Hey guys, been with my girl for 2 years.. well a few months ago I was suspicious she was cheating, we worked it all out and things went back to normal. Well a few weeks ago she gets a text from the guy in the middle of the night, it says ".". She said she has no reason to talk to him so I let it go.
Well the past 3 nights she's been going to Wal Mart (where the guy and his buddies hang out) all at 9 pm, when they are usually there. She says she hasn't seen them. But tonight she said his "best friend" ran across the parking lot to say "hey" to her and they talked for 5 minutes. I questioned her and she said, "No! Why would I talk to him in public, when someone you know could see me?" or "If I wanted to hang out with them I would have dumped you"
Now.. based on what she said.. do I believe her or is there something up?
And I know how important trust is, just getting opinions on what ya think.
2007-05-23 16:51:23 · 13 answers · asked by aa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
from this alone i don't see any reason for you to be overly suspicious.
however in my experience if your gut feeling is that shes cheating she probably is.
2007-05-23 16:55:36 · answer #1 · answered by stephanie l 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Who can tell? But you are pushing her away and appearing insecure, and small with your suspicions. Bad strategy.
The best thing is to just act like you know there is no way any woman would ever cheat on someone like you. And then let it be known that you have a zero tolerance for cheating. Live you life without snooping, cheaters always do something obvious early on. At that point you dump her without looking back.
I've been cheated on and this is really the only way to play it. To go around being suspicious sucks and is no way to live. To give a cheater a second chance sucks, you can never trust them agian and cheaters cheat so you know it is definitly going to happen agian, just a matter of time.
A coward dies a thousand deaths.
2007-05-24 00:21:47 · answer #2 · answered by ninebadthings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) It's suspicious that she would see talking to them in public as a problem, unless you're really a ridiculously jealous b*stard, because there's nothing wrong with talking to someone and friends of the opposite sex do text people.
2) Why could she for whatever reason not date you and hang out with these people at the same time?
Something's definitely up. If she isn't cheating on you, she's socially retarded and you're only going to get yourself hurt staying with her. (by being cheated on or having seriously clingy gf with no friends besides you)
2007-05-23 23:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a life and get away from a girl that is running around on you with a guy that "hangs out" at Wal Mart...that guy sounds like a loser and you are sounding like one because you won't drop the girl.....keep this in mind: If she is giving it to you she is probably giving it to someone else as well.....by the way what did the text message say?
2007-05-23 23:56:59 · answer #4 · answered by mlp7 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should believe her. If you were her and a person didn't believe what you told them, why would you want to be with them. Its 2 years, so yes you should take her word for it. But if your suspiicious still, recruit a spy or even go there yourself and see. But if she is really lying to you, don't be mad at her, just walk away and try to talk to her about it later. Just don't jump into conclusions quickly. Let her explain her side of the story. You never know what really happened. Good Luck!
2007-05-23 23:59:56 · answer #5 · answered by Hiya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm leaning against the cheating side a little more that her not cheating. There is definitely something up with her threatining you about breaking up. Just get a little more suspicious, just not obvious. I hope this helps, Good Luck!
2007-05-23 23:58:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think something might be up. But your relationship is 2 years long! Ask yourself this... why would she want to throw it away now, have I done anything to her lately? If the answer is no then you might want to get some more info.
2007-05-23 23:59:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a scummy whore, if she goes to hang out at WalMart with other guys.
That has to be the most trashy thing a person could do.
Ditch her; don't waste any more time.
2007-05-23 23:58:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either need to trust her and get over it, or you decide you cannot trust her and you move on. You are going to drive yourself nuts if you continue to do this.
What chance do you two have at happiness if you always wonder what she is doing and she always get asked about it when she leaves to go somewhere alone?
Without trust, you have nothing. Trust her or let her go.
2007-05-23 23:57:31 · answer #9 · answered by Michael W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first i ask this. how does he have her number? and why would she like going to wal mart so much? does she keep accidently forgetting something? I watch her like a hawk if i was you. or just call cheaters.
2007-05-23 23:57:52 · answer #10 · answered by mark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the SAME predicament myself...I have to agree with the person above...It has NEVER failed me...If you have a gut feeling that something isnt right...IT ISN'T...Trust is everything in a relationship..If you dont have THAT you have nothing..
2007-05-23 23:58:31 · answer #11 · answered by newsweetness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋