressful situations and make sure those meds aren't hurting you more than helping you. Do you feel suicidal? If so, then the meds are what you should be on for a short time until you can get on a better path. If you are not suicidal, I question why you are on them. Just make sure you understand they are to tide you over for a short time, they are not to become a part of your life.
If friends and family are really "sick" of you, then they are not much. I wonder if it is your perception though. Depression clouds our perception terribly. One way to find better perception is to ask God to help you, be sincere. Take care. I will pray for you.
2007-05-23 17:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you may not be speaking of the service...but that is the feeling I get in reading your question....if so..Have you thought about re-inlisting, if that is not an option, have you made contact with any of your comrads that you were with over seas?
I would imagine, having left your town and experiencing the life of a close nit group and returning back to your home where other's cannot relate to your experiences can leave a person feeling very lonely.
I would suggest aiming your grief at other's perhaps who are in the same situation. Reach out to others who have your same experiences. Writing a journal of your experiences can be a relief and if you have a friend who would care to listen as you speak of those times overseas, that would be a fruitful release.
I would also suggest "making" yourself become a productive person in the town where you are now, by becoming an advocate for those who did not return home or remained behind over seas. It is your home... and you will be suprised to know that "we here" are very interested in your concerns. You could also form a group that writes to those overseas currently and reach out through letters and gift baskets. Send some of that home feeling to those who remain..overseas.
If this post is military related: Thank you for your time spent in giving...
If your writing because you, lived overseas, working...or visiting, I would suggest keeping in touch with those that are still there. Now that your back...Get out and make new friends, join a gym.... plant flowers, eventually that old home feeling will return. Don't dwell on the past... get into the present. Take a shower, get dressed up, put make-up on and doll yourself up. Perfume and a new pair of shoe's!
Chin up*
2007-05-23 17:40:53 · answer #3 · answered by suzangm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 6: anxiety, and page 2: depression. You were on a "high" overseas, now it is back to the grindstone, and you are going through a "low" as a result. Try volunteering, as it will get you out of yourself, and provide new experiences, help others, and give your self esteem a boost, as well as looking good on your resume, and providing you with a reference, and contacts, and you can change it later, if you want more variety. Does your counsellor know a social worker, since they have many ideas and contacts? If not, try your hospital, or doctor.
2007-05-23 17:47:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What U need 2 do is Take One Day At A Time & give yourself sometime to adjust to your surroundings I know this cause I'm going thru the same thing with My Nephew yes he's on meds but doesn't require any Counsling cause he has Family & Friends that talk everything out with him sometimes it's really rough but I'm sure you'll get thru your rough period
Good Luck
2007-05-23 17:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, a change in diet can cause this, especially coming here from overseas.
Get checked for food allergies, eliminate all junk food and sugars, including anything with "high fructose corn syrup" listed in the ingredients. Here in the states, most foods we buy contain it.
I got off of antidepressants and eliminated depression by doing these things, along with taking supplements for B vitamins and Magnesium.
2007-05-23 18:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by Mark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry for how you feel I have Borderline personality disorder and feel what said above alot. For me it was finding the RIGHT consoler I have tried many but only 2 of them I could relate to.. So think about your current and if the help you.
Also the meds part as them to try different combos change doses. That can help alot...good luck
2007-05-23 17:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably miss your old friends..that can be depressing. If after a month, you find your meds aren't helping, maybe you should change them. Sometimes it takes a long time to find the right medicine and dosage.
Try to join a gym, and do things that can help relax you.
2007-05-23 17:16:23 · answer #8 · answered by josiejo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The short answer God, I know there are alot of people out there that don't want to hear something like that. But, right now he is the only one that can help you if you let him. Seek out and church and see if they have a program for the symptoms you are taking about.
2007-05-23 17:18:00 · answer #9 · answered by Diane T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun, you need to get your physician to check all your levels and make sure you dont have some hormone or chemical imbalance going on. You meds might need to be changed or upped, and you need to focus on finding creative outlets for your anger and depression.
2007-05-23 17:17:35 · answer #10 · answered by jennifer g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋